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L\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 b\u1ed3. L\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n trai v\u00e0 v\u1eabn sinh con. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0111ang thu h\u00fat gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb v\u00e0 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh m\u1ed9t xu th\u1ebf (mentality) m\u1edbi c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111\u1eb7t ra l\u00e0 t\u1ea1i sao ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng? \u0110\u00e2u l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u01b0\u1edfng l\u00e0 \u1edf nh\u1eefng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i t\u1ef1 do \u00c2u M\u1ef9 m\u1edbi c\u00f3 hi\u1ec7n t\u01b0\u1ee3ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng, nh\u01b0ng d\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u01b0 xu th\u1ebf n\u00e0y hi\u1ec7n nay \u0111ang lan tr\u00e0n m\u1ecdi n\u01a1i tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. M\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y khi c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp v\u1ec1 th\u0103m Vi\u1ec7t Nam, t\u00f4i c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e3 nghe nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi than th\u1edf c\u1ee7a m\u1ea5y b\u1ea1n th\u00e2n, \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i: \u201cCon c\u00e1i ng\u00e0y nay ch\u00fang coi nh\u1eb9 vi\u1ec7c l\u1ea5y v\u1ee3, l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng. T\u00f4i c\u00f3 2 \u0111\u1ee9a con g\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea5p x\u1ec9 30 tu\u1ed5i r\u1ed3i m\u00e0 m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ebfn chuy\u1ec7n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 ch\u00fang g\u1ea1t \u0111i. Ch\u00fang b\u1ea3o t\u00f4i: L\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng l\u00e0m g\u00ec. \u1ede v\u1eady cho n\u00f3 s\u01b0\u1edbng!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Theo Pew Research Center 2020, kho\u1ea3ng 3 trong 10 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn tu\u1ed5i t\u1ee9c 31% d\u00e2n s\u1ed1 Hoa K\u1ef3 kh\u00f4ng l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh. <\/strong>H\u1ecd s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi b\u1ed3, v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n trai hay b\u1ea1n g\u00e1i trong m\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, t\u00ecnh t\u1ee9 nh\u01b0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng. M\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch chi ti\u1ebft h\u01a1n, kho\u1ea3ng 41% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf tu\u1ed5i t\u1eeb 18 \u0111\u1ebfn 29, v\u00e0 36% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi 65 ho\u1eb7c l\u1edbn tu\u1ed5i h\u01a1n s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n, so v\u1edbi 23% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tu\u1ed5i t\u1eeb 30 \u0111\u1ebfn 49, v\u00e0 28% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eeb 50 \u0111\u1ebfn 64 tu\u1ed5i.\u00a0 So s\u00e1nh gi\u1eefa nam v\u00e0 n\u1eef, th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng n\u1eef gi\u1edbi ng\u00e0y nay th\u00edch \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n h\u01a1n nam gi\u1edbi. R\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u01a1n, ba trong m\u01b0\u1eddi ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tu\u1ed5i t\u1eeb 18 t\u1edbi 29 (32%), v\u00e0 50 t\u1edbi 64 (29%) l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

X\u00e9t v\u1ec1 h\u1ecdc v\u1ea5n, 1\/3 t\u1ee9c 34% trong s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n c\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng trung h\u1ecdc ho\u1eb7c tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 k\u00e9m h\u01a1n, 32% tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, v\u00e0 25% \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u00f3 b\u1eb1ng c\u1eed nh\u00e2n.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1ec1 gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh, 47% th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh ho\u1eb7c l\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u00ednh (unisex), v\u00e0 29% gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh (straight) nh\u1eadn m\u00ecnh l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n.  [1]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong m\u1ed9t th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea so s\u00e1nh gi\u1eefa c\u00e1c n\u01b0\u1edbc \u0110\u00f4ng Nam \u00c1, 30 n\u0103m tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y, \u1edf ch\u00e2u \u00c1 ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 2% ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u1edf \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i k\u1ebft h\u00f4n s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng hi\u1ec7n nay, t\u1ea1i Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n, Singapore, Trung Qu\u1ed1c, H\u1ed3ng K\u00f4ng, \u0110\u00e0i Loan s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u00ean 30 tu\u1ed5i s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n \u0111\u00e3 v\u01b0\u1ee3t qu\u00e1 20%.<\/strong> H\u1ecdc gi\u1ea3 Gavin Jones c\u1ee7a tr\u01b0\u1eddng \u0110\u1ea1i H\u1ecdc C\u00f4ng L\u1eadp Singapore, n\u00f3i: \u201c\u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thay \u0111\u1ed5i l\u1edbn trong m\u1ed9t th\u1eddi gian ng\u1eafn.\u201d [2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n m\u00e0 h\u1ecd cho l\u00e0 g\u00f2 b\u00f3, m\u1ea5t t\u1ef1 do, r\u1ee7i ro, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mang l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd \u0111ang t\u00ecm ki\u1ebfm. Nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb quan ni\u1ec7m v\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng s\u1ed1ng, v\u00e0 tri\u1ebft l\u00fd s\u1ed1ng th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i. [3]  <\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

1.Quan \u0111i\u1ec3m v\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ef1 do.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n g\u00f2 b\u00f3, b\u1ecb l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0 b\u1ecb l\u00e0m phi\u1ec1n. Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n hi\u1ec7n nay \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111\u1ec1 cao n\u1ebfp s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 ch\u1ee7 ngh\u0129a t\u1ef1 do.<\/strong> Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y cho r\u1eb1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng g\u00f2 b\u00f3. N\u00f3 bao g\u1ed3m nhi\u1ec1u lu\u1eadt l\u1ec7, nhi\u1ec1u r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c v\u00e0 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m. Trong m\u1ed9t th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea, \u1edf Tokyo c\u00f3 t\u1edbi 70% ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng k\u1ebft h\u00f4n hi\u1ec7n s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi cha m\u1eb9. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i n\u1ea5u c\u01a1m, gi\u1eb7t qu\u1ea7n \u00e1o, l\u00e0m vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0, nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 sau khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i t\u1ef1 l\u00e0m v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho ch\u1ed3ng, con c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Kh\u00f4ng \u00edt nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f2n cho r\u1eb1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng kh\u00f4ng c\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng v\u1edbi n\u1eef gi\u1edbi. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a \u0110\u1ea1i H\u1ecdc Waseda, Nh\u1eadt B\u1ea3n cho bi\u1ebft: \u201cPh\u1ee5 n\u1eef mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebft chi\u1ec1u chu\u1ed9ng h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd mu\u1ed1n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ho\u00e0n h\u1ea3o c\u1ea3 v\u1ec1 v\u1eadt ch\u1ea5t l\u1eabn tinh th\u1ea7n.\u201d\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

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Nh\u1eefng \u00e1m \u1ea3nh v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea hi\u1ec7n nay c\u00f3 t\u1edbi 40 \u2013 50% c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ebft th\u00fac b\u1eb1ng ly d\u1ecb.<\/strong> Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi ly d\u1ecb hai, ho\u1eb7c ba l\u1ea7n. H\u1ecd ly d\u1ecb v\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u l\u00fd do: ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, nghi\u1ec7n ng\u1eadp, kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y, l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng v\u00e0 v\u00f4 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ly d\u1ecb v\u00ec b\u1ecb b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh v\u00e0 x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m th\u1ec3 x\u00e1c, t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 tinh th\u1ea7n. B\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u1ed7i s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i v\u00e0 \u00e1m \u1ea3nh kinh ho\u00e0ng c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00e3 khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi m\u1ed9t r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c ph\u00e1p l\u00fd n\u00e0o trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 \u0111\u01a1n th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f2n do b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1eeb h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9. H\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn c\u1ea3nh c\u00e3i v\u00e3, ch\u1eedi b\u1edbi, \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp, v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh hung gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9. <\/strong>Ch\u00ednh m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i ly d\u1ecb v\u00e0 v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3 nu\u00f4i n\u1ea5ng h\u1ecd, nay h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n \u0111i v\u00e0o v\u1ebft xe \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 tr\u01b0\u1edbc. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u1ed7i \u00e1m \u1ea3nh kinh ho\u00e0ng (traumatic experience) v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mu\u1ed1n ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef v\u1edbi tr\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecdc, v\u1edbi \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb lu\u1eadt s\u01b0, b\u00e1c s\u1ef9, nha s\u1ef9, d\u01b0\u1ee3c s\u1ef9, gi\u00e1o s\u01b0, k\u1ef9 s\u01b0, khoa h\u1ecdc gia, ch\u00ednh tr\u1ecb gia\u2026 \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0y ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i chi\u1ebfm ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. <\/strong>H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u1edd h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng, v\u00e0 d\u00f9 c\u00f3 ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, h\u1ecd c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng d\u00e1m m\u1ea1nh d\u1ea1n hy sinh \u0111\u00e1nh \u0111\u1ed5i m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng m\u00e0 vai tr\u00f2 l\u00e0m v\u1ee3, l\u00e0m m\u1eb9 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi h\u1ecd.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2.\u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i & Tri\u1ebft l\u00fd s\u1ed1ng th\u1eddi \u0111\u1ea1i:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u00edch \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1ef1 do luy\u1ebfn \u00e1i.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f3 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, v\u00e0 th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng? Theo nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 phong tr\u00e0o nam n\u1eef b\u00ecnh quy\u1ec1n, quan ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh, v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do luy\u1ebfn \u00e1i \u0111ang ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn hi\u1ec7n nay, nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n mang l\u1ea1i, th\u00ec cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n v\u1edbi l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng t\u1ef1 do luy\u1ebfn \u00e1i, t\u1ef1 do t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u00f9 \u0111\u1eafp.<\/strong> Theo k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a Pew \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00eau tr\u00ean, th\u00e0nh ph\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ed9c th\u00e2n hi\u1ec7n nay g\u1ed3m 47% trong gi\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh ho\u1eb7c l\u01b0\u1ee1ng t\u00ednh, v\u00e0 29% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u00e1c \u0111\u1ecbnh gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh nam hay n\u1eef. C\u0169ng theo k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 n\u00e0y, 30 trong s\u1ed1 195 qu\u1ed1c gia \u0111\u00e3 th\u00f4ng qua lu\u1eadt h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng kinh t\u1ebf.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong khi n\u1eef gi\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng cao v\u1ec1 h\u1ecdc th\u1ee9c, ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c l\u1eadp v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u1ecf ra r\u1ea5t ng\u1ea1i ng\u00f9ng chia s\u1ebb l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1ee3ng l\u01b0u, c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 kh\u1ed1i t\u00e0i s\u1ea3n m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u1eeb kh\u1ed1i \u00f3c, \u0111\u00f4i tay v\u00e0 s\u1ee9c lao \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng. S\u1ef1 nghi ng\u1edd v\u00e0 ph\u00e2n v\u00e2n gi\u1eefa l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n hay m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng b\u1ea1n b\u00e8, s\u00f2ng ph\u1eb3ng lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd<\/strong>. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i th\u00edch anh \u2013 kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ea5t thi\u1ebft t\u00f4i y\u00eau anh – \u00a0t\u00f4i \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi anh. Nh\u01b0ng khi n\u00e0o t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y th\u00edch anh, ho\u1eb7c nhu c\u1ea7u t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft n\u1eefa, t\u00f4i v\u00e0 anh chia tay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.\u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t.\u201d (Genesis 2:18)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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C\u0103n c\u1ee9 tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u nh\u01b0 v\u1eeba tr\u00edch d\u1eabn, v\u00e0 d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o kinh nghi\u1ec7m m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta \u0111ang ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn hi\u1ec7n nay, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean sau \u0111\u00e2y tr\u1edf n\u00ean c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft cho nh\u1eefng thanh ni\u00ean, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111ang mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecm m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda m\u1ea3nh gh\u00e9p c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f9ng s\u00e1nh b\u01b0\u1edbc tr\u00ean h\u00e0nh tr\u00ecnh cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00dd ch\u00ed c\u1ea7u ti\u1ebfn.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai th\u1eddi nay c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 ch\u01b0a th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea1t, ch\u01b0a c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ecba v\u1ecb ho\u1eb7c ch\u01b0a t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m \u1ed5n \u0111\u1ecbnh, nh\u01b0ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u00fd ch\u00ed c\u1ea7u ti\u1ebfn, quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m d\u00e2n th\u00e2n v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn hy sinh \u0111\u1ec3 v\u01b0\u01a1n l\u00ean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tinh th\u1ea7n tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ngo\u00e0i ra, h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i t\u1ecf ra l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m v\u1edbi m\u00ecnh, v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1eddi, v\u00e0 v\u1edbi cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng chung. S\u1ef1 ph\u00e2n chia b\u1ed5n ph\u1eadn theo ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh kh\u00f4ng lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 c\u1ed9ng t\u00e1c, chia s\u1ebb, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng h\u00e0nh v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 con. \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef r\u1ea5t c\u1ea7n trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n hi\u1ec7n nay, khi m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ec1u c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00f4ng \u0103n vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m ri\u00eang.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.    <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau c\u00f9ng, \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ng\u00e0y nay mu\u1ed1n t\u00ecm n\u01a1i m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng l\u00e0 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 v\u00e0 l\u1ed1i c\u01b0 x\u1eed tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh. Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1eefng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t nam n\u1eef, m\u00e0 c\u00f2n ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft dung h\u00f2a v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n tr\u1edf n\u00ean h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac nh\u1edd v\u00e0o s\u1ef1 b\u1ed5 t\u00fac, t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng c\u1ee7a ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh, c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, v\u00e0 c\u1ee7a v\u0103n h\u00f3a.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cN\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng t\u1eed t\u1ebf v\u00e0 c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00ec th\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng \u1edf v\u1eady c\u00f2n h\u01a1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng!\u201d \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 c\u00e2u n\u00f3i kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n \u0111\u00fang. C\u1ed1t l\u00f5i c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch s\u1ef1 xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u00ean tr\u00e1i \u0111\u1ea5t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng tr\u00ean l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0110\u1ebf khi t\u1ea1o d\u1ef1ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi: \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t!\u201d (Genesis 2:18) \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y n\u00f3i l\u00ean r\u1eb1ng, trong ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ph\u1ea3i nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb, t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau. S\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a tuy\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i t\u1ecf ra m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 khi\u1ebfn cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n n\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5c v\u00e0 k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng. Ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi y\u00eau ai, n\u00e0ng ph\u1ea3i n\u1ec3 ph\u1ee5c ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1edbc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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1. Pew Research CenterAugust 20, 2020
https:\/\/www.pewresearch.rg\/social-trends\/2020\/08\/20\/a-profile-of-single-americans\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. https:\/\/baomai.blogspot.com\/2013\/12\/vi-sao-phai-ep-khong-thich-lay-chong.html<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3.https:\/\/baomai.blogspot.com\/2013\/12\/vi-sao-phai-ep-khong-thich-lay-chong.html
https:\/\/www.mindbodygreen.com\/articles\/valid-reasons-to-not-want-to-want-to-get-married<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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