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B\u1ea1n t\u00f4i g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1, quen nhau, h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 v\u00e0 c\u01b0\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i qua nh\u1eefng \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean internet. Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 trao l\u1eddi th\u1ec1 \u01b0\u1edbc, \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c l\u1ec5 c\u01b0\u1edbi \u1edf nh\u00e0 th\u1edd, v\u00e0 ti\u1ec7c c\u01b0\u1edbi long tr\u1ecdng t\u1ea1i nh\u00e0 h\u00e0ng. Ban \u0111\u1ea7u h\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 v\u1edbi nhau hai \u0111\u1ee9a con, nh\u01b0ng sau \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea1i ly d\u1ecb v\u1edbi l\u00fd do c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft (the irresponsibility differences<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u1ee9 hai c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i v\u1ec1 th\u0103m qu\u00ea h\u01b0\u01a1ng. Trong m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n \u0111i u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0 ph\u00ea v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, anh b\u1ecb ti\u1ebfng s\u00e9t \u00e1i t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e1nh tr\u00fang. V\u1ec1 Hoa K\u1ef3 m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian, anh quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau r\u1ed3i \u0111\u01b0a n\u00e0ng qua M\u1ef9. Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u0169ng c\u00f3 v\u1edbi nhau hai con, m\u1ed9t trai v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t g\u00e1i. H\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng l\u00e2u, v\u1ee3 anh nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ecbnh \u0111\u01b0a anh ra t\u00f2a ly d\u1ecb. N\u00e0ng ly d\u1ecb \u0111\u01a1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng, v\u00ec n\u00e0ng \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1ee9 ba.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n th\u1ee9 ba c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a anh tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ea5t M\u1ef9. Hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 r\u1ea5t t\u00ecnh t\u1ee9, l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi nhau b\u1eb1ng nghi l\u1ec5 t\u1ea1i th\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, v\u00e0 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9a \u0111\u00e1m c\u01b0\u1edbi r\u1ea5t linh \u0111\u00ecnh. C\u1ea3 hai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 v\u1edbi nhau hai con trai, nh\u01b0ng r\u1ed3i n\u00e0ng v\u1eabn \u0111\u01a1n ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ly d\u1ecb anh. L\u00fd do v\u00ec n\u00e0ng \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 con v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u00ecn chung, c\u1ea3 ba tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u cho th\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n trong m\u1ed7i con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ng\u00e0y m\u1ed9t, ng\u00e0y hai m\u00e0 bi\u1ebft r\u00f5 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/strong> Ngo\u00e0i ra, c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 c\u0103n c\u1ee9 v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ecbnh gi\u00e1 v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0n n\u0103m do ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0a \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i: \u201cH\u1ecda h\u1ed5 h\u1ecda b\u00ec nan h\u1ecda c\u1ed1t. Tri nh\u00e2n tri di\u1ec7n, b\u1ea5t tri t\u00e2m.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng ch\u1ecdn ng\u01b0\u1eddi, khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00ecm ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a th\u1eddi nay \u0111ang \u0111i theo chi\u1ec1u h\u01b0\u1edbng \u201cm\u00ec \u0103n li\u1ec1n\u201d, t\u1ee9c l\u00e0 c\u0103n c\u1ee9 v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng d\u00e1ng v\u1ebb b\u1ec1 ngo\u00e0i, c\u1ea3m t\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng xu h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00ednh d\u1ee5c.<\/strong> Nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 n\u00e0y tr\u00e0n lan tr\u00ean m\u1ecdi ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n truy\u1ec1n th\u00f4ng, v\u00e0 \u0111ang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khai th\u00e1c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c tinh vi, h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn v\u00e0 khoa h\u1ecdc c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng tr\u00ean c\u00e1c trang m\u1ea1ng, hay g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 online dating<\/strong>. Meredith Turits trong m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft c\u00f3 t\u1ef1a \u0111\u1ec1: \u201cG\u00f3c khu\u1ea5t \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng<\/strong>\u201d (The darkest side of online dating<\/em>) \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec3n ng\u1eef tr\u00ean b\u00e1o \u0111i\u1ec7n t\u1eed Mai, ph\u00e1t h\u00e0nh Th\u1ee9 B\u1ea3y, ng\u00e0y 7 th\u00e1ng Gi\u00eang, 2023, cho bi\u1ebft: \u201cTinder, \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ea3i v\u1ec1 nh\u1ea5t th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi, \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 ba t\u1ef7 l\u01b0\u1ee3t l\u01b0\u1edbt m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y trong su\u1ed1t th\u00e1ng 3\/2020 – v\u00e0 t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 tr\u1edf \u0111i \u0111\u00e3 li\u00ean t\u1ee5c ph\u00e1 k\u1ef7 l\u1ee5c h\u01a1n 100 l\u1ea7n.\u201d [1]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

G\u00d3C T\u1ed0I C\u1ee6A V\u1ea4N \u0110\u1ec0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 mu\u1ed1n truy\u1ec1n t\u1ea3i m\u1ed9t th\u00f4ng \u0111i\u1ec7p cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t cho th\u1ebf h\u1ec7 tr\u1ebb, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng ph\u00e2n t\u00edch li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng g\u00f3c khu\u1ea5t kinh kh\u1ee7ng m\u00e0 r\u1ea5t \u00edt ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn, nh\u01b0ng ch\u00fang l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea1m b\u1eaby nguy hi\u1ec3m cho vi\u1ec7c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean c\u00e1c ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. \u0110\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea1m b\u1eaby h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c tinh vi, m\u1ed9t khung tr\u1eddi bao la huy\u1ec1n di\u1ec7u cho nh\u1eefng ai s\u1ed1ng b\u1eb1ng \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 \u1ea3o gi\u00e1c, m\u01a1 t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng th\u1ea7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng. M\u1ed9t ch\u1ed7 cho nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb n\u00f3i l\u00e1o chuy\u00ean nghi\u1ec7p, \u0111\u1ea7y kinh nghi\u1ec7m g\u1ea1t g\u1eabm, l\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1ea1t, v\u00e0 d\u1ee5 d\u1ed7 nh\u1eefng k\u1ebb th\u01a1 ng\u00e2y. V\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u1ecfa ng\u1ee5c cho nh\u1eefng t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n trinh tr\u1eafng, \u0111\u01a1n s\u01a1 \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng may b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o<\/strong>. Nh\u1eefng linh h\u1ed3n n\u00e0y b\u1ecb bao v\u00e2y, b\u1ecb kh\u1ee7ng b\u1ed1, v\u00e0 b\u1ecb l\u00f4i k\u00e9o \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm ra \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ed1i tho\u00e1t. M\u1ed9t ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ai mu\u1ed1n h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 t\u1eed t\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean d\u00f9ng. \u0110\u1ec3 d\u1eabn ch\u1ee9ng, t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng con s\u1ed1 th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00edch d\u1eabn t\u1eeb c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u c\u00f3 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb. Nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 n\u00e0y nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t l\u1eddi nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf cho nh\u1eefng ai \u0111ang \u0111\u00f9a ch\u01a1i v\u1edbi t\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Theo nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u n\u0103m 2017 c\u1ee7a Trung t\u00e2m Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u Pew, 36% ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 qua m\u1ea1ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00e1c m\u00e0 h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u201cc\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu ho\u1eb7c r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu\u201d. L\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u lu\u00f4n x\u1ea3y ra tr\u00ean c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 qua m\u1ea1ng, nh\u1eefng l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng n\u00e0y mang h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c t\u00e2m l\u00fd, v\u00e0 kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd bao g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi l\u1ebd th\u00f4 b\u1ec9, t\u1ee5c t\u0129u, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi d\u1ee5 d\u1ed7 tr\u1eafng tr\u1ee3n, r\u1ebb ti\u1ec1n. N\u1eef gi\u1edbi t\u1eeb 18 \u0111\u1ebfn 34 tu\u1ed5i, 57% cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng tin nh\u1eafn v\u1ec1 quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch l\u1ed9 li\u1ec5u, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh m\u00e0 h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau c\u1ea7u. T\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng n\u00e0y x\u1ea3y ra c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean nguy hi\u1ec3m h\u01a1n cho c\u00e1c em tu\u1ed5i v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean, c\u00e1ch ri\u00eang v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu n\u1eef t\u1eeb 15 \u0111\u1ebfn 17 tu\u1ed5i. Nhi\u1ec1u em v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef nh\u1eb9 d\u1ea1 \u0111\u00e3 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 b\u1ecb d\u1ee5 d\u1ed7 r\u01a1i v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng b\u1ecb l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c, tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nh\u1eefng thi\u1ebfu n\u1eef mua b\u00e1n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c thu\u1ed9c nh\u1eefng nh\u00f3m bu\u00f4n b\u00e1n ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ef1c hi\u1ec7n t\u1ea1i \u00dac n\u0103m 2018 v\u1ec1 tin nh\u1eafn tr\u00ean \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 cho th\u1ea5y t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng qu\u1ea5y r\u1ed1i v\u00e0 l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng nh\u1eafm \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh x\u1ea3y ra nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u1edf ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Ngo\u00e0i ra, d\u1eef li\u1ec7u t\u1eeb Trung t\u00e2m Nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u Pew n\u0103m 2020 c\u0169ng cho th\u1ea5y nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1ea3i qua m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c b\u1ecb qu\u1ea5y r\u1ed1i t\u1eeb \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2. C\u00f3 \u0111\u1ebfn 19% n\u1eef gi\u1edbi so v\u1edbi 9% nam gi\u1edbi b\u1ecb \u0111e d\u1ecda.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 kh\u01a1i d\u1eady tr\u00ed t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u00e0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn h\u01a1n, n\u0103m 2020, \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng Bumble c\u00f4ng b\u1ed1 ph\u1ea7n tr\u00ed tu\u1ec7 nh\u00e2n t\u1ea1o \u201cl\u00e0m m\u1edd m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh v\u00e0 y\u00eau c\u1ea7u ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed3ng \u00fd n\u1ebfu h\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n xem \u1ea3nh \u0111\u00f3\u201d. Nguy hi\u1ec3m ti\u1ec1m \u1ea9n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3 n\u0103m 2019, \u0110\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc B\u00e1o ch\u00ed Columbia \u1edf New York City v\u00e0 trang tin t\u1ee9c ProPublica ph\u00e1t hi\u1ec7n l\u00e0 t\u1eadp \u0111o\u00e0n Match Group s\u1edf h\u1eefu kho\u1ea3ng 45 \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, nh\u01b0ng h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 r\u00e0 so\u00e1t danh t\u00ednh k\u1ebb t\u1ea5n c\u00f4ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9ng c\u00f3 tr\u1ea3 ti\u1ec1n, m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng h\u1ec1 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng mi\u1ec5n ph\u00ed nh\u01b0 Tinder, OKCupid v\u00e0 Hinge. [2]<\/sup><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u1ee8NG D\u1ee4NG TH\u1ef0C T\u1ebe<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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H\u1eb9n h\u00f2 (dating). Th\u1eddi gian trai g\u00e1i t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u nhau, ch\u1ee7 \u00fd l\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p \u0111\u1ec3 ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian th\u01a1 m\u1ed9ng, l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, t\u00ecnh t\u1ee9 c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian quan tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1eeb r\u1ea5t l\u00e2u, ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cTrai kh\u00f4n t\u00ecm v\u1ee3 ch\u1ee3 \u0111\u00f4ng. G\u00e1i kh\u00f4n t\u00ecm ch\u1ed3ng \u1edf ch\u1ed1n ba qu\u00e2n.\u201d Quan ni\u1ec7m n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 n\u00f3i l\u00ean kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ti\u1ec1n nh\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i v\u00e0o t\u00e2m th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t. N\u00f3 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t tri\u1ebft l\u00fd nh\u00e2n sinh v\u00e0 b\u1ea3n s\u1eafc v\u0103n h\u00f3a c\u1ee7a d\u00e2n t\u1ed9c.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cCh\u1ee3 \u0111\u00f4ng\u201d \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan t\u1edbi ph\u1ea9m ch\u1ea5t t\u1ed1t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 \u201cch\u1ed1n ba qu\u00e2n\u201d g\u1eafn v\u1edbi b\u1ea3n l\u00e3nh c\u1ed9t tr\u1ee5 gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng Vi\u1ec7t Nam. \u0110\u1ec3 l\u00e0m n\u1ed9i t\u01b0\u1edbng gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef x\u01b0a ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m quen v\u1edbi m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ee3. N\u00f3 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn v\u1ecb tr\u00ed quan tr\u1ecdng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u2013 nh\u1eefng \u201ctay h\u00f2m ch\u00eca kh\u00f3a\u201d c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh. \u201cGi\u1eefa ch\u1ed1n ba qu\u00e2n\u201d. H\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh m\u1ed9t thao tr\u01b0\u1eddng n\u01a1i c\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, thanh ni\u00ean \u0111ang t\u1eadp r\u01b0\u1ee3t, theo luy\u1ec7n binh \u0111ao \u0111\u1ec3 chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb cho c\u1ea3nh chi\u1ebfn tranh \u0111\u1ea7u r\u01a1i m\u00e1u ch\u1ea3y. M\u1ed9t ngh\u0129a n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 trong tay s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh, m\u01b0u l\u01b0\u1ee3c, quy\u1ec1n l\u1ef1c qu\u00e2n s\u1ef1 v\u00e0 ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb, th\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u1eafm trong tay s\u1ee9c m\u1ea1nh tinh th\u1ea7n cho s\u1ef1 \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh kinh t\u1ebf v\u00e0 s\u1eafp x\u1ebfp tr\u1eadt t\u1ef1 gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 ch\u1ecdn ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1edf gi\u1eefa ch\u1ee3 \u0111\u00f4ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh theo c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn c\u1ee7a v\u0103n h\u00f3a Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef bao g\u1ed3m t\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ee9c: c\u00f4ng, dung, ng\u00f4n, h\u1ea1nh. Ng\u00e0y nay quan ni\u1ec7m tam t\u00f2ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n mang n\u1eb7ng t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c n\u1eefa, nh\u01b0ng v\u1ecb th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c quan tr\u1ecdng. \u201c\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng x\u00e2y nh\u00e0, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 x\u00e2y t\u1ed5 \u1ea5m\u201d<\/strong> r\u1ea5t ph\u00f9 h\u1ee3p trong b\u1ed1i c\u1ea3nh gia \u0111\u00ecnh trong b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i n\u00e0o. C\u0169ng theo quan ni\u1ec7m n\u00e0y, tri\u1ebft l\u00fd s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha l\u00e0 nh\u00e2n, ngh\u0129a, l\u1ec5, tr\u00ed, t\u00edn l\u00e0m n\u1ed5i b\u1eadt \u00fd ngh\u0129a c\u00e2u cao dao t\u1ee5c ng\u1eef: \u201cG\u00e1i tham t\u00e0i, trait ham s\u1eafc\u201d. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ec9 y\u00eau sau khi \u0111\u00e3 n\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5c.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ef1 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a nh\u01b0 tr\u00ean ph\u1ea7n n\u00e0o l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111i c\u00f9ng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng v\u1edbi nhau trong h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, ta c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 c\u1ea3 l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft l\u1eabn th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh. Con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1eb9p, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, nhi\u1ec1u hoa th\u01a1m, c\u1ecf l\u1ea1, tr\u00e1i ng\u1ecdt. Nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1ed3 gh\u1ec1, tr\u01a1n tr\u01b0\u1ee3t, v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 \u0111i. H\u01a1n 50% nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 \u0111\u00e3 cho th\u1ea5y th\u1eed th\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a n\u00f3 nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o?!<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u1ee8ng d\u1ee5ng trong t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, khi m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00f4i trai g\u00e1i trong th\u1eddi gian h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean ch\u1ec9 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe, t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh, tri th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a nhau, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng chi ti\u1ebft \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng sau n\u00e0y c\u1ee7a nhau n\u1eefa. Ch\u00fang bao g\u1ed3m:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng di truy\u1ec1n. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cL\u1ea5y v\u1ee3 xem t\u00f4ng, l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng xem gi\u1ed1ng\u201d. Trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u00f3 ai mang nh\u1eefng b\u1ec7nh truy\u1ec1n nhi\u1ec5m hi\u1ec3m ngh\u00e8o kh\u00f4ng. C\u00f3 ai nghi\u1ec7n ng\u1eadp, r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, v\u00e0 b\u1ecb b\u1eaft v\u00ec tr\u1ed9m c\u01b0\u1edbp, gi\u1ebft ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c. N\u1ec1n gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, ni\u1ec1m tin.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 v\u0103n h\u00f3a, ch\u1ee7ng t\u1ed9c, v\u00e0 ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c. \u201cT\u00ecnh y\u00eau kh\u00f4ng ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c\u201d. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t quan ni\u1ec7m sai l\u1ea7m trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. S\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c s\u1ebd \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe th\u1ec3 l\u00fd. Tu\u1ed5i t\u00e1c, do \u0111\u00f3, v\u1eabn l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ea7n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quan t\u00e2m khi ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec7n tr\u0103m n\u0103m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cT\u00ecnh m\u1ea5t vui khi \u0111\u00e3 v\u1eb9n c\u00e2u th\u1ec1.<\/a>
\u0110\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u1eb9p nh\u1eefng khi c\u00f2n dang d\u1edf.\u201d [DT1]<\/a>\u00a0[3]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec dang d\u1edf m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ea3. Nh\u01b0ng \u201ct\u00ecnh m\u1ea5t vui khi \u0111\u00e3 v\u1eb9n c\u00e2u th\u1ec1\u201d l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean x\u1ea3y ra trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

K\u1ebeT LU\u1eacN<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u01a1n g\u1ecdi (vocation<\/em>), v\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ti\u1ebfng m\u1eddi g\u1ecdi b\u01b0\u1edbc v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh y\u00eau m\u00e0 Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0110\u1ebf trao ban cho con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. M\u1ed9t ti\u1ebfng g\u1ecdi m\u1eddi gi\u1eefa hai con tim.<\/strong> H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t kh\u1ebf \u01b0\u1edbc, m\u1ed9t trao \u0111\u1ed5i c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi (commitment<\/em>), khi ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia cho l\u00e0 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u1edbi \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi, v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm hay h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm cho m\u00ecnh m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng nhau \u0111i tr\u1ecdn cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c quan tr\u1ecdng. Trong c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn \u0111\u00f3, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf \u00fd ngh\u0129 v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a mang ngh\u0129a \u201cm\u00ec \u0103n li\u1ec1n\u201d. M\u1edbi g\u1eb7p nhau tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng, nh\u00ecn t\u1ea5m h\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a nhau, nghe v\u00e0i l\u1eddi, n\u00f3i v\u00e0i c\u00e2u, v\u00e0 vi\u1ebft v\u00e0i d\u00f2ng l\u00e0 y\u00eau, l\u00e0 c\u01b0\u1edbi li\u1ec1n.<\/p>\n\n\n

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H\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng, t\u00f2 m\u00f2 v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n th\u1eed nghi\u1ec7m nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 con dao hai l\u01b0\u1ee1i, m\u1ed9t b\u1eaby s\u1eadp tinh vi cho nh\u1eefng ai \u0111ang mu\u1ed1n th\u1eed, mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm m\u1ed9t h\u01b0\u1edbng \u0111i m\u1edbi cho h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n<\/strong>. Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, n\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1m d\u1ed7 t\u1eebng d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, l\u00e0m h\u1ea1i v\u00e0 ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 bao cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh ch\u00e2n ch\u00ednh, bao gia \u0111\u00ecnh. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb, c\u00e1m d\u1ed7 n\u00e0y c\u00f2n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tha th\u1ee9, b\u1ecf qua, nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111\u00e3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh m\u00e0 c\u00f2n b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat v\u00e0 b\u1ecb chi ph\u1ed1i d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn sa ng\u00e3 l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. Ti\u1ebfc r\u1eb1ng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u1ea5y l\u1ea1i x\u1ea3y ra th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y, v\u00e0 n\u00f3 \u0111ang tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t n\u1ed7i kinh ho\u00e0ng, m\u1ed9t b\u00f3ng ma cho \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ri\u00eang \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb, h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 tr\u00ean m\u1ea1ng nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y s\u01a1 l\u01b0\u1ee3c tr\u00ean, ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea1m b\u1eaby tinh vi, nguy hi\u1ec3m v\u00e0 h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u1ea1i. N\u00f3 nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf cha m\u1eb9, ph\u1ee5 huynh ph\u1ea3i quan t\u00e2m, h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn c\u00e1c em, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean chi\u1ec1u chu\u1ed9ng c\u00e1c em \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang \u0111i v\u00e0o ng\u00f5 c\u1ee5t, r\u01a1i v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai \u0111en t\u1ed1i h\u1ee7y ho\u1ea1i cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c em.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. https:\/\/baomai.blogspot.com\/2023\/01\/goc-khuat-ang-so-cua-viec-hen-ho-tren.html<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Ibid.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Ng\u1eadp Ng\u1eebng \u2013 H\u1ed3 Dz\u1ebfnh.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
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