{"id":26513,"date":"2025-10-02T01:32:23","date_gmt":"2025-10-02T01:32:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=26513"},"modified":"2025-10-02T01:32:25","modified_gmt":"2025-10-02T01:32:25","slug":"yeu-con-cho-roi-cho-vot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=26513","title":{"rendered":"Y\u00caU CON CHO ROI CHO V\u1eccT ?<\/strong>
TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/span>"},"content":{"rendered":"
\n
\"\"
____________________<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Y\u00eau con b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u201ccho roi cho v\u1ecdt\u201d v\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh l\u1ed7i th\u1eddi, v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu v\u0103n h\u00f3a. T\u1ea1i c\u00e1c x\u1ee9 t\u1ef1 do, h\u1ecd coi vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t tr\u1ebb em nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi mang t\u00ednh x\u00e2m ph\u1ea1m, g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 th\u1ec3 l\u00fd c\u1ee7a tr\u1ebb. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng l\u1ebd l\u00e0m cha m\u1eb9 – nh\u1eefng cha m\u1eb9 t\u1ed1t, nh\u1eefng cha m\u1eb9 bi\u1ebft quan t\u00e2m, lo l\u1eafng cho t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai con c\u00e1i – th\u1eddi nay l\u1ea1i \u0111\u00e0nh khoanh tay ng\u1ed3i nh\u00ecn con m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n l\u1edbn l\u00ean nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o c\u0169ng m\u1eb7c k\u1ec7? Kh\u00f4ng l\u1ebd v\u00ec lu\u1eadt ph\u00e1p ng\u0103n c\u1ea5m m\u00e0 l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t, gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 huynh tr\u00e1nh n\u00e9 tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, b\u1ecf m\u1eb7c con c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, th\u00ec s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn quan ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ec3 m\u1eb7c con c\u00e1i mu\u1ed1n l\u00e0m g\u00ec, mu\u1ed1n l\u1edbn l\u00ean nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o t\u00f9y ch\u00fang, ho\u1eb7c ph\u00f3 m\u1eb7c con c\u00e1i cho h\u1ecdc \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng, cho x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. Tuy nhi\u00ean, kh\u00f4ng quan t\u00e2m gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m nghi\u00eam tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ph\u1ee5 huynh. <\/mark><\/strong>Ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cSinh con ch\u1eb3ng d\u1ea1y ch\u1eb3ng r\u0103n. Th\u00e0 r\u1eb1ng nu\u00f4i l\u1ee3n \u0103n l\u00f2ng c\u00f2n h\u01a1n.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, li\u1ec7u ph\u1ee5 huynh c\u00f3 n\u00ean s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ec3 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng? N\u1ebfu c\u00f3, ph\u1ea3i nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o? V\u00e0 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t \u1ea5y s\u1ebd nh\u01b0 th\u1ebf n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi t\u01b0 c\u00e1ch, l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i sau n\u00e0y?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TR\u1eba CON C\u1ea6N \u0110\u01af\u1ee2C S\u1eecA PH\u1ea0T<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00e3 l\u00e2u r\u1ed3i, trong m\u1ed9t bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o v\u1edbi c\u00e1c nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 nh\u00ecn t\u00f4i \u0111o\u00e1n bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t Nam ho\u1eb7c \u00edt nh\u1ea5t c\u0169ng \u00c1 Ch\u00e2u, n\u00ean gh\u00e9 tai h\u1ecfi:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t Nam d\u1ea1y con c\u00f3 \u201c\u0111\u00e1nh\u201d kh\u00f4ng?
– C\u00f3. Con n\u00edt h\u01b0 th\u00ec ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u00e1nh. \u0110\u00e1nh v\u00e0i roi t\u1ed1t ch\u1ee9 c\u00f3 sao \u0111\u00e2u!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Xem nh\u01b0 \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00ecnh mu\u1ed1n bi\u1ebft, nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y n\u00f3i nh\u01b0 m\u1ec9a mai:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– Ch\u1ec9 \u1edf nh\u1eefng n\u01b0\u1edbc l\u1ea1c h\u1eadu con n\u00edt m\u1edbi b\u1ecb \u0111\u00e1nh m\u00e0 th\u00f4i. Th\u1ebf anh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t nh\u00e0 t\u00e2m l\u00fd, anh c\u00f3 \u0111\u00e1nh con anh khi d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 ch\u00fang kh\u00f4ng?<\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

C\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u00e2y b\u1ed7ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean g\u00e2y c\u1ea5n. T\u1ef1 nhi\u00ean m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb cho l\u00e0 th\u1ee9 d\u00e2n l\u1ea1c h\u1eadu, v\u00e0 d\u0129 nhi\u00ean, c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 t\u00e2m l\u00fd gia l\u1ea1c h\u1eadu n\u1ebfu gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c m\u00e0 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ebfn h\u00ecnh ph\u1ea1t. T\u00f4i t\u1ef1 nh\u1ee7, v\u1eady th\u00ec c\u0169ng n\u00ean l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng d\u1ecbp n\u00e0y \u201cgi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c l\u1ea1i\u201d m\u1ea5y \u00f4ng ti\u1ebfn s\u1ef9 t\u00e2m l\u00fd ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft suy di\u1ec5n \u201cl\u00fd thuy\u1ebft\u201d m\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu kinh nghi\u1ec7m th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh. Ngh\u0129 v\u1eady, t\u00f4i li\u1ec1n n\u00f3i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111ang h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi m\u00e0 theo t\u00f4i, r\u1ea5t v\u1edb v\u1ea9n m\u00e0 c\u0169ng r\u1ea5t k\u00e9m t\u00e2m l\u00fd th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh sau:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

– N\u00e0y b\u1ea1n. Nh\u00ecn ra v\u01b0\u1eddn hoa b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i h\u1ed9i tr\u01b0\u1eddng. Nhi\u1ec1u hoa v\u00e0 c\u00e2y c\u1ea3nh \u0111\u1eb9p, b\u1ea1n c\u00f3 ngh\u0129 l\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ch\u00fang nh\u1eefng hoa l\u00e1, c\u00e2y c\u1ea3nh \u1ea5y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng?
– D\u0129 nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng? Ch\u00fang c\u1ea7n ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m v\u01b0\u1eddn ch\u0103m s\u00f3c v\u00e0 t\u1ec9a c\u1eaft.
– V\u1eady c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c t\u1ec9a c\u1eaft \u1ea5y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ee5 huynh ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0m v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i d\u01b0\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c.
N\u00f3i n\u00f4m na l\u00e0 s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sau c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi c\u1ee7a t\u00f4i, kh\u00f4ng th\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea1n kia h\u1ecfi g\u00ec th\u00eam, ch\u1ec9 bi\u1ebft l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng gi\u1edd ph\u00fat sau \u0111\u00f3 trong su\u1ed1t bu\u1ed5i h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y ng\u1ed3i im l\u1eb7ng\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u0169ng nh\u00e2n c\u00e2u truy\u1ec7n n\u00e0y, t\u00f4i mu\u1ed1n h\u1ecfi c\u00e1c b\u1eadc ph\u1ee5 huynh, c\u00e1c ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 li\u1ec7u ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 mu\u1ed1n v\u00e0 c\u00f3 d\u00e1m l\u00e0m c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u00e0m v\u01b0\u1eddn \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi c\u00e2y hoa, c\u00e2y c\u1ea3nh t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i ch\u00fang ta kh\u00f4ng? N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng, t\u00f4i d\u00e1m tin r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng c\u00e2y c\u1ea3nh non n\u1edbt kia s\u1ebd ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n um t\u00f9m, v\u00e0 s\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng c\u00e2y l\u00e1, b\u00f4ng hoa xinh t\u01b0\u01a1i, \u0111\u1eb9p \u0111\u1ebd. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, l\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 huynh, l\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9, ch\u00fang ta ph\u1ea3i h\u1ecdc h\u1ecfi, ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft d\u00e0nh th\u1eddi gi\u1edd, v\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i m\u00ecnh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi m\u00e0 t\u00f4i nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u nh\u1ea5t v\u00e0 xem nh\u01b0 c\u0169ng \u0111ang khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 huynh b\u0103n kho\u0103n nh\u1ea5t qua nh\u1eefng bu\u1ed5i thuy\u1ebft tr\u00ecnh, h\u1ed9i th\u1ea3o \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i, v\u1ec1 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c. V\u00e0 c\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi tho\u00e1i th\u00e1c m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u cha m\u1eb9 tr\u1ebb th\u1eddi nay v\u1eabn d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi khi c\u00f3 ai h\u1ecfi v\u1ec1 con c\u00e1i, \u0111\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i, em c\u00f3 1 con, ho\u1eb7c ch\u00fang em c\u00f3 2 con. T\u1ea1i sao? Sinh nhi\u1ec1u t\u1ed1n k\u00e9m, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c g\u1eb7p kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n qu\u00e1. V\u00e0 v\u00ec con c\u00e1i th\u1eddi nay kh\u00f3 d\u1ea1y. Nh\u01b0ng quan ni\u1ec7m gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0a v\u00f4 t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u00fang trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y. Ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam: \u201cC\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u m\u00e0 t\u1ed1t, c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t m\u00e0 h\u01b0!\u201d \u0110\u00fang v\u1eady, m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c hai con kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m t\u00ednh ch\u1ea5t v\u00e0 gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, n\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 cha m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi quan t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1eecA PH\u1ea0T L\u00c0 GI\u00c1O D\u1ee4C<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc, s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c.<\/strong> \u0110i v\u00e0o chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c c\u1ee7a nh\u00e0 \u201cnh\u00e2n c\u00e1ch h\u1ecdc\u201d (Behaviorists) Burrhus Frederic Skinner (B.F. Skinner), g\u1ed3m Khen Th\u01b0\u1edfng (Reinforcement), S\u1eeda Ph\u1ea1t (Punishment), v\u00e0 C\u1ea5m \u0110o\u00e1n (Extinction).<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khen Th\u01b0\u1edfng<\/strong> – m\u1ed9t ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 khen th\u01b0\u1edfng ho\u1eb7c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t nh\u1eb1m thay \u0111\u1ed5i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 nh\u1edd do kh\u00edch l\u1ec7, khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch hay khen th\u01b0\u1edfng qua hai h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c, t\u00edch c\u1ef1c (positive) v\u00e0 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c (negative).<\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khen, nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi kh\u00edch l\u1ec7 hay ph\u1ea7n th\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111em l\u1ea1i k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng vi\u1ec7c l\u00e0m t\u1ed1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1eb7p l\u1ea1i. Ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cN\u00f3i ng\u1ecdt n\u00f3 l\u1ecdt v\u00e0o x\u01b0\u01a1ng<\/strong>\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c nh\u1eb1m l\u00e0m cho nh\u1eefng g\u00ec x\u1ea5u, nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng gi\u1ea3m \u0111i, v\u00e0 sau c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 ch\u1eeba h\u1eb3n. H\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c xem nh\u01b0 \u0111\u1ed3ng ngh\u0129a v\u1edbi s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t v\u00ec c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh v\u1ecb, m\u1ed9t th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf, tuy nhi\u00ean, tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, kh\u00f4ng gi\u1ed1ng nhau. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch l\u00e0m \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ec3 cho nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00ednh t\u1ed1t ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng ph\u00e1t tri\u1ec3n. M\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0ng khuy\u00ean r\u0103n tr\u00e1nh nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i x\u1ea5u \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1eefng t\u00ednh x\u1ea5u ng\u00e0y c\u00e0ng gi\u1ea3m \u0111i. V\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0ng ng\u0103n ch\u1eb7n t\u00ednh x\u1ea5u, c\u00f9ng l\u00fac kh\u00edch l\u1ec7 nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9c t\u00ednh t\u1ed1t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1eeda Ph\u1ea1t<\/strong> – Gi\u1eefa khen v\u00e0 khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch l\u00e0 s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t, m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng nh\u1eb1m gi\u1ea3m thi\u1ec3u ho\u1eb7c h\u1ea1n ch\u1ebf nh\u1eefng th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3 th\u01b0\u1eddng xu\u1ea5t hi\u1ec7n trong cung c\u00e1ch v\u00e0 l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i xa tr\u00e1nh<\/strong>. Do \u0111\u00f3, s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t c\u0169ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c coi l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ph\u1ea7n trong nh\u1eefng ph\u01b0\u01a1ng ph\u00e1p gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c khi m\u00e0 nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng r\u0103n \u0111e kh\u00f4ng \u0111em l\u1ea1i hi\u1ec7u qu\u1ea3.<\/strong> Ph\u1ee5 huynh t\u00f9y t\u1eebng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p v\u00e0 t\u00f9y v\u00e0o t\u00e2m t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a m\u1ed7i \u0111\u1ee9a con, c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 cho v\u00e0i roi c\u00e1c c\u00f4, c\u00e1c c\u1eadu \u1edf tu\u1ed5i m\u1edbi l\u1edbn m\u00e0 l\u00e0m bi\u1ebfng h\u1ecdc h\u00e0nh, ham ch\u01a1i, gian d\u1ed1i, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng v\u00e2ng l\u1eddi cha m\u1eb9. Ch\u00fang ta nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 kinh nghi\u1ec7m n\u00e0y khi nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i th\u1eddi gian m\u1edbi l\u1edbn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. Th\u00ed d\u1ee5, nh\u1edd tr\u1eadn \u0111\u00f2n c\u1ee7a b\u1ed1 t\u00f4i m\u00e0 t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 si\u00eang h\u1ecdc, v\u00e0 h\u00f4m nay t\u00f4i n\u00ean ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ho\u1eb7c t\u00f4i ch\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u00e1i t\u00ednh n\u00f3i l\u00e1o nh\u1edd v\u00e0o ba roi c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9 t\u00f4i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u1ea5m \u0110o\u00e1n <\/strong>– M\u1ed9t h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t n\u1eefa c\u0169ng c\u00f3 t\u00e1c d\u1ee5ng gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n nh\u1eb1m m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch ng\u0103n ch\u1eb7n, ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t h\u00e0nh vi ngo\u00e0i \u00fd mu\u1ed1n v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng t\u1ed1t.<\/strong> Tuy nhi\u00ean, \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 qua vi\u1ec7c c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n hay kh\u1eaft khe c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9, con c\u00e1i s\u1ebd h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u201ctr\u00e1nh n\u00e9, lu\u1ed3n l\u00e1ch\u201d n\u1ebfu k\u1ef7 lu\u1eadt \u0111\u00e3 ra m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c theo d\u00f5i, thi h\u00e0nh, ho\u1eb7c d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn vi\u1ec7c \u201cb\u1ea5t tu\u00e2n\u201d n\u1ebfu s\u1ef1 c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch duy nh\u1ea5t m\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 d\u00f9ng \u0111\u1ec3 kh\u1ed1ng ch\u1ebf, ho\u1eb7c \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t tr\u00ean con c\u00e1i. \u0110i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 l\u00e0m c\u00e1ch n\u00e0o \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u00e2n bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng khuy\u1ebfn kh\u00edch ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c. <\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

Sau \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m th\u01b0\u1eddng m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 huynh khi s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t con c\u00e1i:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

–<\/em>Tha nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00ean<\/strong>. S\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t, nh\u01b0ng lu\u00f4n nh\u1eafc t\u1edbi, ho\u1eb7c l\u00e0m cho \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m v\u1ec1 qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, v\u1ec1 khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh<\/mark><\/strong>. H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng t\u00e1i ph\u1ea1m khi nh\u1eefng l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m \u0111\u00f3 v\u1eabn c\u00f2n l\u00e0 l\u00fd do \u0111\u1ec3 b\u1ecb s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t, ho\u1eb7c qu\u00ean m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecb ph\u1ea1t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

–Nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t l\u00e0m t\u0103ng s\u1ef1 c\u0103m h\u1eadn, \u0111e d\u1ecda – coi c\u0103m th\u00f9 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch s\u1eeda sai nh\u1eefng khuy\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec3m. Coi con c\u00e1i nh\u01b0 k\u1ebb th\u00f9. \u0110\u00e1nh \u0111\u1eadp con c\u00e1i nh\u1eb1m th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n s\u1ef1 b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

–T\u1ea1o s\u1ef1 s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0m t\u1ed5ng qu\u00e1t h\u00f3a gi\u1eefa nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00f4ng mong mu\u1ed1n.<\/mark><\/strong> Th\u00ed d\u1ee5, ph\u1ee5 huynh c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 khi\u1ebfn con c\u00e1i s\u1ee3 \u0111\u1ebfn tr\u01b0\u1eddng khi \u0111\u01b0a ra nh\u1eefng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi qu\u00e1 kh\u1ea3 n\u0103ng c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c em trong vi\u1ec7c h\u1ecdc. \u0110e d\u1ecda, c\u1ea5m \u0111o\u00e1n, ho\u1eb7c \u00e1p \u0111\u1eb7t h\u00ecnh ph\u1ea1t n\u1eb7ng n\u1ec1 g\u00e2y hoang mang s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

TH\u00c1I \u0110\u1ed8 KHI S\u1eecA PH\u1ea0T <\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 \u201ccho roi, cho v\u1ecdt\u201d. T\u00e2m l\u00fd gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng ho\u00e0n to\u00e0n lo\u1ea1i b\u1ecf vi\u1ec7c d\u00f9ng roi v\u1ecdt m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch c\u00f3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t v\u00e0 h\u1ee3p v\u1edbi l\u1ee9a tu\u1ed5i. <\/strong>Th\u00e1nh Kinh c\u0169ng cho bi\u1ebft, ch\u00ednh Thi\u00ean Ch\u00faa c\u0169ng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t ch\u00fang ta \u0111\u1ec3 cho ch\u00fang ta n\u00ean t\u1ed1t h\u01a1n: \u201cCh\u00faa s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t ng\u01b0\u1eddi Ng\u00e0i y\u00eau\u201d (Do Th\u00e1i 12:6; C\u00e1ch Ng\u00f4n 3:13).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e0 tu\u1ed5i l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng nh\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ec3 roi v\u1ecdt c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1ebfn gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c l\u00e0 l\u00fac c\u00e1c em l\u00ean 3, l\u00ean 5. Tu\u1ed5i m\u00e0 th\u1ea5y b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9 c\u1ea7m c\u00e1i roi nh\u1ea5p nh\u1ea5p l\u00e0 s\u1ee3, l\u00e0 kh\u00f3c th\u00fat th\u00edt. Nh\u01b0ng c\u0169ng l\u00e0 tu\u1ed5i m\u00e0 tuy kh\u00f3c, s\u1ee3 nh\u01b0ng v\u1eabn ch\u1ea1y l\u1ea1i v\u1edbi b\u1ed1 m\u1eb9. V\u1edbi tu\u1ed5i n\u00e0y vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00e1nh nh\u1eb9 m\u1ed9t v\u00e0i roi \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u1eeba th\u00f3i l\u00e8 nh\u00e8, th\u00f3i d\u00e0nh \u0103n v\u1edbi em, hay th\u00f3i l\u00e0m bi\u1ebfng l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00ean l\u00e0m. B\u1edfi v\u00ec s\u1ef1 ho\u00e0n ch\u1ec9nh v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng t\u1eeb s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i, ho\u1eb7c kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb ph\u1ea1t, b\u1ecb la m\u1eafng. T\u00e2m l\u00fd n\u00e0y v\u1eabn c\u00f3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng ngay \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn tu\u1ed5i, th\u00ed d\u1ee5, gi\u1eef \u0111\u1ea1o v\u00ec s\u1ee3 sa h\u1ecfa ng\u1ee5c v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00ean Thi\u00ean \u0111\u00e0ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng cha m\u1eb9, ph\u1ee5 huynh ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 n\u00e0o khi s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t con c\u00e1i?<\/mark> <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ngo\u00e0i nh\u1eefng \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd, t\u00e2m l\u00fd gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f2n t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y trong Th\u00e1nh Kinh nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi khuy\u00ean r\u0103n v\u1ec1 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 n\u00e0y c\u1ef1c k\u1ef3 kh\u00f4n ngoan, t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 nh\u00e2n v\u0103n:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u201cCh\u1eadm n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn<\/strong>.\u201d (Ps 86:15; Ps 103:8; Jonah 4:2)<\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

-\u201cN\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn nh\u01b0ng \u0111\u1eebng ph\u1ea1m t\u1ed9i.\u201d (Eph 4:26a). N\u1ebfu cha m\u1eb9 ho\u1eb7c ph\u1ee5 huynh \u0111\u00e3 n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn th\u00ec \u201c\u0111\u1eebng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t\u201d con c\u00e1i. H\u1ea7u h\u1ebft nh\u1eefng s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t trong l\u00fac n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn \u0111\u1ec1u \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 \u201ch\u1ed1i h\u1eadn\u201d sau n\u00e0y cho c\u1ea3 cha m\u1eb9 l\u1eabn con c\u00e1i.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

-\u201cV\u00ec s\u1ef1 n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn c\u1ee7a con ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00f4ng \u0111em l\u1ea1i s\u1ef1 c\u00f4ng ch\u00ednh m\u00e0 Ch\u00faa mong mu\u1ed1n.<\/mark><\/strong>\u201d (Giac\u00f4b\u00ea 1:20)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c n\u00ean l\u00e0m trong s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh, bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 ch\u1ee7 v\u00e0 k\u00ecm h\u00e3m s\u1ef1 gi\u1eadn d\u1eef c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 hay ph\u1ee5 huynh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1eefng h\u01b0\u1edbng d\u1eabn c\u1ee7a Th\u00e1nh Kinh \u0111em l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t \u1ee9ng d\u1ee5ng th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh v\u1eeba nh\u00e2n b\u1ea3n, v\u00e0 c\u0169ng v\u1eeba t\u00e2m l\u00fd. Kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t con c\u00e1i b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u201cGi\u1eadn c\u00e1 ch\u00e9m th\u1edbt\u201d, b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u201cC\u1ea3 v\u00fa l\u1ea5p mi\u1ec7ng em\u201d, ho\u1eb7c b\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng tr\u1eadn \u0111\u00f2n m\u00e0 m\u1ed7i khi nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i con c\u00e1i kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft \u01a1n ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn cha m\u1eb9?! Do \u0111\u00f3, roi v\u1ecdt \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c hi\u1ec3u nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng trong gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch ch\u1eebng m\u1ef1c, c\u00f3 ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t.<\/mark><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tuy nhi\u00ean, m\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t h\u1eefu hi\u1ec7u nh\u1ea5t v\u1eabn l\u00e0 g\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e1ng c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9. N\u1ebfu nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi, ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t b\u00e0i h\u1ecdc t\u1ed1t, l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t g\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e1ng cho c\u00e1ch s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 c\u00e1ch c\u01b0 x\u1eed c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n l\u00e0 v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 roi v\u1ecdt, ch\u1eedi b\u1edbi ho\u1eb7c tr\u00e1ch m\u1eafng. <\/mark><\/strong>Ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u r\u1ea5t th\u00edch h\u1ee3p trong c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn t\u00e2m l\u00fd gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0: \u201cCha n\u00e0o con n\u1ea5y\u201d, ho\u1eb7c \u201ccha m\u1eb9 hi\u1ec1n l\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ee9c cho con\u201d. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00f2n Ch\u00faa Gi\u00easu th\u00ec n\u00f3i: \u201cTh\u1ea7y \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00e1c con noi theo m\u00e0 b\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc.\u201d<\/mark><\/strong> (Gioan 15:13)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Y\u00eau con b\u1eb1ng c\u00e1ch \u201ccho roi cho v\u1ecdt\u201d v\u00e0o th\u1eddi \u0111i\u1ec3m n\u00e0y \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c cho l\u00e0 t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh l\u1ed7i th\u1eddi, v\u00e0 thi\u1ebfu v\u0103n h\u00f3a. T\u1ea1i c\u00e1c x\u1ee9 t\u1ef1 do, h\u1ecd coi vi\u1ec7c s\u1eeda ph\u1ea1t tr\u1ebb em nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi mang t\u00ednh x\u00e2m ph\u1ea1m, g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1\u0111\u1ecdc ti\u1ebfp…<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":26514,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[12,57,15,16],"tags":[212,100,116,622,226],"class_list":["entry","author-ntviet","post-26513","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-chuyenmuc","category-giaoduc-vanhoc-lichsu","category-tongiao","category-xahoi-ngaynay","tag-chuyen-de","tag-cong-giao","tag-giao-duc","tag-tam-ly-giao-duc","tag-xa-hoi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26513","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=26513"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26513\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":26517,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26513\/revisions\/26517"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/26514"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=26513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=26513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=26513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}