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N\u1ebfu c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp \u0111\u1ecdc t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m \u201cThe Surrendered Wife<\/strong>\u201d (Ng\u01b0\u1eddi V\u1ee3 V\u1ec1 Ngu\u1ed3n<\/strong>) c\u1ee7a Laura Doyle<\/strong> [1], th\u00ec c\u0169ng gi\u1ed1ng nh\u01b0 ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn c\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9c gi\u1ea3, b\u1ea1n s\u1ebd b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh ch\u1ea5p n\u1ed9i t\u00e2m: t\u00e1n th\u00e0nh ho\u1eb7c ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i n\u1ed9i dung v\u00e0 tri\u1ebft l\u00fd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y trong \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Trong khi cao tr\u00e0o v\u1ec1 nam n\u1eef b\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n, v\u1ec1 n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n \u0111ang \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1ec1 cao m\u00e0 c\u00f3 ai \u0111\u00f3 n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00fac ch\u1ecb em ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea7n d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 xem x\u00e9t l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m, \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n cho m\u00ecnh, cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu, v\u00e0 cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh hay kh\u00f4ng th\u00ec ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd b\u1ecb nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00ean ti\u1ebfng ph\u1ea3n \u0111\u1ed1i, v\u00e0 cho r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c t\u1ee5t h\u1eadu, m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 quay v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 thi\u1ec7t th\u00f2i v\u00e0 thua l\u1ed7 c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Nh\u01b0ng m\u1ed9t \u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n trong vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1edbi \u00fd ngh\u0129a trung th\u1ef1c v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00ean l\u00e0m hay kh\u00f4ng?<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 v\u1edbi quan ni\u1ec7m \u201cch\u1ed3ng ch\u00faa v\u1ee3 t\u00f4i\u201d, quan ni\u1ec7m \u201ctrai n\u0103m th\u00ea b\u1ea3y thi\u1ebfp, g\u00e1i ch\u00ednh chuy\u00ean m\u1ed9t ch\u1ed3ng\u201d, ho\u1eb7c \u201cnh\u1ea5t nam vi\u1ebft h\u1eefu, th\u1eadp n\u1eef vi\u1ebft v\u00f4\u201d kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 thua thi\u1ec7t, t\u1ee7i h\u1ed5 cho gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, m\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang h\u01a1n, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 x\u1ec9 nh\u1ee5c v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e1ng x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c th\u1ee7 c\u1ef1u v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i t\u00f4i v\u00f4 l\u00fd c\u1ee7a gi\u1edbi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng n\u1eefa, v\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ef1 cho m\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sai khi\u1ebfn, kh\u1ed1ng ch\u1ebf, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. <\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, nh\u1eefng quan ni\u1ec7m v\u00e0 l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng \u1ea5y h\u1ecda ch\u0103ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f2n t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i \u1edf c\u00e1c n\u01b0\u1edbc k\u00e9m m\u1edf mang, nh\u1eefng n\u01b0\u1edbc c\u00f2n \u0111ang b\u1ecb cai tr\u1ecb b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ea7u \u00f3c n\u1eb7ng v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u01b0 \u1edf m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 qu\u1ed1c gia m\u00e0 n\u01a1i \u0111\u00f3 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i h\u1ecdc, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e1i xe, kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i ra \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh, ho\u1eb7c ph\u1ea3i tr\u00f9m \u0111\u1ea7u, ph\u1ee7 k\u00edn m\u1eb7t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1ed3 Xu\u00e2n H\u01b0\u01a1ng <\/strong>(\u80e1\u6625\u9999,1772 – 1822) <\/em>l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t thi s\u0129 s\u1ed1ng \u1edf cu\u1ed1i th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 XVIII v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea7u th\u1ebf k\u1ef7 XIX d\u01b0\u1edbi th\u1eddi H\u1eadu L\u00ea, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n. B\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 d\u00f9ng th\u01a1 v\u0103n \u0111\u1ec3 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng thu\u1ed9c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i b\u1ea5y gi\u1edd. Ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0y qua hai c\u00e2u th\u01a1:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cK\u1ebb \u0111\u1eafp ch\u0103n b\u00f4ng k\u1ebb l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng<\/em>
Ch\u00e9m cha c\u00e1i ki\u1ebfp l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng chung.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

(L\u1ea5y Ch\u1ed3ng Chung- H\u1ed3 Xu\u00e2n H\u01b0\u01a1ng)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng phong tr\u00e0o b\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 gi\u1edbi n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n ng\u00e0y nay \u0111ang \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi v\u00e0 tranh \u0111\u1ea5u, v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 cho th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e1ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng nh\u1ea5t. B\u1edfi v\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 v\u1ee9t b\u1ecf nh\u1eefng ph\u1ea9m gi\u00e1 \u0111\u00e1ng cao qu\u00ed c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ea1y t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong \u1ea3o t\u01b0\u1edfng, \u1ea3o gi\u00e1c. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1ea5y \u0111\u00e3 d\u00e1m ng\u1eebng b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u00ecm v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n \u0111\u00edch th\u1ef1c c\u1ee7a n\u1eef gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 Laura Doyle. <\/strong>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n (feminist), v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng th\u1eddi c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc t\u1ea1i Nam California, b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y l\u00fd do c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 tri\u1ebft l\u00fd \u201cv\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n\u201d qua t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m g\u00e2y tranh c\u00e3i The Surrendered Wife.<\/strong> N\u1ed9i dung c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m n\u00eau l\u00ean quan \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3 nh\u1eb1m b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u00ec theo t\u00e1c gi\u1ea3, ph\u1ea3i ch\u0103ng cu\u1ed9c chi\u1ebfn b\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2y \u0111\u00e3 t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t kh\u00fac quanh m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong cu\u1ed9c n\u00ean d\u1eebng l\u1ea1i suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecm nh\u1eefng gi\u1ea3i ph\u00e1p kh\u1ea3 d\u0129 mang l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac cho cu\u1ed9c \u0111\u1eddi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1eeb m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea5p ti\u1ebfn, say m\u00ea \u0111i\u00ean cu\u1ed3ng ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n. B\u00e0 th\u00fa nh\u1eadn l\u00e0 t\u1eeb khi l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng n\u0103m 22 tu\u1ed5i, b\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng ng\u1edbt ch\u1ec9 tr\u00edch, g\u1eaft g\u1ecfng, x\u1ecf xi\u00ean, b\u01b0\u01a1i m\u00f3c, h\u1ea1 nh\u1ee5c ch\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 b\u1ea5t c\u1ee9 s\u01a1 xu\u1ea5t n\u00e0o. B\u00e0 th\u00edch ch\u1ec9 huy, ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t, kh\u1ed1ng ch\u1ebf, sai khi\u1ebfn ch\u1ed3ng, xem ch\u1ed3ng nh\u01b0 t\u1ea5m th\u1ea3m ch\u00f9i ch\u00e2n. Nh\u01b0ng cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 nh\u1eadn ra r\u1eb1ng c\u00e0ng ng\u00e0y ch\u1ed3ng b\u00e0 c\u00e0ng c\u00f3 khuynh h\u01b0\u1edbng t\u00e1ch r\u1eddi ra xa b\u00e0. V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng m\u1ea5t d\u1ea7n \u0111i s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ea3m c\u1ee7a bu\u1ed5i ban \u0111\u1ea7u. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau phai nh\u1ea1t. Cay \u0111\u1eafng ch\u00e1n ch\u01b0\u1eddng ch\u1ed3ng ch\u1ea5t th\u00eam l\u00ean m\u00e3i t\u1eeb c\u1ea3 hai ph\u00eda. Vi\u1ec5n \u1ea3nh ly d\u1ecb \u0111ang ng\u1ea5p ngh\u00e9 ngo\u00e0i c\u1eeda\u2026 \u0110\u1ec3 c\u1ee9u v\u00e3n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac qu\u00e1 mong manh, b\u00e0 c\u1ed1 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u, h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi kinh nghi\u1ec7m t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng th\u1eadt s\u1ef1 g\u1eafn b\u00f3 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng nhau v\u00e0 \u0111ang c\u00f3 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. T\u1eeb nh\u1eefng kinh nghi\u1ec7m qu\u00fd b\u00e1u c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd, b\u00e0 \u0111em \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng cho tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ee7a b\u00e0. B\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 ng\u1ed9 ra ch\u00e2n l\u00fd: ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh thay \u0111\u1ed5i ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u00ecnh ch\u1edb kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i mong \u0111\u1ee3i s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i \u1edf ph\u00eda ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. <\/mark><\/strong>Sau \u0111\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian, ch\u1ed3ng b\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean vui v\u1ebb tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, t\u1ef1 tin h\u01a1n v\u00e0 b\u1eaft \u0111\u1ea7u quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Ph\u1ea7n b\u00e0 th\u00ec c\u0169ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y thanh th\u1ea3n, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u01a1n x\u01b0a nhi\u1ec1u. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u00e0n g\u1eafn tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i nh\u1edd b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft thay \u0111\u1ed5i suy ngh\u0129, th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch \u1ee9ng x\u1eed v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng. B\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh vi\u1ebft s\u00e1ch chia s\u1ebb kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi c\u00e1c ch\u1ecb em ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ngo\u00e0i ra b\u00e0 c\u00f2n \u0111i kh\u1eafp n\u01b0\u1edbc M\u1ef9 t\u1ed5 ch\u1ee9c nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o, thuy\u1ebft tr\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 c\u00f3 c\u00f9ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, trao \u0111\u1ed5i kinh nghi\u1ec7m v\u00e0 h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi l\u1eabn nhau nh\u1eb1m b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Phong Tr\u00e0o \u201cNh\u1eefng Ng\u01b0\u1eddi V\u1ee3 V\u1ec1 Ngu\u1ed3n\u201d (The \u201cSurrendered Wives\u201d movement) \u0111\u1eb7t c\u0103n b\u1ea3n tr\u00ean 6 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc: <\/strong>[2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.Ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t vi\u1ec7c ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t ch\u1ed3ng nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch \u0111\u00e1ng.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.Bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 l\u00f2ng bi\u1ebft \u01a1n v\u00e0 c\u00e1m \u01a1n nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0m cho m\u00ecnh.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4.B\u00e0y t\u1ecf nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t ch\u1ed3ng.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5.Tin t\u01b0\u1edfng ch\u1ed3ng trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6.Ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o vi\u1ec7c s\u0103n s\u00f3c v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n t\u1ea5t nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi thi\u00ean ch\u1ee9c l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u1ea7n n\u00ean:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

-T\u1ebf nh\u1ecb thay v\u00ec c\u1eb1n nh\u1eb1n.
-Tho\u1ea3i m\u00e1i thay v\u00ec ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t.
-T\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng thay v\u00ec mi\u1ec7t th\u1ecb.
-Bi\u1ebft \u01a1n thay v\u00ec coi th\u01b0\u1eddng.
-Tin t\u01b0\u1edfng thay v\u00ec nghi ng\u1edd.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phong tr\u00e0o Nh\u1eefng Ng\u01b0\u1eddi V\u1ee3 V\u1ec1 Ngu\u1ed3n<\/strong> hi\u1ec7n lan r\u1ed9ng ra kh\u1eafp th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi, c\u00f3 m\u1eb7t t\u1ea1i nhi\u1ec1u qu\u1ed1c gia nh\u01b0 Canada, Anh Qu\u1ed1c, \u00dac Ch\u00e2u, Norway, Finland, Singapore, Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n

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T\u00e1c ph\u1ea9m c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ea1o m\u1ed9t ch\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd trong x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i Hoa K\u1ef3 v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u n\u01a1i, th\u00e0nh c\u00f4ng ngo\u00e0i s\u1ee9c t\u01b0\u1edfng t\u01b0\u1ee3ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean, k\u1ebb khen, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u00ea c\u0169ng t\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 n\u1ed5i l\u00ean. Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u00ea b\u00ecnh tr\u00e1i chi\u1ec1u m\u00e0 t\u1ef1u trung c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef theo ch\u1ee7 thuy\u1ebft b\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n c\u1ef1c \u0111oan, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nh\u00f3m \u1ee7ng h\u1ed9 n\u1eef quy\u1ec1n. H\u1ecd cho r\u1eb1ng vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n v\u1edbi tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m l\u00e0m v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m m\u1eb9 theo Laura Doyle nh\u01b0 v\u1eady s\u1ebd \u0111i ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd mong \u0111\u1ee3i, ph\u00e1 v\u1ee1 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 m\u1ea5t bao c\u00f4ng s\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi xu\u1ea5t x\u1ee9 n\u00f4 l\u1ec7 cho \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, v\u00e0 t\u1ea1o c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i cho ph\u00eda \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn, coi th\u01b0\u1eddng vi\u1ec7c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh \u0111\u1eb3ng, t\u00e0i n\u0103ng v\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 c\u1ee7a gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf th\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1ea1o \u0111i\u1ec1u ki\u1ec7n cho vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, v\u1eabn theo Laura Doyle, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng \u1ea5y ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi:  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

-Kh\u00f4ng v\u0169 phu, h\u00e0nh hung, \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp v\u1ee3.
-Kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh con c\u00e1i.
-Kh\u00f4ng b\u00ea tha r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, nghi\u1ec7n h\u00fat.
-Kh\u00f4ng tr\u0103ng hoa, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh.<\/mark><\/strong> [3]\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00f3 g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111i, c\u00f3 l\u1ea1i. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, c\u00f3 t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 c\u00f3 b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 con, v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean x\u1ee9ng \u0111\u00e1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 hi\u1ec1n \u0111\u1ee9c v\u00e0 bi\u1ebft y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i thu\u1ed9c ki\u1ec3u \u201ctam t\u00f2ng, t\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ee9c\u201d m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch m\u00e1y m\u00f3c. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng thu\u1ed9c th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n \u201cnh\u1ea5t nam vi\u1ebft h\u1eefu, th\u1eadp n\u1eef vi\u1ebft v\u00f4\u201d, n\u00ean vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecd \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng thu\u1ed9c ph\u1ea9m gi\u00e1 v\u00e0 t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch con ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u ch\u00ednh \u0111\u00e1ng<\/mark><\/strong>. Tuy nhi\u00ean, trong vi\u1ec7c tranh \u0111\u1ea5u, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi \u1ea5y, gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u0169ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ed1i th\u1ee7 m\u00e0 h\u1ecd v\u1eabn cho r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i thi\u1ec7t th\u00f2i, \u0111\u00e3 kh\u1ed1ng ch\u1ebf, ho\u1eb7c coi th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Th\u1eadt ra, c\u1ea3 nam c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 n\u1eef c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi con ng\u01b0\u1eddi, ph\u1ea9m c\u00e1ch, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb7c th\u00f9 ri\u00eang bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/strong> \u0110i \u0111\u00e2u th\u00ec \u0111i, l\u00e0m g\u00ec th\u00ec l\u00e0m khi v\u1ec1 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 v\u00e0 v\u1ecb tr\u00ed cao qu\u00ed nh\u1ea5t, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1eabn l\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb l\u00e0m m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 l\u00e0m v\u1ee3. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc. Th\u1eddi c\u00f2n l\u00e0 sinh vi\u00ean, khi h\u1ecdc m\u00f4n t\u00e2m l\u00fd ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, v\u1ecb n\u1eef gi\u00e1o s\u01b0 c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi c\u00e1c sinh vi\u00ean c\u1ee7a b\u00e0 l\u00e0 \u1edf nh\u00e0, m\u1ed7i khi b\u00e0 d\u00f9ng ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u01b0 x\u1eed v\u1edbi ch\u1ed3ng ho\u1eb7c con c\u00e1i b\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1ea5t b\u1ea1i. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, m\u1ed7i khi b\u00e0 d\u00f9ng t\u00e2m t\u00ecnh v\u00e0 t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 th\u00ec m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ec1u tr\u1edf n\u00ean t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0110\u1ebf ngay t\u1eeb ban \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u00e3 bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng \u201c\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t\u201d, v\u00e0 v\u00ec th\u1ebf Ng\u00e0i \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i \u201cT\u1ea1o cho h\u1eafn m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 gi\u00fap x\u1ee9ng v\u1edbi h\u1eafn\u201d (Genesis 2:18). Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3, Adam g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 \u201cx\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u1ee7a x\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u00f4i, th\u1ecbt c\u1ee7a th\u1ecbt t\u00f4i\u201d (Genesis 2: 23). Ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y, \u201cng\u01b0\u1eddi nam s\u1ebd t\u1eeb b\u1ecf cha m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 n\u00f3, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u1ed9t x\u01b0\u01a1ng m\u1ed9t th\u1ecbt\u201d (24).\u00a0 \u0110\u00e2y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 \u00fd ngh\u0129a cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/mark><\/strong> V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y c\u0169ng ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 l\u00fd do v\u1ec1 ngu\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a n\u1eef gi\u1edbi theo sau nh\u1eefng \u1ed3n \u00e0o, ki\u1ebfm t\u00ecm, \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi, v\u00e0 tranh \u0111\u1ea5u cho nh\u1eefng g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng thi\u1ebft th\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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T\u00e0i li\u1ec7u tham kh\u1ea3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Simon & Schuster 2001.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2 & 3. https:\/\/lauradoyle.org\/surrendered-wife-sample-chapter\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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