{"id":11020,"date":"2021-07-04T07:22:59","date_gmt":"2021-07-04T07:22:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=11020"},"modified":"2021-07-04T07:23:03","modified_gmt":"2021-07-04T07:23:03","slug":"so-tay-thuong-dan-ong-sau-mu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=11020","title":{"rendered":"S\u1ed5 Tay Th\u01b0\u1eddng D\u00e2n: \u00d4ng S\u00e1u M\u00f9<\/strong>
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\u0110\u00f4i l\u00fac, t\u00f4i v\u1eabn nghe c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u01b0\u01a1ng (v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi) than th\u1edf: \u201cB\u1ecdn tr\u1ebb \u1edf Hoa K\u1ef3 kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y \u0111\u1ee9a bi\u1ebft t\u00f4n k\u00ednh ng\u01b0\u1eddi gi\u00e0.\u201d C\u00f3 v\u1ecb c\u00f2n chua ch\u00e1t th\u00eam: \u201c B\u00e2y gi\u1edd th\u00ec \u0111\u00e2u m\u00e0 ch\u1ea3 th\u1ebf, ch\u1ee9 n\u00e0o c\u00f3 ri\u00eang chi M\u1ef9.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u c\u00e0m r\u00e0m (th\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1eabn) hay khi\u1ebfn t\u00f4i nh\u1edb \u0111\u1ebfn \u00f4ng S\u00e1u M\u00f9, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0 d\u00e2n s\u1ed1ng h\u1ed3i cu\u1ed1i th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 tr\u01b0\u1edbc t\u1ea1i x\u00f3m ch\u00e0i L\u00e2m Quang Ky \u2013 R\u1ea1ch Gi\u00e1. \u00d4ng S\u00e1u, th\u1ef1c ra, c\u0169ng ch\u01b0a h\u1eb3n \u0111\u00e3 \u0111ui nh\u01b0ng v\u00ec \u0111\u00f4i m\u1eaft k\u00e8m nh\u00e8m v\u00e0 c\u00f3 c\u00e1i t\u1eadt hay nh\u00edu m\u00e0y n\u00ean b\u1ecb ch\u1ebft c\u00e1i t\u00ean (\u201cm\u00f9\u201d) c\u0169ng h\u01a1i oan ch\u00fat x\u00edu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau b\u1eefa tr\u01b0a kh\u1ec1 kh\u00e0 ch\u1eebng h\u01a1n x\u1ecb r\u01b0\u1ee3u, r\u1ed3i \u0111\u00e1nh m\u1ed9t gi\u1ea5c th\u1eadt \u0111\u1eaby \u0111\u00e0, chi\u1ec1u v\u1eeba nh\u1ea1t n\u1eafng l\u00e0 S\u00e1u M\u00f9 l\u1ea7n d\u00f2 ra \u0111\u1ee9ng h\u1ed3i l\u00e2u tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u00e0 s\u00e0n. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat nghi\u00eam trang nh\u1ea5t trong ng\u00e0y n\u00ean c\u1ea3 x\u00f3m \u0111\u1ec1u l\u1eb7ng im, ch\u0103m ch\u00fa theo d\u00f5i nh\u1ea5t c\u1eed nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a \u00f4ng. S\u00e1u M\u00f9 nghi\u00eang tai nghe ng\u00f3ng, tr\u1ea7m ng\u00e2m h\u00edt h\u00e0 gi\u00f3 bi\u1ec3n (ch\u1eadp l\u00e2u) r\u1ed3i m\u1edbi c\u00f9ng \u0111\u00e1m con l\u1ee5c t\u1ee5c xu\u1ed1ng ghe, sau khi \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edbng xu\u1ea5t h\u00e0nh. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 ch\u1edd c\u00f3 th\u1ebf l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng lo\u1ea1t n\u1ed5 m\u00e1y, h\u1edbn h\u1edf theo sau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u00e2n x\u00f3m ch\u00e0i L\u00e2m Quang Ky l\u00e0m ngh\u1ec1 t\u00f9y theo th\u1eddi v\u1ee5: l\u01b0\u1edbi k\u1ebfn, l\u01b0\u1edbi n\u0103m, c\u00e2u b\u1edd, c\u00e2u kh\u01a1i \u2026 nh\u01b0ng th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u00ec h\u1ecd hay \u0111i \u1ee7i x\u1ecbp (ho\u1eb7c c\u00f2n g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 \u1ee7i x\u1ec7p) v\u00ec bi\u1ec3n R\u1ea1ch Gi\u00e1 c\u1ea1n v\u00e0 l\u1eafm b\u00f9n n\u00ean t\u00f4m t\u00e9p v\u00f4 s\u1ed1. R\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e8n xu\u1ed1ng n\u01b0\u1edbc, gi\u1eefa \u0111\u00eam \u0111en, s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y m\u1eaft t\u00f4m \u0111\u1ecf l\u1eeb v\u00e0 d\u1ea7y \u0111\u1eb7c. Kh\u00f4ng m\u1eb7c qu\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f9i hay qu\u1ea7n s\u1ecbp m\u00e0 nh\u1ea9y \u0111\u1ea1i xu\u1ed1ng n\u01b0\u1edbc l\u00e0 d\u00e1m b\u1ecb ch\u00fang b\u00fang t\u1edbi \u2026 x\u01b0\u1edbc da cu lu\u00f4n!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i x\u1ecbp m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00eam, x\u00fac v\u00e0i c\u1ea7n x\u00e9 \u0111\u1ea7y vun (t\u00f4m ch\u00ec, t\u00f4m th\u1ebb, t\u00f4m ngh\u1ec7 \u2026) kh\u00f4ng kh\u00f3. Tuy th\u1ebf, bi\u1ec3n c\u1ea3 b\u1ed1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng\/t\u00e1m h\u01b0\u1edbng, ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft ch\u1ed7 m\u00e0 \u1ee7i th\u00ec m\u1edbi c\u00f3 \u0103n. Ch\u1edb ch\u1ea1y l\u1ea1ng qu\u1ea1ng tr\u1eadt h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u00ec k\u1ec3 nh\u01b0 l\u00e0 tr\u1edbt qu\u1edbt, ch\u1ec9 ki\u1ebfm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00f4i ba ch\u1ee5c k\u00fd l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng. L\u1ed7 ti\u1ec1n d\u1ea7u l\u00e0 c\u00e1i ch\u1eafc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft nh\u1edd v\u00e0o th\u00ednh gi\u00e1c hay kh\u1ee9u gi\u00e1c (ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3 hai) m\u00e0 \u00f4ng S\u00e1u \u201cc\u1ea3m\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i v\u00e0 n\u01a1i qu\u1ea7n t\u1ee5 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4m c\u00e1. Kinh nghi\u1ec7m qu\u00ed gi\u00e1 n\u00e0y gi\u00fap cho c\u1ea3 x\u00f3m \u0103n n\u00ean l\u00e0m ra n\u00ean \u00f4ng r\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1ecb n\u1ec3 v\u00e0 k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng, d\u00f9 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi khuy\u1ebft t\u1eadt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00e1u M\u00f9 l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh r\u01a1i r\u1edbt, hi\u1ebfm hoi c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t gi\u00e0 l\u00e0ng thu\u1ed9c Th\u1eddi Trung C\u1ed5. C\u00e1i th\u1eddi m\u00e0 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a nh\u00e2n lo\u1ea1i ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u01b0u l\u1ea1i cho h\u1eadu th\u1ebf qua truy\u1ec1n kh\u1ea9u, ho\u1eb7c b\u1eb1ng kinh nghi\u1ec7m s\u1ed1ng th\u1ef1c th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00eam tr\u01b0\u1eddng Trung C\u1ed5 \u0111\u00e3 qua. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 S\u00e1u M\u00f9 nay ch\u1ea3 c\u00f2n vai tr\u00f2 g\u00ec n\u1eefa. V\u1edbi c\u00e1i smartphone<\/em>, ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfp c\u1eadn tin t\u1ee9c kh\u00ed t\u01b0\u1ee3ng v\u00e0 d\u1ef1 b\u00e1o th\u1eddi ti\u1ebft t\u1eeb b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 n\u01a1i \u0111\u00e2u, v\u00e0o b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 l\u00fac n\u00e0o. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 ng\u00e0nh ngh\u1ec1 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi online<\/em>, v\u00e0 g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 m\u1ecdi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 l\u1eddi gi\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1p qua google<\/em> h\u1ebft tr\u1ecdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u1ede Th\u1eddi \u0110\u1ea1i Th\u00f4ng Tin, ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn, nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng d\u00e2n l\u00e3o h\u1ea1ng \u0111\u1ec1u v\u00f4 d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh g\u00e1nh n\u1eb7ng cho x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00ean h\u1ecd m\u1ea5t \u0111i s\u1ef1 t\u00f4n k\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u1ebd th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh \u2013 n\u1ebfu ch\u01b0a mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n t\u1ea5t nhi\u00ean. T\u00f4i r\u1ea5t bi\u1ebft th\u00e2n bi\u1ebft ph\u1eadn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh (m\u1ed9t anh gi\u00e0 n\u00e1t r\u01b0\u1ee3u & ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u00f4 t\u00edch s\u1ef1) n\u00ean ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd d\u00e1m l\u1edbn ti\u1ebfng than th\u00e2n, hay than van g\u00ec r\u00e1o.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u1ea9m b\u1ea9m ho\u1eb7c l\u1ea7u b\u1ea7u (nho nh\u1ecf, l\u00ed nh\u00ed) c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng lu\u00f4n. Ch\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng th\u1ebf t\u00f4i c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh bi\u1ebft \u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 l\u1edbp h\u1eadu sinh v\u00ec nh\u1edd h\u1ecd n\u00ean m\u1edbi c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi th\u00eam nhi\u1ec1u \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u1edbi m\u1ebb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Xin \u0111an c\u1eed \u0111\u00f4i ba tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u00e0y 4 th\u00e1ng 6 v\u1eeba qua, FB Teresa Tr\u1ea7n Ki\u1ec1u Ng\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eafc \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00e1 l\u1ea1 (Imposter Syndrome \u2013 H\u1ed9i Ch\u1ee9ng Gi\u1ea3 M\u1ea1o) kh\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ea5y trong nh\u1eefng c\u1ed9ng \u0111\u1ed3ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t: \u201cT\u1ef1 v\u1ea5n, ho\u00e0i nghi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n x\u1ea5u hay ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. N\u00f3 gi\u00fap cho ch\u00fang ta khi\u00eam t\u1ed1n, bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ef1 m\u00ea, t\u1ef1 ki\u00eau, t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea1i. Ngo\u00e0i kia c\u00f2n nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00e0i gi\u1ecfi h\u01a1n m\u00ecnh r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. Th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t bi\u1ec3n h\u1ecdc v\u00f4 b\u1edd. B\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 ch\u00ednh tr\u1ef1c v\u00e0 khi\u00eam cung, d\u00f9 nh\u1ecf nhoi \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2u th\u00ec m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong ch\u00fang ta v\u1eabn \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1eefu \u00edch cho vi\u1ec7c chung.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u00ean d\u01b0\u1edbi status<\/em> th\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1eabn l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n h\u1ed3i c\u1ee7a FB Viet Beat, \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1eadp \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00e1c, c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng quan t\u00e2m: \u201cImposter syndrome d\u00e0nh cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi\u00eam cung, hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh nh\u01b0ng r\u1ea5t ti\u1ebfc b\u00e2y gi\u1edd m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t l\u1ea1i b\u1ecb h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng ngh\u1ecbch, hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng Dunning-Kruger, qu\u00e1 t\u1ef1 tin v\u00e0 cao ng\u1ea1o v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u (kh\u00f4ng) bi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh…\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f4i c\u0169ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ecdc qua loa v\u1ec1 hi\u1ec7u \u1ee9ng Dunning-Kruger (Unskilled and unaware of it: how difficulties in recognizing one’s own incompetence lead to inflated self-assessments<\/em>) c\u1ee7a hai nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m \u00fd h\u1ecdc J. Kruger v\u00e0 D. David nh\u01b0ng l\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u th\u00eam v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m m\u1ea5y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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C\u1ee9 t\u01b0\u1edfng r\u1eb1ng gi\u1eef th\u1ec3 di\u1ec7n (s\u1ee3 m\u1ea5t m\u1eb7t \u2013 save face<\/em>) l\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd chung c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e1m \u0111\u00f4ng. Trong giao ti\u1ebfp h\u1eb1ng ng\u00e0y, thi\u00ean h\u1ea1 c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u1ef1 n\u00e2ng (tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n, l\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1ed5ng, gia c\u1ea3nh, gia th\u1ebf, t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n \u2026) m\u00ecnh cao h\u01a1n l\u00ean ch\u00fat x\u00edu l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00e1 b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng ch\u1ea3 g\u00e2y thi\u1ec7t h\u1ea1i hay phi\u1ec1n ph\u1ee9c g\u00ec cho b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ai c\u1ea3. N\u1ed5<\/em> ch\u01a1i (cho \u0111\u00e3 mi\u1ec7ng) ch\u00fat x\u00edu th\u00f4i m\u00e0.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, sau khi xem l\u1ea1i c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1eb7t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a Tr\u1ea7n Ki\u1ec1u Ng\u1ecdc v\u00e0 Viet Beat v\u1ec1 hai hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd t\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea3n (th\u01b0\u1ee3ng d\u1eabn) th\u00ec nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i c\u00f3 h\u01a1i \u0111\u1ed5i kh\u00e1c. M\u1ed9t c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n h\u1ee3m m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 cao, t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea1i, ba hoa, kho\u00e1c l\u00e1c, n\u00f3i th\u00e1nh, n\u00f3i t\u01b0\u1edbng \u2026  th\u01b0\u1eddng  ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m cho m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng g\u1ea7n kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch tr\u00e1nh xa th\u00f4i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f2n m\u1ed9t t\u1eadp th\u1ec3 m\u1eafc ch\u1ee9ng h\u1ee3m h\u0129nh, huy\u00eanh hoang, ng\u1ea1o m\u1ea1n (nh\u01b0 thi\u00ean h\u1ea1 hay n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ec7nh ki\u00eau ng\u1ea1o c\u1ed9ng s\u1ea3n, ch\u1ea3 h\u1ea1n) m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i \u0111ang n\u1eafm vai tr\u00f2 \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u00e0nh c\u1ea3 m\u1ed9t qu\u1ed1c gia th\u00ec e l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e3y th\u1eed nghe d\u0103m b\u1ea9y c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a gi\u1edbi l\u00e3nh \u0111\u1ea1o Vi\u1ec7t Nam \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y s\u1ef1 ng\u00f4ng cu\u1ed3ng v\u00e0 \u0111i\u00ean lo\u1ea1n c\u1ee7a \u0111\u00e1m ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y :<\/p>\n\n\n\n