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C\u00f3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t ba c\u00e1ch ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i hay n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nhau: b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef, b\u1eb1ng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9, v\u00e0 b\u1eb1ng ch\u1eef vi\u1ebft. <\/strong>\u0110\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i hay n\u00f3i b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c chuy\u1ec3n \u0111\u1ea1t b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi, b\u1eb1ng bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n c\u01a1 th\u1ec3, v\u00e0 \u00a0b\u1eb1ng vi\u1ebft th\u00e0nh ch\u1eef \u0111i\u1ec1u mu\u1ed1n n\u00f3i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u1ea1i ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i, kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u nhau v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng trao \u0111\u1ed5i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau. Thay v\u00ec n\u00f3i cho nhau nghe, l\u1eafng nghe \u0111\u1ec3 hi\u1ec3u nhau, h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 to ti\u1ebfng c\u00e3i v\u00e3 r\u1ed3i d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a. Theo ki\u1ec3u n\u00f3i b\u00ecnh d\u00e2n g\u1ecdi \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 \u201ckh\u1eafc kh\u1ea9u!\u201d<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng to ti\u1ebfng, c\u00e3i v\u00e3, b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a do nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng quan \u0111i\u1ec3m, t\u00e2m t\u00ednh kh\u00e1c nhau, thi\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 th\u1ea5u hi\u1ec3u, th\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m l\u1eabn nhau. Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ti\u1ebfng n\u00f3i chung, kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ly d\u1ecb. <\/strong>Theo m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u, con s\u1ed1 th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea cho th\u1ea5y x\u00e1c xu\u1ea5t ly d\u1ecb do t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i l\u00e0 65%. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c c\u0169ng cho bi\u1ebft v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n, kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea3m th\u00f4ng v\u00e0 chia s\u1ebb v\u1edbi nhau chi\u1ebfm 50% c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c ly d\u1ecb v\u1edbi l\u00fd do \u201ckh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau.\u201d \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng g\u1eb7p b\u1ebf t\u1eafc trong \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i d\u00f9 b\u1eb1ng l\u1eddi, b\u1eb1ng ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u01a1 th\u1ec3 hay b\u1eb1ng ch\u1eef vi\u1ebft c\u00f3 r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u. Ch\u00fang \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb nh\u1eefng ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh, v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1, v\u00e0 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00e1c nhau. L\u00e0 con ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00f9 l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng hay t\u00ecnh nh\u00e2n vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u, ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft m\u1ecdi suy ngh\u0129, t\u00ednh to\u00e1n trong \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a nhau l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd x\u1ea3y ra. L\u00fd do duy nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 hi\u1ec3u: m\u1ed9t b\u00ean l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng, con trai, m\u1ed9t b\u00ean l\u00e0 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, con g\u00e1i. \u0110\u00f3 c\u00f2n ch\u01b0a k\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t v\u1ec1 di truy\u1ec1n, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c gia \u0111\u00ecnh, h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, v\u0103n h\u00f3a v\u00e0 t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do t\u00e2m l\u00fd nam n\u1eef kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng t\u1ef1 n\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n, v\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, kh\u00f4ng hi\u1ec3u nhau l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u00f4ng m\u1ed9t ai, d\u00f9 l\u00e0 v\u1ee3 hay ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 n\u00f3i m\u00ecnh hi\u1ec3u ch\u1ed3ng ho\u1eb7c v\u1ee3 100%. V\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u00ecnh d\u00e2n Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cT\u00f4i \u0111i gu\u1ed1c trong b\u1ee5ng anh.\u201d C\u00e1i l\u1ed1i \u201csuy b\u1ee5ng ta ra b\u1ee5ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi\u201d n\u00e0y r\u1ea5t ph\u1ea3n t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 l\u00e0 nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y n\u00ean nh\u1eefng b\u1ebf t\u1eafc trong vi\u1ec7c t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u, trao \u0111\u1ed5i gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau 30 n\u0103m mi\u1ec7t m\u00e0i nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd, Sigmund Freud, cha \u0111\u1ebb c\u1ee7a ng\u00e0nh Ph\u00e2n T\u00e2m H\u1ecdc \u0111\u00e3 ph\u1ea3i chua ch\u00e1t tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i: \u201cT\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n g\u00ec!\u201d M\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n\n

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B\u00ean trong nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00e2m l\u00fd l\u00e0 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i. Nh\u1eefng nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft khi ph\u00e2n t\u00edch l\u00fd do c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e3 gi\u1eefa hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e3, tranh ch\u1ea5p n\u00e0y kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd qu\u00e1 l\u1edbn. Kh\u00f4ng ai mu\u1ed1n h\u1ea1 m\u00ecnh xu\u1ed1ng d\u00f9 th\u1ea5p h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn ra c\u00e1i sai c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 c\u00e1i \u0111\u00fang c\u1ee7a ch\u1ed3ng hay v\u1ee3. T\u1eeb \u0111\u00f3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng \u201ckh\u1eafc kh\u1ea9u\u201d!\u00a0<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f4i \u0111\u00fang. T\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i cho r\u00f5 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. T\u00f4i! T\u00f4i! T\u00f4i! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i qu\u00e1 l\u1edbn lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh h\u01a1n v\u1ee3 ho\u1eb7c h\u01a1n ch\u1ed3ng, v\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n cho \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u1ea3i \u201ckh\u1ea9u ph\u1ee5c, t\u00e2m ph\u1ee5c\u201d b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch cho n\u1ed5 tung v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 ra, n\u1ebfu c\u1ea7n th\u00ec ch\u1eedi b\u1edbi nhau. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 ch\u1eb3ng ai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec, ngo\u1ea1i tr\u1eeb s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn, c\u00e2m n\u00edn, v\u00e0 d\u00e8 ch\u1eebng nhau: \u201cTh\u1eafng l\u00fd l\u1ebd nh\u01b0ng thua v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m.\u201d \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Theo ph\u00e2n t\u00e2m h\u1ecdc, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn t\u1ef1 t\u00f4n, t\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea1i khi kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 \u00fd m\u00ecnh, ho\u1eb7c khi g\u1eb7p nh\u1eefng ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i th\u01b0\u1eddng r\u1ea5t d\u1ec5 t\u1ef1 ty hay m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m. M\u1ecdi suy ngh\u0129, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 quy h\u01b0\u1edbng v\u1ec1 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i, t\u1ef1 \u00e1i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng \u0111a m\u00ea c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh h\u1ecd. V\u00ec v\u1eady, n\u1ebfu ai \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 cho h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft v\u1ec1 nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y, l\u1eadp t\u1ee9c h\u1ecd ch\u1ed1i v\u00e0 t\u00ecm c\u00e1ch ph\u1ea3n bi\u1ec7n b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u1ed1i b\u1ecf s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt, tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt, v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3n \u1ee9ng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c qua nh\u1eefng ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c: \u201cCon ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00f4i l\u00e0 v\u1eady. Ai y\u00eau hay kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau th\u00ec t\u00f9y ch\u1ee9 b\u1ea3o t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i suy ngh\u0129, n\u00f3i n\u0103ng, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00e1c \u0111i th\u00ec t\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c.<\/mark>\u201d<\/strong> \u0110\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u00ed d\u1ee5 ph\u1ea3n bi\u1ec7n thi\u1ebfu tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh khi \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u00f3 v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt. \u0110\u1ee9ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 chuy\u00ean gia v\u1ec1 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u0169ng \u0111\u00e0nh \u201cb\u00f3 tay\u201d!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do kh\u00e1c ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1ee7 l\u1edbn. M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1eb7c t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau l\u00e0 tr\u1edf n\u00ean gi\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau; \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, hy sinh cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh y\u00eau.<\/mark> Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ebfn v\u1edbi nhau v\u00ec t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, v\u00e0 v\u00ec t\u00ecnh y\u00eau h\u1ecd s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac cho nhau n\u00ean d\u00f9 c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i s\u1eeda \u0111\u1ed5i ho\u1eb7c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn l\u00e0m m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 vi\u1ec7c m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng h\u1eb3n l\u00e0 th\u00edch hay kh\u00f4ng th\u00edch, th\u1eafng hay thua l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n thi\u1ebft. \u201cY\u00eau l\u00e0 ch\u1ebft trong l\u00f2ng m\u1ed9t \u00edt\u201d. Trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 c\u1ea7n nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i \u201c\u00edt \u1ecfi\u201d \u1ea5y v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee7 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00e1ch di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 suy ngh\u0129 ho\u1eb7c t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng bao g\u1ed3m ba h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y kh\u00e1c nhau, nh\u01b0ng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 d\u00f9ng ng\u00f4n t\u1eeb xen l\u1eabn c\u00e1c bi\u1ec3u hi\u1ec7n th\u1ec3 l\u00fd. M\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i nghe th\u00ec h\u01a1i kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i r\u1ea5t \u0111\u00fang v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt: \u201cN\u1ebfu Th\u01b0\u1ee3ng \u0110\u1ebf ban cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 hai c\u00e1i mi\u1ec7ng, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd d\u00f9ng c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t l\u00fac.\u201d \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng h\u01a1n khi hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n c\u00e3i v\u00e3 nhau. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu c\u00e3i v\u00e3, tranh lu\u1eadn l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng n\u00ean x\u1ea3y ra trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, th\u00ec v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i hay n\u00f3i v\u1edbi nhau. Trong t\u00e2m l\u00fd tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u, c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n d\u00f9ng t\u1eeb tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u \u0111\u1ec3 n\u00f3i v\u1ec1 c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ec3 v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng n\u00f3i chuy\u1ec7n v\u1edbi nhau, chia s\u1ebb nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed3n vui v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft l\u1eafng nghe nhau.<\/strong> Ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0a \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3i: \u201cPh\u1ea3i u\u1ed1n l\u01b0\u1ee1i b\u1ea3y l\u1ea7n tr\u01b0\u1edbc khi n\u00f3i.\u201d Th\u1eddi gian u\u1ed1n l\u01b0\u1ee1i n\u00e0y l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1eafng nghe. C\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 nghe tr\u01b0\u1edbc r\u1ed3i m\u1edbi n\u00f3i sau. Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng khi hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00e3i nhau, tranh lu\u1eadn v\u1edbi nhau c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng n\u00f3i to, n\u00f3i c\u00f9ng m\u1ed9t l\u00fac, n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 h\u00e9t v\u00e0o m\u1eb7t nhau \u0111\u1ec3 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n nghe m\u00e0 hi\u1ec3u. R\u1ea5t ti\u1ebfc trong nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat \u1ea5y c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u ch\u1eb3ng nghe \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec v\u00e0 c\u0169ng ch\u1eb3ng hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i khi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng ng\u1ed3i b\u00ean nhau nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng l\u1ea7n h\u1eb9n h\u00f2, h\u1ecd n\u00f3i v\u1edbi nhau d\u00f9 r\u1ea5t nh\u1ecf, \u0111\u00f4i khi ch\u1ec9 b\u1eb1ng n\u1ee5 c\u01b0\u1eddi hay \u00e1nh m\u1eaft m\u00e0 c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u hi\u1ec3u, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac. Nh\u1eefng gi\u00e2y ph\u00fat \u1ea5y th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng gian nh\u01b0 ng\u1eebng l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n\n\n

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Tuy nhi\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 h\u00f2a h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 c\u1edfi m\u1edf v\u1edbi nhau, v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p ph\u1edbt l\u1edd nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia mu\u1ed1n cho m\u00ecnh nghe. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y \u201cim l\u1eb7ng kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0 v\u00e0ng.\u201d H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 t\u1eeb ch\u1ed1i hay ph\u1ee7 nh\u1eadn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady s\u1ebd d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng d\u1ed3n n\u00e9n t\u00e2m l\u00fd khi\u1ebfn cho nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n sau n\u00e0y tr\u1edf n\u00ean kh\u00f3 n\u00f3i. \u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, trong t\u1ef1 \u0111i\u1ec3n c\u1ee7a h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf hai ch\u1eef \u201ckh\u1eafc kh\u1ea9u\u201d. V\u00ec n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng chuy\u1ec7n b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng x\u1ea3y ra, ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 do v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng ho\u1eb7c ch\u01b0a \u0111\u1eb7t m\u00ecnh v\u00e0o v\u1ecb tr\u00ed ng\u01b0\u1eddi nghe, hi\u1ec3u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn c\u1ee7a nhau \u0111\u1ec3 bi\u1ebft m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i \u0111\u00fang c\u00e1ch, \u0111\u00fang n\u01a1i v\u00e0 \u0111\u00fang l\u00fac.<\/mark><\/strong> H\u01a1n th\u1ebf n\u1eefa, \u0111\u1ec3 d\u1ec5 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn, v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft l\u1ef1a l\u1eddi m\u00e0 n\u00f3i. V\u00ec nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 tr\u00ecnh b\u00e0y, \u0111\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt. Ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cL\u1eddi n\u00f3i kh\u00f4ng m\u1ea5t ti\u1ec1n mua, l\u1ef1a l\u1eddi m\u00e0 n\u00f3i cho v\u1eeba l\u00f2ng nhau\u201d, v\u00e0: \u201cN\u00f3i ng\u1ecdt n\u00f3 l\u1ecdt \u0111\u1ebfn x\u01b0\u01a1ng\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i tho\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ngh\u1ec7 thu\u1eadt, n\u00f3 c\u00f2n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u00ed quy\u1ebft x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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