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Tho\u1eaft sinh ra th\u00ec \u0111\u00e0 kh\u00f3c cho\u00e9,<\/em>
Tr\u1ea7n c\u00f3 vui, sao ch\u1eb3ng c\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00ec?<\/em>
Khi h\u1ec9 n\u1ed9, khi ai l\u1ea1c, khi \u00e1i \u1ed1, l\u00fac s\u1ea7u bi,<\/em>
Ch\u1ee9a chi l\u1eafm m\u1ed9t b\u1ea7u nh\u00e2n d\u1ee5c!<\/em>[1]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Uy Vi\u1ec5n T\u01b0\u1edbng C\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 lu\u1eadn c\u1ea3nh nh\u00e0n d\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn v\u1eeba tri\u1ebft l\u00fd, v\u1eeba th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1ec1 s\u1ed1 ki\u1ebfp nh\u00e2n sinh. M\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f3c khi l\u1ecdt l\u00f2ng m\u1eb9. Kh\u00f3c cho s\u1ed1 ph\u1eadn \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh. Kh\u00f3c cho nh\u1eefng v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3, lao \u0111ao, nghi\u1ec7t ng\u00e3, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f3c cho nh\u1eefng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, vui m\u1eebng. Nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft v\u00ec vui m\u1eebng, sung s\u01b0\u1edbng, v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng nhi\u1ec1u, m\u00e0 ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng gi\u1ecdt n\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft c\u1ee7a b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh. V\u00ec kh\u1ed5 l\u1ee5y n\u00ean nh\u00e0 Ph\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 g\u1ecdi \u0111\u1eddi l\u00e0 \u201cb\u1ec3 kh\u1ed5\u201d, l\u00e0 ch\u1ed1n \u201ctr\u1ea7m lu\u00e2n\u201d. Ngay trong c\u00e1i nh\u00e0n c\u1ee7a Nguy\u1ec5n C\u00f4ng Tr\u1ee9 c\u0169ng v\u1eabn ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n c\u00e1i kh\u1ed5: \u201cCh\u1ee9a chi l\u1eafm m\u1ed9t b\u1ea7u nh\u00e2n d\u1ee5c!\u201d [2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00fang v\u1eady, d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ra n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1, m\u00ea m\u1ea9n v\u00e0 say \u0111\u1eafm. N\u00f3 l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n kh\u01a1i l\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u01b0\u1edbc mu\u1ed1n tham, s\u00e2n, si, \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 t\u1ea1o cho m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eafng cay m\u00e0 c\u00f2n g\u00e2y ra cho nhau mu\u00f4n v\u00e0n kh\u1ed5 s\u1ea7u, bi l\u1ee5y! Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u1edf m\u1ed9t g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, \u0111\u1eddi v\u1eabn \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ed1ng, v\u1eabn c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, th\u1ebf n\u00ean ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc c\u00e1ch\u201cQu\u1eb3ng g\u00e1nh lo \u0111i v\u00e0 vui s\u1ed1ng.\u201d (Dale Carnegie).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 l\u1ebd v\u00ec ng\u1ee5p l\u1eb7n trong \u201cb\u1ec3 kh\u1ed5\u201d, n\u00ean th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t an, lo l\u1eafng, bu\u1ed3n b\u1ef1c, hay th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng. C\u0169ng t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta loay hoay t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 tho\u00e1t kh\u1ed5, tho\u00e1t bu\u1ed3n, tho\u00e1t s\u1ea7u \u0111au. Ch\u00fang ta m\u1ea5t \u0103n, m\u1ea5t ng\u1ee7, lo l\u1eafng khi m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ch\u01b0a \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft, m\u00e0 khi \u0111\u00e3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft xong, ch\u00fang ta l\u1ea1i ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c lo l\u1eafng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec n\u1eefa s\u1ebd x\u1ea9y ra trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng ngh\u1ecbch c\u1ea3nh, nh\u1eefng th\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1 v\u00e0 \u0111au kh\u1ed5 ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? Nguy\u1ec1n r\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, tr\u1ed1n ch\u1ea1y, cam ch\u1ecbu, ho\u1eb7c can \u0111\u1ea3m tr\u1ef1c di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh \u1ea5y? Theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd, n\u1ebfu \u201cmi\u1ec5n c\u01b0\u1ee1ng\u201d ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, ch\u00fang s\u1ebd ch\u1ec9 \u0111em l\u1ea1i c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n v\u1ec1 tinh th\u1ea7n c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c: th\u00e2n th\u1ec3 b\u1ea1c nh\u01b0\u1ee3c, m\u1ec7t m\u1ecfi, t\u00e2m tr\u00ed kh\u00f3 t\u1eadp trung, \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c tr\u1ed1ng r\u1ed7ng ho\u1eb7c r\u1ed1i lo\u1ea1n!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TR\u1ef0C DI\u1ec6N V\u1edaI \u0110AU KH\u1ed4<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ai c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i \u0111au kh\u1ed5. Nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n ch\u1ee7 quan c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u00e1ch quan, n\u1ed9i t\u1ea1i c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u1ea1i, th\u1ec3 l\u00fd c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Ho\u1eb7c ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u1ea5y cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u00f2n tr\u1ebb th\u00ec kh\u1ed5 v\u00ec nh\u00e0 ngh\u00e8o, b\u1ecb h\u00e0nh h\u1ea1, l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng, m\u1ed3 c\u00f4i, ho\u1eb7c cha m\u1eb9 ly d\u1ecb. Khi l\u1edbn l\u00ean th\u00ec kh\u1ed5 v\u00ec v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, v\u00f4 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m. Kh\u1ed5 v\u00ec l\u00e0m \u0103n thua l\u1ed7, b\u1ecb b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 l\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1ea1t. L\u00fac v\u1ec1 gi\u00e0 th\u00ec bu\u1ed3n kh\u1ed5 v\u00ec c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n, v\u00ec b\u1ecb con c\u00e1i h\u1ea5t h\u1ee7i, xa tr\u00e1nh, b\u1ec7nh t\u1eadt. \u0110\u1ec3 gi\u00fap tr\u1ef1c di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi, n\u0103m 1969, Elisabeth K\u00fcbler-Ross, m\u1ed9t b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ti\u00ean phong kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u01b0\u1ee1ng c\u1eeda s\u1ef1 ch\u1ebft. Qua t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m On Death and Dying, b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft gi\u00fap \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi \u0111au kh\u1ed5, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p DABDA [3], bao g\u1ed3m 5 cung b\u1eadc:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn (Denial): <\/strong>Ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean khi g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng n\u1ed7i bu\u1ed3n hay \u0111au kh\u1ed5, th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i, l\u00e0 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. Th\u00ed d\u1ee5, khi nghe tin ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh qua \u0111\u1eddi, ho\u1eb7c nghe n\u00f3i ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecnh, ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i, th\u00ec t\u00ecm m\u1ecdi c\u00e1ch kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt n\u00e0y. Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 v\u1eady. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00fang. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng tin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. B\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i (Anger): <\/strong>Khi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadtl\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u00e0 cay \u0111\u1eafng. Cha t\u00f4i, m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i, anh ch\u1ecb em t\u00f4i ch\u1ebft th\u1eadt sao? Ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i c\u1eafm s\u1eebng t\u00f4i th\u1eadt sao? Cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea5t c\u00f4ng v\u1edbi t\u00f4i qu\u00e1. T\u00f4i ch\u00e1n gh\u00e9t t\u00ecnh y\u00eau. T\u00f4i nguy\u1ec1n r\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 ch\u1ebft! T\u00f4i h\u1eadn \u0111\u1eddi!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. M\u1eb7c c\u1ea3 (Bargaining): <\/strong>Ti\u1ebfp theo l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3. T\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e1nh l\u1eeba m\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh an \u1ee7i m\u00ecnh. \u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 x\u1ea3y ra ch\u1eafc c\u00f3 l\u00fd do. T\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi. T\u1ed1t h\u01a1n t\u00f4i n\u00ean chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn. Cha t\u00f4i, m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i, anh ch\u1ecb em t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft! T\u00f4i b\u1ecb c\u1eafm s\u1eebng, b\u1ecb ph\u1ea3n b\u1ed9i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e0nh ch\u1ecbu v\u1eady!  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m, ch\u00e1n n\u1ea3n (Depression):<\/strong> T\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c tr\u00ean l\u00e0 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m, bu\u1ed3n n\u1ea3n, th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng, ho\u1eb7c b\u00ed t\u1eafc. C\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 t\u00ecm c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ed1n tho\u00e1t, nh\u01b0ng ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f4ng nh\u00ecn \u0111\u1eddi b\u1eb1ng c\u1eb7p m\u1eaft bi quan, nh\u00ecn t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng \u00e1nh m\u1eaft nghi ng\u1edd, o\u00e1n h\u1eadn. \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn (Acceptance): <\/strong>Sau c\u00f9ng,th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1eabn l\u00e0 th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf. Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1eb1ng an khi ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt, khi \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt b\u1eb1ng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft c\u1ee7a l\u00fd tr\u00ed. Ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebfn c\u1ed1 v\u1eeba x\u1ea3y \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a ngh\u1ecb l\u1ef1c, v\u00e0 nh\u1eadn th\u1ee9c tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u01af\u01a0NG \u0110\u1ea6U V\u1edaI LO \u00c2U [4]<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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\u0110au kh\u1ed5 \u0111em \u0111\u1ebfn cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n, s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i \u0111\u00f4i khi kh\u00f4ng l\u1ed1i tho\u00e1t. Tuy nhi\u00ean m\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed9 lo l\u1eafng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ai c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng ai, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3i chung, n\u00f3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t \u0103n, m\u1ea5t ng\u1ee7 v\u00e0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ecdi l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c trong sinh ho\u1ea1t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng v\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn t\u00edch c\u1ef1c, lo \u00e2u mang gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf v\u1eeba c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u1eadt l\u00fd, v\u1eeba c\u00f3 t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch t\u00e2m l\u00fd. N\u00f3 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u00fang ta r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00f4ng \u1ed5n m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t. Theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0 tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u, sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 5 b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, bu\u1ed3n b\u1ef1c, ho\u1eb7c th\u1ea5t v\u1ecdng:     <\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng lo \u00e2u (Challenge anxious thoughts)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kinh nghi\u1ec7m cho th\u1ea5y, \u0111\u1ee9ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1eefng lo \u00e2u ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u1ecb t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 v\u00f4 l\u00fd. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, ph\u1ea3i ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra, v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng. H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y s\u1ebd tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t t\u1eadp qu\u00e1n \u1ee9ng x\u1eed trong c\u00e1c t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7 nh\u1ea5t, thay v\u00ec ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 ch\u1ed1ng l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng bi quan, lo l\u1eafng l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u00fang, th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c ch\u00fang khi ch\u00fang xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n trong \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y s\u1ebd ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 l\u1ed1i suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. H\u00e3y t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh: \u0110\u00e2y c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i v\u00f4 c\u0103n c\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng? N\u1ebfu l\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang th\u00ec chuy\u1ec7n g\u00ec s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra sau \u0111\u00f3? Bi\u1ebft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, ch\u00fang ta s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 tin khi gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft.       <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.Nh\u1eadn bi\u1ebft nh\u1eefng l\u1ed1i suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c (Recognize your negative thinking patterns\u00a0)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn ra ch\u00fang. Ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 sai hay \u0111\u00fang, \u0111en hay tr\u1eafng, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 hay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3. \u0110\u00f4i khi ch\u00fang xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng b\u00f3ng \u0111en ph\u1ee7 tr\u00ean b\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. Trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p \u1ea5y, lo \u00e2u s\u1ebd c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3n b\u1edbt nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u00edch c\u1ef1c. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e3y c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf khi c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u x\u1ea5u xa nh\u1ea5t \u0111ang s\u1eafp x\u1ea3y ra. Ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c v\u1edbi lo \u00e2u, v\u00e0 n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh r\u1eb1ng t\u00f4i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qua m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng. B\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec khi\u1ebfn ph\u1ea3i lo l\u1eafng, n\u1ebfu n\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e1nh gi\u00e1, ph\u00e2n t\u00edch, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng qu\u00e1 bi quan \u0111\u1eb7t n\u1eb7ng v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng \u0111em l\u1ea1i c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i chi\u1ebfn th\u1eafng n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i \u0111\u00f3. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm ra nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n \u0111ang l\u00e0m \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c khi c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u1ea5t l\u1ee3i ho\u1eb7c phi\u1ec1n n\u00e3o x\u1ea3y ra. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. T\u1eadp c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn t\u00edch c\u1ef1c (Cultivate an optimistic outlook) <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Lo \u00e2u th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang ta ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng nh\u1ecf nhoi. Suy ngh\u0129 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c c\u0169ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng gi\u1ed1ng v\u1eady. \u0110\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i di\u1ec5n ti\u1ebfn v\u1ec1 suy ngh\u0129 n\u00e0y, c\u1ea7n ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u1ecf m\u1ecdn \u0111\u00f3, nh\u1eefng th\u1eddi kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t g\u00e2y ra s\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng v\u00e0 r\u00fat ra nh\u1eefng g\u00ec t\u1ed1t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn m\u1ed9t t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng tr\u00ean quan \u0111i\u1ec3m ri\u00eang m\u00ecnh, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eadn ra n\u00f3 trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh t\u1ed5ng th\u1ec3 c\u1ee7a cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi. S\u1ef1 c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng n\u00e0y, ho\u1eb7c s\u1ef1 lo l\u1eafng kia kh\u00f4ng ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n v\u00ec cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi b\u1ea1n l\u1edbn h\u01a1n b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1ecf nhoi m\u00e0 n\u00f3 s\u1ebd x\u1ea3y ra. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y gi\u00fap ho\u1eb7ch \u0111\u1ecbnh t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n nh\u1eefng g\u00ec c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ef1c di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh hu\u1ed1ng x\u1ea5u tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft, bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ea3m x\u00fac v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 m\u00e0 m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u00f3 c\u0169ng cho ph\u00e9p nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf \u0111\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng bi\u1ebfn th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 thay \u0111\u1ed5i, thay v\u00ec n\u00e9m ch\u00fang ta v\u00e0o b\u1ebf t\u1eafc, v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng, v\u00e0 q\u1ee5y ng\u00e3.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. D\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gi\u1edd cho b\u1ea1n (Take time for yourself) <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e3o b\u1ed9 c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc th\u01b0 d\u00e3n. Khi th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng lo \u00e2u, ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed7 t\u0129nh l\u1eb7ng \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00fap m\u00ecnh tr\u1ed1n tho\u00e1t m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00e2m l\u00fd. \u0110\u1ecdc s\u00e1ch, \u0111i b\u1ed9, yoga, suy ni\u1ec7m (thi\u1ec1n) t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 cho ph\u00e9p t\u00e2m tr\u00ed nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat rong ch\u01a1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i lo l\u1eafng. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u01b0 d\u00e3n v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i tr\u00ed l\u00e0 ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ea1t m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch cho m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u00e0 qu\u00e2n b\u00ecnh. Cu\u1ed9c ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea7n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t hay v\u00e0i tu\u1ea7n m\u1ed7i n\u0103m. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi l\u1ee3i \u00edch \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 t\u1eeb m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n tinh th\u1ea7n, ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 n\u00f3 trong l\u1ecbch sinh ho\u1ea1t h\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 h\u00e0ng tu\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y n\u00ean c\u00f3 \u00edt ph\u00fat ri\u00eang t\u01b0 cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 m\u1ed7i tu\u1ea7n c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i d\u00e0nh \u00edt ph\u00fat nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u1ec3 th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n v\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i cho t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c t\u00e2m linh tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u: \u201cH\u00e3y t\u00ecm n\u01a1i thanh v\u1eafng m\u00e0 ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat\u201d (Mark 6:31)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ngh\u1ec9 ng\u01a1i hay th\u01b0 d\u00e3n tinh th\u1ea7n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec xa x\u1ec9 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1eadn b\u1ecbu v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng l\u1ecbch tr\u00ecnh sinh ho\u1ea1t d\u1ea7y \u0111\u1eb7c. Tuy nhi\u00ean, d\u00f9 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi kh\u1eafc th\u01b0 gi\u00e3n \u0111\u1ec3 nghe m\u1ed9t b\u1ea3n nh\u1ea1c, t\u1eadp yoga, ng\u1ed3i thi\u1ec1n, suy ni\u1ec7m c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c ra kh\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 b\u1eadn r\u1ed9n. N\u00f3 s\u1ebd ch\u1eb7n \u0111\u1ee9ng nh\u1eefng lo l\u1eafng kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft \u0111\u1ec3 th\u0103ng hoa gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Gi\u1ea3m thi\u1ec3u c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1ch t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ea7u v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng lo \u00e2u, bu\u1ed3n phi\u1ec1n khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 t\u00e2m l\u00fd, b\u00e1c s\u1ef9 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n, ho\u1eb7c u\u1ed1ng thu\u1ed1c t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t ch\u00fang. Sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 B\u1ea3ng ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 gi\u00fap ki\u1ec3m \u0111i\u1ec3m t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 m\u1ed7i khi g\u1eb7p lo \u00e2u ho\u1eb7c th\u1eed th\u00e1ch:  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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