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Theo kinh nghi\u1ec7m ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u0103n c\u1ee9 v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p th\u01b0\u1eddng x\u1ea3y ra chung quanh cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng, ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f4ng c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, b\u1ea5t trung trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n bao gi\u1edd ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u0169ng lu\u00f4n hay n\u00f3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u: \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n y\u00eau anh\/em n\u1eefa\u201d. Ho\u1eb7c \u201cTr\u00e1i tim t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft r\u1ed3i!\u201d  Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n, tr\u00e1i tim \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft th\u00ec sao? C\u00f2n c\u00f3 l\u00fd do n\u00e0o kh\u00e1c \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i th\u00edch cho c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft \u1ea5y, cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau \u0111\u00e3 c\u1ea1n ki\u1ec7t \u1ea5y kh\u00f4ng? Hay \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi bi\u1ec7n h\u1ed9 mang t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 b\u00e0o ch\u1eefa? C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi th\u00ec h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 ai c\u0169ng bi\u1ebft.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u nh\u1eb1m tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi: \u201cT\u1ea1i sao ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1?\u201d (Why cheating is a problem?) T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham d\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ec1u nh\u00ecn nh\u1eadn r\u1eb1ng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, l\u00e0m hao m\u00f2n ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 sau n\u00e0y, g\u00e2y \u0111au kh\u1ed5 cho con c\u00e1i, ngay c\u1ea3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m, hoang mang, b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, ho\u1eb7c h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng h\u1eadu ch\u1ea5n c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng (post-traumatic stress disorder – PTSD). T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m sai l\u1ea7m, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u00f3 c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 39 \u0111\u1ebfn 52% \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u1ebf n\u00e0o l\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u1edf m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 trong \u0111\u1eddi.  [1]<\/p>\n\n\n

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M\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c, m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ly d\u1ecb l\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00e1t xu\u1ea5t trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ea7u trong 10 l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ly d\u1ecb, chi\u1ebfm 20-40% c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1ed5 b\u1ec3 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n kh\u00e1c bao g\u1ed3m:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh (Trouble with finances).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng (Lack of communication).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Lu\u00f4n c\u00e3i v\u00e3 (Constant arguing).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-L\u00ean c\u00e2n (Weight gain).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Nh\u1eefng k\u1ef3 v\u1ecdng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf (Unrealistic expectations).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Thi\u1ebfu t\u00ecnh th\u00e2n m\u1eadt (Lack of intimacy).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng (Lack of equality).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n thi\u1ebfu chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb (Not being prepared for marriage).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u00e3i t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 th\u1ec3 l\u00fd (Physical and emotional abuse). [2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2u l\u00e0 l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSay n\u1eafng\u201d (falling out of love) l\u00e0 l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean trong 8 l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. M\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i khi (kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n) nhu c\u1ea7u sinh l\u00fd kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n c\u0169ng l\u00e0 l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. Tr\u00ean \u00be t\u1ee9c 77% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham d\u1ef1 kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u cho bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3i kh\u00e1t, thi\u1ebfu th\u1ed1n t\u00ecnh y\u00eau t\u1eeb ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu, ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00e1p tr\u1ea3 nhi\u1ec7t t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u00e0i cu\u1ed9c l\u00e0 l\u00fd do ch\u00ednh v\u00e0 m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. Th\u00eam v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u201c\u0103n ch\u01a1i ngon h\u01a1n \u0103n th\u1eadt\u201d v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat v\u00e0 l\u00fan s\u00e2u v\u00e0o con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng sai tr\u00e1i n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh v\u00ec d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng? Kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y ai ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 kho\u1ea3ng 1\/3 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham d\u1ef1 cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u, t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1edbi 32% \u0111\u00e3 x\u00e1c nh\u1eadn l\u00fd do ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 v\u00ec d\u1ee5c v\u1ecdng. C\u00f3 th\u1ec3 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd mu\u1ed1n th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m \u201cc\u1ee7a l\u1ea1\u201d, b\u1ecb th\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c b\u1edfi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, ho\u1eb7c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c trao \u0111\u1ed5i t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y l\u1ea1, h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u00e0 thu h\u00fat. Ri\u00eang v\u1ec1 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y, ph\u00e1i nam tr\u1ed5i v\u01b0\u1ee3t h\u01a1n ph\u00e1i n\u1eef (Selterman et al., 2019) [3]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o s\u00e1t v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ly d\u1ecb v\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh v\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00eau \u1edf tr\u00ean, ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ecbnh ly d\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed5 l\u1ed7i cho nhau v\u1ec1 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng m\u00e0 \u0111a s\u1ed1 th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u1ea5u ho\u1eb7c ng\u1ea1i ng\u00f9ng kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 ph\u00e1i nam, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng ch\u0103n g\u1ed1i. \u0110\u1ec3 che d\u1ea5u, ho\u1eb7c d\u1ed1i m\u00ecnh, h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 b\u1eb1ng c\u00e2u: \u201cT\u00f4i h\u1ebft y\u00eau r\u1ed3i\u201d, ho\u1eb7c \u201ct\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 n\u1eefa. Tim t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft!\u201d N\u1ebfu trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ec3 g\u1eafn b\u00f3 v\u00e0 li\u00ean k\u1ebft hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n n\u1eefa, tr\u00e1i tim h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft, \u0111\u00e3 ng\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eadp m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00e2m l\u00fd, th\u00ec m\u1ed1i t\u00ecnh \u1ea5y, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u1ea5y qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 \u0111ang g\u1eb7p th\u1eed th\u00e1ch. Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ai \u0111\u00e3 t\u1eebng c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u1ec1 h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn ho\u1eb7c h\u00e0n g\u1eafn nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec1u bi\u1ebft r\u1ea5t r\u00f5, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi n\u00f3i \u1ea5y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ng\u1ee5y bi\u1ec7n nh\u1eb1m che d\u1ea5u m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. S\u1ef1 th\u1eadt \u1ea5y l\u00e0 n\u1ebfu tr\u00e1i tim ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y ch\u1ebft v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng th\u00ec l\u1ea1i \u0111ang \u0111\u1eadp m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh b\u00f3ng kh\u00e1c. N\u00f3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch kh\u00e1c, h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 v\u00e0 \u0111ang ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh: ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh trong t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng, ho\u1eb7c ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e0 c\u0169ng m\u1ed9t kinh nghi\u1ec7m r\u1ea5t th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf n\u1eefa l\u00e0, n\u1ebfu ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 d\u00ednh v\u00e0o ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh th\u00ec tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft h\u1ecd l\u00fac b\u1ea5y gi\u1edd ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng gh\u00e9t, \u0111\u00e1ng khinh, \u0111\u00e1ng coi th\u01b0\u1eddng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 l\u00e0m c\u00e1i g\u00ec t\u1ed1t m\u1ea5y \u0111i n\u1eefa c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c t\u1ea7m th\u01b0\u1eddng, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng quan t\u00e2m. Tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p sau \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00ed d\u1ee5:<\/p>\n\n\n

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M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 t\u00e2m s\u1ef1 v\u00e0 khoe v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n: \u201cM\u00ecnh \u0111ang g\u1eb7p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 r\u1ea5t t\u00e2m l\u00fd, t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb, hi\u1ec3u, v\u00e0 \u0111em l\u1ea1i cho m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. M\u00ecnh c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0 con c\u00e1 trong v\u0169ng b\u00f9n, trong chi\u1ebfc ao t\u00f9 m\u00e0 nay \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u01a1i l\u01b0\u1ee3n, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1eaby v\u00f9ng gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea1i d\u01b0\u01a1ng bao la trong m\u00e1t.\u201d Ch\u00ednh trong l\u00fac \u0111ang b\u01a1i l\u01b0\u1ee3n gi\u1eefa \u0111\u1ea1i d\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh: \u201cTim t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft!\u201d V\u00e0 c\u00e1i k\u1ebft l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh tan v\u1ee1!!! Nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00e1c, con ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac \u1ea5y, sau m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian v\u00f9ng v\u1eaby, gi\u1edd \u0111\u00e2y l\u1ea1i \u0111ang t\u1ef1 thu m\u00ecnh trong c\u00e1i \u1ed1c \u0111\u1ea3o ri\u00eang t\u01b0 v\u00e0 c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 \u00edt ai bi\u1ebft ho\u1eb7c quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng khi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh. C\u0103n b\u1ea3n h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng n\u00e0y \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 ham c\u1ee7a l\u1ea1, ham vui, mu\u1ed1n ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ecf kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng chinh ph\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 do b\u1ecb \u0111\u00f3i kh\u00e1t t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c \u1edf nh\u00e0. C\u00e1i kh\u00f3 \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd c\u00f3 hi\u1ec3u ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9 cho h\u1ecd hay kh\u00f4ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh th\u00ec h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5y ai quay v\u1ec1 n\u1ed5i. L\u00fd do ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef h\u1ea7u h\u1ebft l\u00e0 do nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u1ef1c th\u00f4i th\u00fac t\u1eeb b\u00ean trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 h\u1ecd l\u00e0 n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u0169 phu, ho\u1eb7c l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c. \u0110i\u1ec3m n\u1ed5i v\u01b0\u1ee3t v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 ch\u1ec9 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c khi \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau ho\u1eb7c ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111ang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c y\u00eau. C\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 trong nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat \u1ea5y c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng d\u00e2ng hi\u1ebfn. Th\u00eam v\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 con trong th\u1eddi gian ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh th\u00ec \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 quan v\u1ec1 h\u1ea7u nh\u01b0 v\u00f4 v\u1ecdng. Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, n\u1ebfu vi\u1ec7c quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng g\u1eb7p s\u1ef1 kh\u00f4ng tha th\u1ee9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, d\u00f9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng   c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng, d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng tha th\u1ee9, ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, d\u00f9 l\u00e0 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 l\u00fd do g\u00ec \u0111i n\u1eefa, khi n\u00f3i c\u00e2u: \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n y\u00eau anh\/em n\u1eefa\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201ctim t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ebft\u201d trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i ng\u1ee5y bi\u1ec7n ho\u1eb7c mang t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch t\u1ef1 b\u00e0o ch\u1eefa. Tr\u00e1i tim c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 \u201cch\u1ebft\u201d \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3, v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng, nh\u01b0ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1ea1i \u201cs\u1ed1ng\u201d r\u1ea5t m\u00e3nh li\u1ec7t, \u0111\u1eadp nh\u1eefng nh\u1ecbp \u0111\u1eadp cu\u1ed3ng lo\u1ea1n, m\u1ed7i khi g\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3. Do \u0111\u00f3, trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, ch\u00fang ta th\u1ec9nh tho\u1ea3ng c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i d\u00e0nh \u00edt ph\u00fat \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea9n \u0111o\u00e1n l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m l\u00fd, h\u1ea7u k\u1ecbp th\u1eddi nh\u1eadn ra nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn cho tr\u00e1i tim m\u00ecnh ch\u1ebft, ho\u1eb7c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ecb v\u1ee5t t\u1eaft!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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