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T\u1ee5c ng\u1eef Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cCon g\u00e1i m\u01b0\u1eddi hai b\u1ebfn n\u01b0\u1edbc\u201d \u00e1m ch\u1ec9 con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai \u201ctrong nh\u1edd \u0111\u1ee5c ch\u1ecbu\u201d c\u1ee7a n\u1eef gi\u1edbi. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0o ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh h\u00f4m nay, con thuy\u1ec1n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1ebd tr\u00f4i v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t b\u1ebfn kh\u00e1c n\u1eefa, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 b\u1ebfn \u201cch\u1ed3ng n\u01b0\u1edbc ngo\u00e0i\u201d. Ri\u00eang \u1edf b\u1ebfn n\u00e0y, v\u1edbi kinh nghi\u1ec7m ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, theo t\u00f4i, c\u00f3 l\u1ebd \u0111\u1ee5c nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n trong. T\u1ea1i sao? T\u1ea1i v\u00ec \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n s\u1ebd g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng th\u1eed th\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn do \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh t\u1eeb gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, v\u0103n h\u00f3a, l\u1ecbch s\u1eed, ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef v\u00e0 x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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Nh\u1edb l\u1ea1i trong m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i g\u1eb7p g\u1ee1, anh ch\u1ecb em \u0111ang vui v\u1ebb trao \u0111\u1ed5i v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, t\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean c\u00f3 anh n\u00eau th\u1eafc m\u1eafc: \u201cC\u00f3 ai bi\u1ebft t\u1ea1i sao g\u00e1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam b\u00e2y gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ed5 x\u00f4 \u0111i l\u1ea5y ngo\u1ea1i qu\u1ed1c kh\u00f4ng v\u1eady? B\u1ed9 trai Vi\u1ec7t Nam t\u1ec7 l\u1eafm sao?\u201d C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi h\u01a1i thi\u1ebfu t\u1ebf nh\u1ecb, \u0111\u1ed9ng ch\u1ea1m \u0111\u1ebfn c\u1ea3m th\u1ee9c c\u1ee7a gi\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef, n\u00ean m\u1ed9t ch\u1ecb \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ed1i \u0111\u00e1p th\u1eb3ng th\u1eebng: \u201cKh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 t\u1ec7 m\u00e0 c\u00f2n h\u01a1n t\u1ec7 n\u1eefa. C\u1edd b\u1ea1c, c\u00e1 \u0111\u1ed9, \u0111\u00e1 g\u00e0, say x\u1ec9n. Kh\u00f4ng c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, say x\u1ec9n th\u00ec l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng, gia tr\u01b0\u1edfng, \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111o\u00e1n, v\u00f4 t\u00e2m, v\u00f4 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m. C\u00f2n v\u00e0i \u0111\u1ee9a \u1ef7 c\u00f3 ti\u1ec1n, c\u00f3 b\u1ea1c c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u1ea1i \u0103n ch\u01a1i, xa x\u1ec9, g\u00e1i g\u00fa. Nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai \u1ea5y th\u00ec \u1edf gi\u00e1 c\u00f2n h\u01a1n l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m ch\u1ed3ng.\u201d Th\u1ea5y c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n c\u00f3 ph\u1ea7n kh\u00f4ng vui, m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi im l\u1eb7ng v\u00e0 chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Th\u1eadt ra kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai Vi\u1ec7t Nam \u1edf trong hay ngo\u00e0i n\u01b0\u1edbc, m\u00e0 m\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi n\u1ebfu m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m nh\u01b0 tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m ch\u1ed3ng. \u201cGiang s\u01a1n d\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ed5i<\/em> b\u1ea3n t\u00ednh kh\u00f3 d\u1eddi!<\/em>\u201d H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0nh m\u1ea1nh \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u1ee9 cho r\u1eb1ng con g\u00e1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam th\u1eddi nay kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n b\u1ecb r\u00e0ng bu\u1ed9c b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng t\u1ee5c l\u1ec7 phong ki\u1ebfn nh\u01b0 \u201ccha m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1eb7t \u0111\u00e2u, con ng\u1ed3i \u0111\u00f3\u201d, m\u00e0 t\u1ef1 do ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u00ec th\u1eddi gian h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng kho\u1ea3nh kh\u1eafc \u0111\u1eb9p, l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n, t\u00ecnh t\u1ee9, v\u00e0 h\u1ea5p d\u1eabn nh\u1ea5t. Th\u1eddi gian t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u c\u1ee7a hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Th\u1eddi gian c\u1ee7a l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh. Nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i d\u1ec5 b\u1ecb nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn, v\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh sai l\u1ea7m nh\u1ea5t!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ee5c ng\u1eef ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cG\u00e1i tham t\u00e0i, trai tham s\u1eafc.\u201d Ho\u1eb7c \u201ccon trai y\u00eau b\u1eb1ng m\u1eaft, con g\u00e1i y\u00eau b\u1eb1ng tai\u201d. B\u1eaft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y, nh\u1eefng ch\u00e0ng s\u1edf khanh th\u01b0\u1eddng d\u00f9ng kh\u00ed gi\u1edbi \u201c\u0111\u1eb9p trai kh\u00f4ng b\u1eb1ng chai m\u1eb7t\u201d \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 ng\u1eadm \u0111\u1eafng nu\u1ed1t cay, \u00e2n h\u1eadn c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1eddi. H\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng tr\u00e1nh kh\u1ecfi quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh sai l\u1ea7m, v\u00ec tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i b\u1eaby \u0111\u1eb9p trai th\u00ec l\u1ea1i v\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o c\u00e1i b\u1eaby t\u00e0i; v\u00e0 tr\u00e1nh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i b\u1eaby t\u00e0i th\u00ec l\u1ea1i kh\u00f3 tr\u00e1nh c\u00e1i b\u1eaby \u201cchai m\u1eb7t\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 gi\u00fap ch\u1ecb em ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t trong l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, g\u1ea7y \u0111\u00e2y trong m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn tr\u00ean https:\/\/www.india.com \u203a Lifestyle, \u00edt nh\u1ea5t 6 lo\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng con trai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khuy\u00ean l\u00e0 \u201cc\u00f3 \u1ebf c\u0169ng \u0111\u1eebng l\u1ea5y\u201d. [1]<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh (abusive):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 m\u00e1u b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh th\u01b0\u1eddng kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng theo b\u1ea3n n\u0103ng. Con ng\u01b0\u1eddi ai c\u0169ng c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng l\u00fac m\u1ea5t b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ef1 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n, c\u1ea3m t\u00ecnh, l\u1eddi n\u00f3i hay vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y lu\u00f4n t\u1ecf ra n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y, b\u1ef1c b\u1ed9i, v\u00e0 b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n m\u1ecdi chuy\u1ec7n t\u1eeb nh\u1ecf \u0111\u1ebfn l\u1edbn, t\u1eeb b\u00ecnh th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ebfn quan tr\u1ecdng. Nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 do thi\u1ebfu t\u1ef1 ch\u1ebf, thi\u1ebfu b\u1ea3n l\u00e3nh m\u00e0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn c\u00e3i v\u00e3, r\u1ed3i \u201cth\u01b0\u1ee3ng c\u1eb3ng ch\u00e2n, h\u1ea1 c\u1eb3ng tay\u201d v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 con. Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0o r\u01a1i v\u00e0o tay h\u1ecd, r\u1ea5t \u00edt hy v\u1ecdng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. Nhi\u1ec1u v\u1ee5 b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh gia \u0111\u00ecnh, nhi\u1ec1u c\u00e1i ch\u1ebft bi th\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u00e3 x\u1ea3y ra v\u00ec nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng mang t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y.    <\/p>\n\n\n

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N\u1ebfu trong th\u1eddi gian t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u, h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n may m\u1eafn nh\u1eadn ra ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh x\u1eed l\u1ed7 m\u00e3ng, ch\u1eedi th\u1ec1, v\u0103ng t\u1ee5c, n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y, v\u00e0 t\u1ec7 h\u01a1n l\u00e0 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e3 l\u1edbn ti\u1ebfng v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n ho\u1eb7c \u201ct\u1eb7ng\u201d b\u1ea1n m\u1ed9t b\u1ea1t tai. L\u1eddi khuy\u00ean t\u1ed1t nh\u1ea5t d\u00e0nh cho b\u1ea1n trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u00e3y: \u201cB\u1ecf c\u1ee7a ch\u1ea1y l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d.  \u0110\u1eebng bao gi\u1edd nh\u1eb9 d\u1ea1 m\u00e0 thi\u1ec7t v\u00e0o th\u00e2n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tham c\u00f4ng ti\u1ebfc vi\u1ec7c (work is life):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u0103m ch\u1ec9, si\u00eang n\u0103ng, ch\u1ecbu kh\u00f3, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 ch\u00ed c\u1ea7u ti\u1ebfn l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng coi c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0 ch\u00ednh, \u201cl\u00e0m ng\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ee7, tranh th\u1ee7 l\u00e0m \u0111\u00eam\u201d, th\u00ec nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y mang h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng \u201cnghi\u1ec7n vi\u1ec7c\u201d. H\u1ecd lu\u00f4n d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gi\u1edd cho c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c v\u00e0 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 gi\u1edd cho gia \u0111\u00ecnh, cho v\u1ee3 con. L\u1ea1nh nh\u1ea1t v\u00e0 v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh. T\u00ecnh y\u00eau, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, con c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 y\u1ebfu, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. Theo m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u 26% trong s\u1ed1 h\u1ecd th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m t\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1ecb \u201cv\u1eaft s\u1ea1ch c\u1ea3m x\u00fac\u201d do c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u1ec3 \u00fd l\u1eafng nghe b\u1ea1n, n\u1ebfu b\u1ea5t qu\u00e1 th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi \u201cc\u00f3\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201ckh\u00f4ng\u201d cho qua chuy\u1ec7n. H\u1ecd c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t \u00edt khi trao \u0111\u1ed5i ho\u1eb7c b\u00e0n th\u1ea3o g\u00ec v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t c\u00f4 \u0111\u01a1n trong c\u0103n nh\u00e0 d\u00f9 l\u1edbn hay nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Ngo\u00e0i vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fa t\u00e2m v\u00e0o c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00f4 c\u1ea3m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecnh ti\u1ec1n ki\u1ebfp:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 tin l\u00e0 m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau m\u1ed9t ai \u0111\u00f3 ho\u1eb7c ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau m\u00ecnh \u1edf ki\u1ebfp tr\u01b0\u1edbc kh\u00f4ng? M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1eeba nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o b\u1ea1n \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb h\u00fat h\u1ed3n, \u201ctinh t\u00fa quay cu\u1ed3ng\u201d, ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ec9 v\u00e0i l\u1ea7n ch\u00e0o h\u1ecfi x\u00e3 giao, m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i bu\u1ed5i h\u1eb9n h\u00f2 c\u00f9ng nhau \u0111i xin\u00ea hay u\u1ed1ng c\u00e0ph\u00ea l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 t\u1ecf ra nh\u01b0 \u201chai ta \u0111\u00e3 g\u1eb7p nhau \u1edf ti\u1ec1n ki\u1ebfp\u201d. H\u00e3y coi ch\u1eebng, \u201cti\u1ebfng s\u00e9t \u00e1i t\u00ecnh\u201d (coup de foudre) n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng b\u00e1o hi\u1ec7u gi\u00f4ng b\u00e3o sau \u0111\u00f3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00e1ng l\u01b0u \u00fd \u1edf con ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y l\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ee9 n\u1eb1ng n\u1eb7c \u0111\u00f2i c\u01b0\u1edbi b\u1ea1n: \u201cAnh m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u01b0\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c em th\u00ec \u0111\u1eddi anh nh\u01b0 v\u00f4 ngh\u0129a.\u201d Ho\u1eb7c \u201cEm l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda m\u1ea3nh gh\u00e9p kh\u00f4ng thi\u1ebfu c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi anh.\u201d Th\u00e0nh ng\u1eef ti\u1ebfng Anh c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cEasy come easy go\u201d \u2013 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u1ebfn d\u1ec5 th\u00ec ra \u0111i c\u0169ng d\u1ec5.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ednh c\u00e1ch v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng, thi\u1ebfu ki\u00ean nh\u1eabn ch\u1edd \u0111\u1ee3i, c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n n\u1ea1n m\u00e0 b\u1ea1n c\u1ea7n \u0111\u1eb7t ra: Li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 g\u00ec g\u00e0i b\u1eaby trong cu\u1ed9c t\u00ecnh n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng? Qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec \u0111\u00e1ng nghi ng\u1edd kh\u00f4ng? T\u1ea1i sao l\u1ea1i qu\u00e1 v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng? Ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00f4ng? V\u00e0 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady li\u1ec7u c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 nh\u1eabn n\u1ea1i v\u00e0 chung th\u1ee7y \u0111\u1ec3 s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1eddi v\u1edbi b\u1ea1n hay kh\u00f4ng? Ti\u1ec1n ki\u1ebfp th\u00ec kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu v\u1ed9i v\u00e0ng ti\u1ebfn t\u1edbi h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn \u201ct\u00e0n ki\u1ebfp\u201d!    <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1ee9c \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t  (over possessive):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u0169ng nh\u01b0 lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1o h\u00e0nh, \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e1ng s\u1ee3 nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u00f4ng minh kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u1ea5y l\u00e0m ch\u1ed3ng. H\u1ecd r\u1ea5t \u0111a nghi v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111o\u00e1n. H\u1ecd s\u1ebd b\u1eaft b\u1ebb b\u1ea1n, s\u1ebd nghi ng\u1edd b\u1ea1n, v\u00e0 s\u1ebd tra v\u1ea5n b\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m. Th\u00ed d\u1ee5, c\u00e1c ki\u1ec3u \u00e1o qu\u1ea7n th\u1eddi trang b\u1ea1n m\u1eb7c, b\u1ea1n b\u00e8 b\u1ea1n giao ti\u1ebfp, nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ti\u1ec7n th\u00f4ng tin b\u1ea1n d\u00f9ng. T\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t v\u00e0 \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t theo \u00fd h\u1ecd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong v\u0103n h\u00f3a Vi\u1ec7t Nam, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u1ebfp v\u00e0o h\u1ea1ng gia tr\u01b0\u1edfng, ch\u1ee7 quan, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed9c t\u00e0i. B\u1ea1n s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 v\u00ec t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n mu\u1ed1n b\u1ea1n ph\u1ea3i theo \u00fd h\u1ecd nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t n\u00f4 l\u1ec7.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Tr\u0103ng hoa ong b\u01b0\u1edbm (Casanova):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do \u0111i\u1ec3n t\u00edch Casanova l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 5 v\u1ee3 v\u00e0 h\u00e0ng t\u00e1 t\u00ecnh nh\u00e2n. \u0110i\u1ec3m ch\u00ednh c\u1ee7a lo\u1ea1i ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u0103ng hoa l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng chung t\u00ecnh. \u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u00f3n h\u00e0ng, m\u00f3n \u0111\u1ed3 ch\u01a1i m\u00e0 h\u1ecd h\u00e3nh di\u1ec7n c\u00f3 trong b\u1ed9 s\u01b0u t\u1eadp c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. H\u1ecd t\u1ecf ra r\u1ea5t kh\u00e9o l\u00e9o, \u0111\u00e0o hoa, l\u00e3ng m\u1ea1n khi chinh ph\u1ee5c ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat b\u1edfi c\u00e1i n\u00e9t \u0111\u00e0o hoa, v\u00e0 tin t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a h\u1eb9n \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1eadt c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ea1i h\u1ecda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tin v\u00e0o l\u1eddi h\u1ee9a c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng? Sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u1eddi t\u1ef1 th\u00fa c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t kh\u00e1ch l\u00e0ng ch\u01a1i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i v\u00e0o v\u0103n h\u1ecdc s\u1eed:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cM\u1ed9t tr\u00e0, m\u1ed9t r\u01b0\u1ee3u, m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0,<\/em>
Ba c\u00e1i l\u0103ng nh\u0103ng n\u00f3 qu\u1ea5y ta,<\/em>
Ch\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ee9 n\u00e0o hay th\u1ee9 n\u1ea5y,<\/em>
C\u00f3 ch\u0103ng ch\u1eeba r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u1edbi ch\u1eeba tr\u00e0.\u201d <\/em>[2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong t\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ed5 t\u01b0\u1eddng (c\u1edd b\u1ea1c, r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, trai g\u00e1i, nghi\u1ec7n h\u00fat), tr\u0103ng hoa l\u00e0 ngu\u1ed3n g\u1ed1c sinh ra s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 l\u00e0 c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00f3 ch\u1eefa tr\u1ecb nh\u1ea5t.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u00e1m \u00e1o m\u1eb9 (mama\u2019s boy):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y\u00eau m\u1eb9, l\u1eafng nghe v\u00e0 t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9 ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n kh\u00e1c v\u1edbi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng h\u00e0nh x\u1eed nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb b\u00e1m \u00e1o m\u1eb9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai trung b\u00ecnh \u1edf tu\u1ed5i 30 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ea7y \u0111\u1ee7 v\u1ec1  m\u1eb7t t\u00e2m l\u00fd. V\u1edbi s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh n\u00e0y, anh ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 l\u1eadp \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai m\u00e0 l\u00fac n\u00e0o c\u0169ng m\u1eb9, c\u00e1i g\u00ec c\u0169ng m\u1eb9, \u0111i \u0111\u00e2u c\u0169ng m\u1eb9, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng n\u1ea5u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00f4 m\u00ec, lu\u1ed9c \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c qu\u1ea3 tr\u1ee9ng, gi\u1eb7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i \u00e1o, th\u00ec sau khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n, nh\u1eefng \u201cc\u1eadu \u1ea5m\u201d, nh\u1eefng \u201cc\u00f4ng t\u1eed\u201d n\u00e0y l\u00e0m sao c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng bao b\u1ecdc, lo l\u1eafng v\u00e0 nu\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gia \u0111\u00ecnh nh\u1ecf c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cB\u1edfi th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng s\u1ebd b\u1ecf cha m\u1eb9 m\u00ecnh m\u00e0 luy\u1ebfn \u00e1i v\u1edbi v\u1ee3 m\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai tr\u1edf n\u00ean m\u1ed9t.\u201d (Genesis 2:24) Ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 m\u1ebfn, v\u00e0 k\u00ednh tr\u1ecdng m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n trai bi\u1ebft hi\u1ebfu k\u00ednh cha m\u1eb9, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean l\u1ea5y m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft b\u00e1m g\u1ea5u \u00e1o m\u1eb9. L\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y l\u00e0 b\u1ea1n ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn thay th\u1ebf ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a anh ta \u0111\u1ec3 chi\u1ec1u chu\u1ed9ng, s\u0103n s\u00f3c, v\u00e0 lo l\u1eafng cho m\u1ed9t th\u1eb1ng con trai l\u1edbn nh\u01b0ng v\u00f4 t\u00edch s\u1ef1.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tin v\u00e0o th\u1ea7y b\u00f3i:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 lo\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng th\u1ee9 7, lo\u1ea1i m\u00e0 theo v\u0103n h\u00f3a v\u00e0 phong t\u1ee5c \u00c1 \u0110\u00f4ng, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 Vi\u1ec7t Nam l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 m\u1ea5y \u00f4ng, m\u1ea5y b\u00e0 th\u1ea7y b\u00f3i, t\u1eed vi hay t\u01b0\u1edbng s\u1ed1 b\u1ea3o l\u1ea5y.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1ea1n l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng, sinh con, \u0111\u1ebb c\u00e1i l\u00e0 ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a v\u00e0 quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n c\u1ee7a b\u1ea1n. Kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ea7y b\u00f3i, th\u1ea7y t\u1eed vi hay t\u01b0\u1edbng s\u1ed1 n\u00e0o c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y thay b\u1ea1n<\/strong>. Nh\u1eefng g\u00ec h\u1ecd n\u00f3i ch\u1ec9 mang t\u00ednh c\u00e1ch t\u01b0 v\u1ea5n, tham kh\u1ea3o ch\u1ee9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ecbnh m\u1ec7nh. Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng s\u1ed1ng thay cho b\u1ea1n \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1ecbu h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 do nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean \u1ea5y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 s\u1ef1 ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n v\u1ec1 ki\u1ebfn th\u1ee9c, khoa h\u1ecdc ng\u00e0y nay, quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh y\u00eau hay c\u01b0\u1edbi d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o ng\u00e0y l\u00e0nh, th\u00e1ng t\u1ed1t, d\u1ef1a v\u00e0o h\u1ee3p tu\u1ed5i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00ea t\u00edn, nh\u1ea3m nh\u00ed. H\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac l\u00e0 do t\u1ef1 b\u1ea1n. B\u1ea1n m\u1edbi l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. \u00dd th\u1ee9c n\u00e0y s\u1ebd gi\u00fap b\u1ea1n s\u00e1ng su\u1ed1t h\u01a1n trong nh\u1eefng l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai, \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTh\u1eeba ti\u1ec1n th\u00ec \u0111em m\u00e0 cho
\u0110\u1eebng d\u1ea1i xem b\u00f3i r\u01b0\u1edbc lo v\u00e0o m\u00ecnh.\u201d [3] <\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong>
(B\u00e0i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec7u \u0111\u00ednh t\u1eeb b\u00e0i vi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ed5 bi\u1ebfn ng\u00e0y 26 April, 2022, tr\u00ean trang nh\u00e0:
www.giadinhnazareth.org)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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T\u00e0i li\u1ec7u tham kh\u1ea3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. These are the 6 types of men you should NOT marry!
https:\/\/www.india.com \u203a Lifestyle,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Th\u01a1 Tr\u1ea7n T\u1ebf X\u01b0\u01a1ng, NXB V\u0103n ho\u00e1 – Th\u00f4ng tin, 1998.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. T\u1ee5c ng\u1eef Phong dao<\/strong> do H\u1ecdc gi\u1ea3 Nguy\u1ec5n V\u0103n Ng\u1ecdc<\/strong> hi\u1ec7u \u00d4n Nh\u01b0 s\u01b0u t\u1ea7m, bi\u00ean so\u1ea1n v\u00e0 xu\u1ea5t b\u1ea3n t\u1eeb n\u0103m 1928, g\u1ed3m 2 t\u1eadp m\u00e0 \u00f4ng g\u1ecdi l\u00e0 T\u1eadp tr\u00ean v\u00e0 T\u1eadp d\u01b0\u1edbi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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