{"id":29132,"date":"2026-07-26T00:02:09","date_gmt":"2026-07-26T00:02:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=29132"},"modified":"2026-07-26T00:02:10","modified_gmt":"2026-07-26T00:02:10","slug":"say-nang-chiec-bay-cho-ke-ngoai-tinh","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/?p=29132","title":{"rendered":"SAY N\u1eaeNG: CHI\u1ebeC B\u1eaaY CHO K\u1eba NGO\u1ea0I T\u00ccNH!<\/strong>
TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/span>"},"content":{"rendered":"
\n
\"\"
______________________<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

S\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u1ec1 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. L\u00fd do v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ai l\u1ea1i d\u00e1m c\u00f4ng khai: \u201cL\u1ea1y \u00f4ng t\u00f4i \u1edf b\u1ee5i n\u00e0y.\u201d T\u00ednh chung, c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 15-20% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. Trong m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c, 35% cho bi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i, h\u1ecd s\u1ebd ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ec9 tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb, nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh bao g\u1ed3m \u1edf tu\u1ed5i 50 v\u00e0 60. Ph\u1ea7n l\u1edbn h\u1ecd \u0111\u00e3 s\u1ed1ng trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n t\u1eeb 20 \u0111\u1ebfn 30 n\u0103m. [1]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u m\u1edbi nh\u1ea5t g\u1ea7n \u0111\u00e2y cho bi\u1ebft, vi\u1ec7c t\u1ef1 th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn m\u00ecnh ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u00f3 x\u00e1c xu\u1ea5t r\u1ea5t kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t, trung b\u00ecnh t\u1eeb 10% – 56%. T\u1ea1i \u00c1 Ch\u00e2u, Th\u00e1i Lan c\u00f3 con s\u1ed1 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 56%, trong khi \u1edf Nh\u1eadt l\u00e0 31% v\u00e0 T\u1ea7u l\u00e0 18%. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ea1i Vi\u1ec7t Nam, 25,9% nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ly d\u1ecb \u0111\u1ebfn t\u1eeb h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. Tuy nhi\u00ean, theo k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 18% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tham gia kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u nh\u1eadn m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 li\u00ean h\u1ec7 ngo\u00e0i lu\u1ed3ng, trong khi \u0111\u00f3 92% ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ecfi cho bi\u1ebft h\u1ecd bi\u1ebft ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u00e3 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh.<\/strong> [2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u00c0N \u00d4NG HAY \u0110\u00c0N B\u00c0 NGO\u1ea0I T\u00ccNH NHI\u1ec0U H\u01a0N?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ed5ng qu\u00e1t, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh nhi\u1ec1u h\u01a1n \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 v\u1edbi t\u1ef7 s\u1ed1 20% v\u00e0 13%. Nh\u01b0ng con s\u1ed1 n\u00e0y \u0111ang b\u1ecb kh\u00e9p l\u1ea1i g\u1ea7n h\u01a1n \u1edf tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb. <\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

\u1ede l\u1ee9a tu\u1ed5i 18-29, t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 n\u1eef gi\u1edbi 11% nh\u1ec9nh h\u01a1n nam gi\u1edbi 10% – m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 \u0111\u1ea3o chi\u1ec1u g\u1ea7n nh\u01b0 ngang b\u1eb1ng so v\u1edbi m\u1ecdi nh\u00f3m tu\u1ed5i l\u1edbn h\u01a1n, theo d\u1eef li\u1ec7u t\u1eeb IFS\/GSS.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nam gi\u1edbi \u0111\u1ea1t \u0111\u1ec9nh 26% ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u1edf \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 70, trong khi \u1edf n\u1eef gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 16% khi h\u1ecd \u1edf \u0111\u1ed9 tu\u1ed5i 60 – t\u1ea1o ra kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch 10 \u0111i\u1ec3m ph\u1ea7n tr\u0103m, l\u1edbn g\u1ea5p m\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1ea7n so v\u1edbi nh\u00f3m ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1ebb tu\u1ed5i nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ecbnh ngh\u0129a v\u1ec1 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a GSS (ch\u1ec9 d\u1ef1a tr\u00ean h\u00e0nh vi quan h\u1ec7 t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c) \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf s\u00f3t 76% nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi M\u1ef9 coi l\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh – \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1c m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ngo\u00e0i lu\u1ed3ng v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, h\u00ecnh th\u1ee9c m\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef th\u01b0\u1eddng g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i v\u1edbi t\u1ef7 l\u1ec7 cao h\u01a1n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

45% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 s\u1ebd ti\u1ebfp t\u1ee5c ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh trong m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 k\u1ebf ti\u1ebfp, v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u00e1ng k\u1ec3 n\u00e0o v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t gi\u1edbi t\u00ednh (Knopp v\u00e0 c\u1ed9ng s\u1ef1, 2017). [3]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u1ee8 \u0110\u1ed4 T\u01af\u1edcNG<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i th\u01b0\u1eddng coi nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh vi kh\u00f4ng nghi\u00eam t\u00fac, g\u00e2y ra nh\u1eefng t\u1ec7 n\u1ea1n x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 l\u00e0m suy \u0111\u1ed3i \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c l\u00e0 \u201cc\u1edd b\u1ea1c, r\u01b0\u1ee3u ch\u00e8, trai g\u00e1i, nghi\u1ec7n h\u00fat\u201d \u2013 T\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ed5 t\u01b0\u1eddng. D\u01b0\u1edbi g\u00f3c nh\u00ecn lu\u00e2n l\u00fd v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, ch\u00fang l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n g\u00e2y ra \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, ti\u00eau tan s\u1ef1 nghi\u1ec7p c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 \u0111\u01b0a ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00ednh v\u00e0o nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u1ea5y \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ed9t t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai \u0111en t\u1ed1i, th\u00e2n b\u1ea1i, danh li\u1ec7t. \u0110\u00e2y c\u0169ng l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh c\u1ee7a x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i. Trong nh\u1eefng c\u0103n b\u1ec7nh \u1ea5y, ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t m\u1ed9t th\u1ee9 d\u1ec5 l\u00e2y lan, nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 ch\u1eefa v\u00e0 d\u1ec5 ch\u1eeba. N\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng h\u1ec7 qu\u1ea3 tai h\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ee9c kh\u1ecfe t\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 t\u00e2m th\u1ea7n v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u1edbi kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0103n ch\u01a1i \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u0103n ch\u01b0\u01a1ng h\u00f3a \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 T\u00fa X\u01b0\u01a1ng, \u00f4ng \u0111\u00e3 th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt v\u1edbi ch\u00ednh nh\u1eefng \u0111am m\u00ea c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh:<\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

\u201cM\u1ed9t tr\u00e0, m\u1ed9t r\u01b0\u1ee3u, m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0,
Ba c\u00e1i l\u0103ng nh\u0103ng n\u00f3 qu\u1ea5y ta,
Ch\u1eeba \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ee9 n\u00e0o hay th\u1ee9 n\u1ea5y,
C\u00f3 ch\u0103ng ch\u1eeba r\u01b0\u1ee3u v\u1edbi ch\u1eeba tr\u00e0.\u201d [4]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00f3i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n g\u00e1i g\u00fa, tr\u0103ng hoa l\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n kh\u00f3 ch\u1eeba nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

D\u1ec5 l\u00e2y lan, d\u1ec5 m\u1eafc ph\u1ea3i nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 ch\u1eefa v\u00e0 kh\u00f3 ch\u1eeba. B\u1ea1n t\u00f4i \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecf h\u00fat thu\u1ed1c, r\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng b\u1ecf h\u00fat thu\u1ed1c. M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c \u0111\u00e3 ch\u1eeba nh\u01b0ng l\u1ea1i u\u1ed1ng r\u01b0\u1ee3u l\u1ea1i. V\u00e0 m\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 v\u01b0\u1edbng v\u00e0o chuy\u1ec7n t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m th\u00ec \u201cn\u1eeda mu\u1ed1n t\u1eeb b\u1ecf, nh\u01b0ng n\u1eeda l\u1ea1i th\u1ea5y ti\u1ebfc!\u201d K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh lu\u00f4n l\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ee5c, m\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng b\u1ebf t\u1eafc c\u1ee7a ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u1edf ch\u1ed7 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia mu\u1ed1n quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1, nh\u01b0ng c\u00f2n l\u1ec7 thu\u1ed9c v\u00e0o ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1edf nh\u00e0 c\u00f3 s\u1eb5n s\u00e0ng b\u1ecf qua, tha th\u1ee9 v\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3n ti\u1ebfp s\u1ef1 tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 \u1ea5y hay kh\u00f4ng? Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, nh\u1eefng n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi ph\u1ea3i c\u00f3 l\u00f2ng bao dung, tha th\u1ee9, v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn h\u01a1n. Nh\u01b0ng t\u00ecm \u0111\u00e2u \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n qu\u1ea3ng \u0111\u1ea1i \u1ea5y?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ed1i v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u0103ng hoa d\u00f9 ch\u1eeba hay ch\u1eeba r\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, ho\u1eb7c ch\u1eeba, b\u1ecf d\u1ee9t kho\u00e1t t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ec1u c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t l\u00fd do: Nh\u1eadn l\u1ed7i. Ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 d\u00e1m m\u1ea1nh d\u1ea1n n\u00f3i l\u1eddi xin l\u1ed7i. L\u00e0m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u01b0 v\u1eady \u0111\u00e3 k\u1ec3 nh\u01b0 \u0111i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ho\u00e0n thi\u1ec7n. M\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec3m kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t gi\u1eefa ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh c\u1ea7n l\u01b0u \u00fd, \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef m\u1ed9t khi \u0111\u00e3 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh th\u00ec r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 tr\u1edf v\u1ec1, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, khi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 con v\u1edbi t\u00ecnh nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, ti\u1ebfn tr\u00ecnh c\u00f2n l\u1ea1i c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda ch\u1eb7ng \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, l\u00e0 n\u1ea1n nh\u00e2n hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu, c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u ph\u1ea3i h\u1ebft s\u1ee9c n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c, quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m v\u00e0 b\u00e0y t\u1ecf thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh b\u1eb1ng s\u1ef1 tha th\u1ee9, hy sinh v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u0168NG L\u1ea6Y \u00caM \u00c1I<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cAi m\u00e0 ch\u1ea3 c\u00f3 l\u1ea7n say n\u1eafng. G\u00e1i n\u00e0o m\u00e0 ch\u1ea3 tham t\u00e0i. Trai n\u00e0o l\u1ea1i ch\u1ea3 tham s\u1eafc!\u201d Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f2n cho \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t v\u0169ng l\u1ea7y \u00eam \u00e1i m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng bi\u1ebft \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 c\u00e1i b\u1eaby r\u1ea5t tinh vi chuy\u00ean b\u1eaft nh\u1eefng con m\u1ed3i tr\u0103ng hoa v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u00e1i tim kh\u00f4ng chung th\u1ee7y. N\u1ebfu nh\u01b0 v\u1eady th\u00ec ai c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i say n\u1eafng khi nh\u00ecn v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda tr\u01b0\u1edbc, quay l\u1ea1i ph\u00eda sau, ng\u00f3 sang ph\u1ea3i v\u00e0 sang tr\u00e1i. \u1ede \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00fang ta nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u thi\u1ebfu n\u1eef, nhi\u1ec1u c\u00f4, nhi\u1ec1u b\u00e0 \u0111\u1eb9p; v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u thanh ni\u00ean, nhi\u1ec1u \u00f4ng sang tr\u1ecdng, gi\u1ea7u c\u00f3, t\u00e0i ba. V\u00e0 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady ch\u00fang ta su\u1ed1t ng\u00e0y ph\u1ea3i say n\u1eafng, lu\u00f4n s\u1ed1ng trong t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng say n\u1eafng, v\u00e0 r\u1ed3i s\u1ebd ch\u1ebft v\u00ec say n\u1eafng?\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

C\u00e1c nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u ch\u1ec9 ra r\u1eb1ng, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 c\u00f3 t\u1ed3n t\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n, nh\u01b0ng kho\u1ea3ng 60% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t l\u1ea7n duy nh\u1ea5t. Tuy nhi\u00ean, h\u00e0nh vi trong qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 l\u00e0 y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1  m\u1ea1nh m\u1ebd d\u1ef1 \u0111o\u00e1n c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng trong t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai: nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1eebng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh trong m\u1ed9t m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 c\u00f3 nguy c\u01a1 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u1edf m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 ti\u1ebfp theo cao g\u1ea5p h\u01a1n ba l\u1ea7n (hay 300%) so v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi chung th\u1ee7y. [5]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh d\u0129 nhi\u00ean l\u00e0 t\u1ed3i t\u1ec7, v\u00ec n\u00f3 ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai con c\u00e1i. H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 tai h\u1ea1i nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 trong nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p c\u1ea3 hai ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, c\u00f3 v\u1ee3 con, r\u1ed3i trong v\u1ee5ng tr\u1ed9m ho\u1eb7c c\u00f4ng khai l\u1ea1i sinh ra nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a con kh\u00e1c. <\/strong>Nh\u1eefng \u0111\u1ee9a tr\u1ebb \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sinh ra \u0111\u1ec3 mang l\u1ea5y c\u00e1i h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00c0M SAO QU\u00caN<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng tha th\u1ee9 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu \u1edf m\u1ed9t kh\u00eda c\u1ea1nh n\u00e0o \u0111\u00f3, x\u00e9t v\u1ec1 l\u00fd thuy\u1ebft, c\u0169ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1edbi h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u1ee9 tha, m\u1edf r\u1ed9ng v\u00f2ng tay \u0111\u00f3n nh\u1eadn thi\u1ec7n ch\u00ed c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1. V\u00ec trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu c\u0169ng b\u1ecb x\u00fac ph\u1ea1m v\u00e0 t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cCh\u00e9m cha c\u00e1i ki\u1ebfp l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng chung
K\u1ebb \u0111\u1eafp ch\u0103n b\u00f4ng, k\u1ebb l\u1ea1nh l\u00f9ng\u201d. [6]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

L\u00e0m l\u1ebd hay l\u00e0m ch\u00e1nh trong ch\u1ebf \u0111\u1ed9 \u0111a th\u00ea lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ec1 t\u00e0i t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef trong n\u1ec1n v\u0103n h\u00f3a n\u01b0\u1edbc ta tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00e2y. Kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef n\u00e0o cam ph\u1eadn l\u00e0m c\u00e1i b\u00f3ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. C\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng ai cam t\u00e2m \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng, b\u1ecb chia s\u1ebb. B\u1edfi \u0111\u00f3, n\u1ebfu vi\u1ec7c tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh kh\u00f3 m\u1ed9t, th\u00ec vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9 kh\u00f3 h\u01a1n g\u1ea5p nhi\u1ec1u l\u1ea7n. V\u00ec theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd, h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng qu\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. N\u00f3 c\u00e0ng tr\u1edf n\u00ean th\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1 h\u01a1n, n\u1ebfu th\u1eddi gian v\u00e0 ho\u00e0n c\u1ea3nh ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 tr\u1ea7m tr\u1ecdng nh\u01b0 c\u00f3 con v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf qua m\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, m\u1edbi c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 s\u1eeda sai \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady. <\/strong>M\u1ed9t l\u1ed7i l\u1ea7m g\u00e2y t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ec1 danh d\u1ef1, v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, v\u1ec1 t\u00e2m l\u00fd, \u0111\u00f4i khi v\u1ec1 t\u00e0i ch\u00ednh, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i nh\u1eefng kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u1ec1 m\u1eb7t t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, ph\u00e1p l\u00fd n\u1eefa. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 l\u00fd do t\u1ea1i sao ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh l\u00e0 t\u1ed9i c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 tha, tuy nhi\u00ean theo t\u00e2m l\u00fd, c\u00f2n c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc kh\u00e1c: \u201cTha nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00ean!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf v\u1ec1, tuy nhi\u00ean \u0111\u1ec3 duy tr\u00ec \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m, \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c quy\u1ebft t\u00e2m c\u0169ng ph\u1ea3i c\u1ea7n m\u1ed9t b\u00e0n tay \u0111\u01b0a ra, m\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 n\u00e2ng \u0111\u1ee1, v\u00e0 kh\u00edch l\u1ec7. Tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh, b\u00e0n tay \u1ea5y ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 b\u00e0n tay c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng. Ch\u00ednh b\u00e0n tay n\u00e0y s\u1ebd n\u00e2ng d\u1eady b\u01b0\u1edbc ch\u00e2n sa ng\u00e3, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m v\u1eefng l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n quay tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 v\u1edbi gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

\n
\"\"<\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n

M\u1eb7c d\u00f9 kh\u00f3 tha, kh\u00f3 qu\u00ean, v\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u khi kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 qu\u00ean. Nh\u01b0ng \u1edf m\u1eb7t kh\u00e1c ch\u00ednh s\u1ef1 tha th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0m nh\u1eb9 l\u00f2ng c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi mu\u1ed1n tha th\u1ee9.<\/strong> T\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc c\u00f3 nguy\u00ean t\u1eafc: \u201c\u0110i\u1ec1u kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 tha cho ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.\u201d T\u1ef1 b\u1ea3n ch\u1ea5t, n\u1ebfu h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh khi\u1ebfn ch\u1ecb em \u0111au kh\u1ed5, kh\u00f3 tha th\u1ee9, th\u00ec c\u0169ng n\u00ean ngh\u0129 l\u1ea1i v\u00ec t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, v\u00ec h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00ec h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai con c\u00e1i \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9. T\u00e2m l\u00fd c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi sau khi ph\u1ea1m sai l\u1ea7m nh\u01b0ng th\u00e0nh t\u00e2m mu\u1ed1n \u0103n n\u0103n tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i l\u00e0 m\u1eb7c c\u1ea3m t\u1ef1 ty. H\u1ecd r\u1ea5t s\u1ee3 khi nghe nh\u1eafc l\u1ea1i qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, v\u1edbi th\u00e1i \u0111\u1ed9 ho\u00e0i nghi v\u00e0 d\u1eb1n v\u1eb7t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u1ebd c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00eau l\u00ean c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi: \u201cL\u00e0m sao tha khi nh\u1eefng h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh \u1ea5y lu\u00f4n lu\u00f4n quanh qu\u1ea9n trong \u0111\u1ea7u t\u00f4i?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u tr\u1ea3 l\u1eddi l\u00e0, m\u1ed9t v\u1ebft c\u1eaft lu\u00f4n \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i s\u1eb9o. Mu\u1ed1n hay kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n c\u00e1i s\u1eb9o \u1ea5y v\u1eabn l\u00e0 h\u00ecnh \u1ea3nh nh\u1eafc nh\u1edb v\u1ec1 m\u1ed9t qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng l\u1ebd ch\u00fang ta c\u1ee9 m\u00e3i ph\u1ea3i s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi qu\u00e1 kh\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3. H\u00e3y m\u1edf l\u00f2ng m\u00ecnh v\u1edbi s\u1ef1 tha th\u1ee9 \u0111\u1ec3 t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c b\u00ecnh an, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a, \u201cV\u00ec ch\u00ednh khi th\u1ee9 tha l\u00e0 khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tha th\u1ee9\u201d. <\/strong>[7] V\u00e0 m\u1ed7i l\u1ea7n tha nh\u01b0 v\u1eady l\u00e0 ta l\u00e0m cho t\u00ecnh y\u00eau m\u00ecnh tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh l\u1edbn lao, l\u00f2ng ng\u01b0\u1eddi tr\u1edf v\u1ec1 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng, v\u00e0 h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac s\u1ebd \u0111ong \u0111\u1ea7y con tim c\u1ee7a c\u00e1c b\u1ea1n. \u0110\u00e3 tha th\u1ee9 r\u1ed3i th\u00ec \u0111\u1eebng suy ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn s\u1ef1 b\u1ea5t trung c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ph\u1ed1i ng\u1eabu. L\u00e0m nh\u01b0 v\u1eady ch\u1eb3ng kh\u00e1c g\u00ec kh\u00f4ng tha th\u1ee9. H\u00e3y l\u1ea1c quan v\u00e0 tin v\u00e0o t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh m\u00ecnh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTha nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng qu\u00ean\u201d hay \u0111\u00fang ra ph\u1ea3i n\u00f3i tha nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f3 qu\u00ean, v\u00e0 trong nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p kh\u00f4ng qu\u00ean \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. V\u00e0 n\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111i\u1ec1u nh\u1eafc nh\u1edf cho nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ec3 m\u00ecnh b\u1ecb say n\u1eafng, v\u00ec bi\u1ebft r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0 chi\u1ebfc b\u1eaby ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh r\u1ea5t tinh vi m\u00e0 m\u1ed9t khi \u0111\u00e3 b\u1ecb s\u1eadp b\u1eaby s\u1ebd r\u1ea5t kh\u00f3 l\u00f2ng ra kh\u1ecfi, v\u00e0 l\u00e0m cho v\u1ee3, ch\u1ed3ng hay ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u201ckh\u00f3 tha th\u1ee9\u201d ho\u1eb7c \u201ckh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tha th\u1ee9\u201d cho m\u00ecnh.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

___________<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u00e0i li\u1ec7u tham kh\u1ea3o:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Infidelity Statistics on Men, Women, and Relationships …<\/p>\n\n\n\n

https:\/\/divorce.lovetoknow.com \u203a Divorce \u203a About Divorce<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/posts\/vietcetera_adultery-can-lead-to-up-to-3-years-in-prison-activity-7467077483624964096-6x3s<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. https:\/\/discreetinvestigations.ca\/infidelity-statistics-who-cheats-more-men-or-women\/<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Ba C\u00e1i L\u0103ng Nh\u0103ng. Th\u01a1 Tr\u1ea7n T\u1ebf X\u01b0\u01a1ng, NXB V\u0103n ho\u00e1 – Th\u00f4ng tin, 1998<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. https:\/\/drkathynickerson.com\/blogs\/relationship\/the-truth-about-affairs-and-cheating-your-top-20-questions-answered-with-research-and-statistics<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. L\u1ea5y Ch\u1ed3ng Chung. Ki\u1ec1u Thu Ho\u1ea1ch, Th\u01a1 n\u00f4m H\u1ed3 Xu\u00e2n H\u01b0\u01a1ng, NXB V\u0103n h\u1ecdc, 2008<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7.Kinh H\u00f2a B\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a Th\u00e1nh Phanxic\u00f4<\/p>\n

<\/div>

<\/path><\/svg><\/i> \"Loading\"<\/p>

<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

S\u1ebd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea ch\u00ednh x\u00e1c v\u1ec1 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. L\u00fd do v\u00ec kh\u00f4ng ai l\u1ea1i d\u00e1m c\u00f4ng khai: \u201cL\u1ea1y \u00f4ng t\u00f4i \u1edf b\u1ee5i n\u00e0y.\u201d T\u00ednh chung, c\u00f3 kho\u1ea3ng 15-20% nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 gia \u0111\u00ecnh ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh. Trong m\u1ed9t kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u kh\u00e1c, 35% cho bi\u1ebft n\u1ebfu c\u00f3 c\u01a1\u0111\u1ecdc ti\u1ebfp…<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":29133,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_coblocks_attr":"","_coblocks_dimensions":"","_coblocks_responsive_height":"","_coblocks_accordion_ie_support":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[12,57,16],"tags":[212,296,622,129],"class_list":["entry","author-ntviet","post-29132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-chuyenmuc","category-giaoduc-vanhoc-lichsu","category-xahoi-ngaynay","tag-chuyen-de","tag-gia-dinh","tag-tam-ly-giao-duc","tag-ton-giao"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=29132"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29132\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":29134,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/29132\/revisions\/29134"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/29133"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=29132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=29132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vanhoimoi.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=29132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}