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Nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n tr\u1ebb ng\u00e0y nay s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi nhau m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u1ea7n h\u00f4n th\u00fa. Ch\u1eadm k\u1ebft h\u00f4n, v\u00e0 khi k\u1ebft h\u00f4n l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n sinh con, ho\u1eb7c c\u00f3 th\u00ec ch\u1ec9 sinh m\u1ed9t hay hai \u0111\u1ee9a con l\u00e0 c\u00f9ng. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Theo nh\u1eefng s\u1ed1 li\u1ec7u m\u1edbi nh\u1ea5t c\u1ee7a V\u0103n Ph\u00f2ng Th\u1ed1ng K\u00ea Hoa K\u1ef3 (the U.S. Census Bureau) n\u0103m 2017, tu\u1ed5i trung b\u00ecnh l\u1ea7n \u0111\u1ea7u c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 n\u1eef k\u1ebft h\u00f4n l\u00e0 27,4 tu\u1ed5i, nam gi\u1edbi l\u00e0 29,5 tu\u1ed5i. Th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea c\u1ee7a vi\u1ec7n Gallup c\u0169ng cho bi\u1ebft, m\u1ed9t n\u1eeda ng\u01b0\u1eddi l\u1edbn tu\u1ed5i quan ni\u1ec7m r\u1eb1ng 2 \u0111\u1ee9a con l\u00e0 con l\u00fd t\u01b0\u1edfng cho m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh, tuy nhi\u00ean, kho\u1ea3ng 26% \u00fd ki\u1ebfn chung cho r\u1eb1ng ba con l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t. Hai con c\u0169ng l\u00e0 \u00fd ki\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a chung thu\u1ed9c c\u00e1c qu\u1ed1c gia \u00c2u Ch\u00e2u. [1] <\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t s\u1ed1 c\u00f2n \u0111i xa h\u01a1n n\u1eefa, h\u1ecd quan ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi b\u1ea5t k\u1ec3 trai hay g\u00e1i, nam hay n\u1eef, \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng hay \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. Ngo\u00e0i ra, s\u1ed1 kh\u00e1c cho r\u1eb1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u00e1p \u1ee9ng t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m. Y\u00eau hay kh\u00f4ng y\u00eau ch\u1eb3ng qua ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, nh\u1eefng rung \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi d\u00e0nh cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi h\u1ecd th\u00edch v\u00e0 th\u1ea5y c\u1ea7n nhau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e2u h\u1ecfi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c n\u00eau l\u00ean \u1edf \u0111\u00e2y v\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, t\u00e2m l\u00fd v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c l\u00e0 ph\u1ea3i ch\u0103ng lu\u00e2n l\u00fd, \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i \u0111ang tr\u00ean \u0111\u00e0 xu\u1ed1ng d\u1ed1c? Nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng v\u00e0 tr\u00e0o l\u01b0u c\u1ea5p ti\u1ebfn, duy v\u1eadt \u0111ang l\u1ea5n \u00e1t, \u0111\u00e8 b\u1eb9p nh\u1eefng t\u01b0 t\u01b0\u1edfng, phong t\u1ee5c, t\u1eadp qu\u00e1n t\u1ed1t \u0111\u1eb9p c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh? Ho\u1eb7c nh\u1eefng quan ni\u1ec7m v\u00e0 l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng tu\u1ed5i tr\u1ebb ng\u00e0y nay b\u1ecb \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng b\u1edfi ch\u00ednh \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 h\u1ecd?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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X\u00e3 h\u1ed9i v\u00e0 nh\u1eefng quan ni\u1ec7m \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u1ec1 l\u1edbn, r\u1ed9ng r\u00e3i bao g\u1ed3m nhi\u1ec1u l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c. Nh\u01b0ng nh\u00ecn v\u00e0o \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh m\u00e0 tr\u1ef1c ti\u1ebfp t\u1eeb cha m\u1eb9, ph\u1ee5 huynh, ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 t\u00ecm th\u1ea5y \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng n\u00e0y t\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ed1i r\u00f5 r\u00e0ng. Ca dao Vi\u1ec7t Nam c\u00f3 c\u00e2u: \u201cCha m\u1eb9 hi\u1ec1n l\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ee9c cho con\u201d, ho\u1eb7c ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i: \u201c\u0110\u1eddi cha \u0103n m\u1eb7n, \u0111\u1eddi con kh\u00e1t n\u01b0\u1edbc\u201d. Gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf v\u1ec1 hai \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ed1i ngh\u1ecbch n\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nghe thu\u1eadt l\u1ea1i, ho\u1eb7c ch\u00ednh ch\u00fang ta ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn m\u1ed7i ng\u00e0y qua nh\u1eefng c\u00e2u chuy\u1ec7n m\u00e0 gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb trao \u0111\u1ed5i. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110\u1ea1i kh\u00e1i:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  • H\u00f4n th\u00fa ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t t\u1ea5m gi\u1ea5y. N\u00f3 \u0111\u00e2u b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m g\u00ec cho h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac c\u1ee7a hai v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng. N\u1ebfu hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00edch v\u00e0 y\u00eau nhau th\u00ec c\u1ee9 vi\u1ec7c s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi nhau, gi\u1ea5y t\u1edd l\u00e0m chi \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i sau n\u00e0y n\u1ebfu chia tay l\u1ea1i g\u00e2y th\u00eam phi\u1ec1n ph\u1ee9c.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
    • H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u00e2u ch\u1ec9 d\u00e0nh cho m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0. D\u00f9 l\u00e0 nam hay n\u1eef, h\u1ec5 m\u00ecnh th\u1ea5y y\u00eau ai th\u00ec s\u1ed1ng v\u1edbi ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u1ea5y. Ng\u00e0y nay, l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i th\u1eeba nh\u1eadn, v\u00e0 lu\u1eadt ph\u00e1p b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7. H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh \u0111\u00e3 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c h\u1ee3p th\u1ee9c h\u00f3a v\u00e0 c\u00f4ng nh\u1eadn tr\u00ean 29 n\u01b0\u1edbc tr\u00ean th\u1ebf gi\u1edbi. [2]  <\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
      • L\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng s\u1edbm l\u00e0m chi cho kh\u1ed5. \u0110\u1ed9c th\u00e2n vui ch\u01a1i s\u01b0\u1edbng h\u01a1n, ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o th\u1ea5y ch\u00e1n r\u1ed3i l\u1ea5y ch\u1ed3ng c\u0169ng ch\u01b0a mu\u1ed9n.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n
        • Sinh con l\u00e0m g\u00ec cho c\u1ef1c. Con c\u00e1i th\u1eddi nay nu\u00f4i d\u1ea1y v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3 v\u00e0 qu\u00e1 t\u1ed1n k\u00e9m. C\u00f9ng l\u1eafm l\u00e0 \u0111\u1ebb m\u1ed9t ho\u1eb7c hai \u0111\u1ee9a. \u0110\u1ebb nhi\u1ec1u nu\u00f4i kh\u00f4ng n\u1ed5i, m\u00e0 d\u1ea1y d\u1ed7 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng g\u00ec.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n

          Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, v\u1ec1 ph\u00eda cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 ph\u1ee5 huynh l\u1ea1i th\u1ea5y b\u0103n kho\u0103n, lo l\u1eafng, v\u00e0 bu\u1ed3n b\u00e3. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi than th\u1edf r\u1eb1ng h\u1ecd ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1ee9a con trai duy nh\u1ea5t nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ecbu l\u1ea5y v\u1ee3, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u1ee9a con g\u00e1i c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd b\u1ed3 b\u1ecbch v\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng chung v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi con g\u00e1i kh\u00e1c. M\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng cha m\u1eb9, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t c\u00e1c b\u00e0 m\u1eb9 c\u1ee9 th\u1edf d\u00e0i v\u00e0 th\u00fac d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i mau l\u1eadp gia \u0111\u00ecnh, s\u1edbm sinh ch\u00e1u cho \u00f4ng b\u00e0 b\u1ebf\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          L\u1ea4Y AI? AI L\u1ea4Y?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          T\u1eeb nguy\u00ean th\u1ee7y, t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p c\u0103n b\u1ea3n gi\u1eefa m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef [3], c\u00f3 s\u1ee9 m\u1ea1ng l\u01b0u truy\u1ec1n n\u00f2i gi\u1ed1ng [4], b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb tinh th\u1ea7n qua vi\u1ec7c th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh hi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ea1o [5]. Nh\u01b0ng ng\u00e0y nay, n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh \u0111ang b\u1ecb chao \u0111\u1ea3o, ph\u00e1 h\u1ee7y t\u1eadn g\u1ed1c r\u1ec5. R\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb \u0111ang g\u1eb7p kh\u1ee7ng ho\u1ea3ng, nghi ng\u1edd v\u1ec1 n\u1ec1n t\u1ea3ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a n\u00f3.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

          M\u1ed9t trong nh\u1eefng l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn gi\u1edbi tr\u1ebb m\u1ea5t ni\u1ec1m tin v\u00e0o h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 can thi\u1ec7p th\u00f4 b\u1ea1o c\u1ee7a ph\u1ee5 huynh trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ecdn l\u1ef1a ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i. \u00cdt ph\u1ee5 huynh ngh\u0129 r\u1eb1ng do m\u00ecnh, do cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, gia \u0111\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00e3 \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng quy\u1ebft \u0111\u1ecbnh quan tr\u1ecdng trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          H\u00f4n nh\u00e2n l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c tr\u1ecdng \u0111\u1ea1i. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 l\u00fd do khi\u1ebfn r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 huynh \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ee3i d\u1ee5ng \u0111\u1ec3 c\u01b0\u1ee1ng b\u1ee9c con ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00ecnh ch\u1ecdn, mai m\u1ed1i h\u1ee3p \u00fd m\u00ecnh, h\u1ee3p nh\u00e3n c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, \u201cm\u00f4n \u0111\u0103ng h\u1ed9 \u0111\u1ed1i\u201d. K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 c\u00f3 nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eb7p v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u00e3 mi\u1ec5n c\u01b0\u1ee1ng l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 ch\u1ecdn cho \u0111\u1ec3 r\u1ed3i sau \u0111\u00f3 \u0111i \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1. Ho\u1eb7c c\u0169ng c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u00ec trung th\u00e0nh v\u1edbi m\u1ed1i t\u00ecnh \u0111\u1ea7u m\u00e0 \u1edf v\u1eady kh\u00f4ng bao gi\u1edd k\u1ebft h\u00f4n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          X\u00e9t v\u1ec1 ph\u01b0\u01a1ng di\u1ec7n t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o, nhi\u1ec1u ph\u1ee5 huynh \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn phi\u1ebfn di\u1ec7n, h\u1eb9p h\u00f2i, cu\u1ed3ng t\u00edn \u0111\u00f4i khi d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn ch\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed1i nh\u1eefng t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o kh\u00e1c. Ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi C\u00f4ng Gi\u00e1o m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u01b0\u1edbi. Ai mu\u1ed1n c\u01b0\u1edbi ho\u1eb7c l\u1ea5y con t\u00f4i ph\u1ea3i \u201ctheo C\u00f4ng Gi\u00e1o\u201d. Ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi theo Ph\u1eadt Gi\u00e1o m\u1edbi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ph\u00e9p l\u1ea5y nhau. Ph\u1ea3i l\u1ea5y ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed3ng \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ec3 c\u00f2n th\u1edd k\u00ednh t\u1ed5 ti\u00ean. Trong nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi y\u00eau nhau, chu\u1ea9n b\u1ecb h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, nh\u01b0ng g\u1eb7p ph\u1ea3i r\u00e0o c\u1ea3n t\u00f4n gi\u00e1o n\u00ean \u0111\u00e0nh ph\u1ea3i xa nhau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Ti\u1ebfp \u0111\u1ebfn l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn r\u1ea5t gi\u1edbi h\u1ea1n v\u1ec1 v\u0103n h\u00f3a, v\u00e0 quan ni\u1ec7m s\u1ed1ng. Gi\u1eefa hi\u1ebfu v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh. Nh\u01b0ng th\u1ebf n\u00e0o l\u00e0 hi\u1ebfu? Th\u1ebf n\u00e0o l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau? V\u00ec b\u00ean hi\u1ebfu b\u00ean t\u00ecnh m\u00e0 nhi\u1ec1u c\u1eb7p trai g\u00e1i \u0111\u00e3 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u1edbi nhau, ho\u1eb7c \u0111\u00f3ng k\u1ecbch \u0111\u1ea1o \u0111\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea5y nhau m\u00e0 k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 sau c\u00f9ng l\u00e0 ly d\u1ecb do s\u1ee9c \u00e9p hai b\u00ean gia \u0111\u00ecnh. M\u1ed9t s\u1ef1 hi\u1ec3u bi\u1ebft sai l\u1ea7m v\u00e0 c\u1eaft ch\u1ee7 quan v\u1ec1 ch\u1eef hi\u1ebfu v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ea1o hi\u1ebfu!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          V\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn chuy\u00ean m\u00f4n, theo th\u1ed1ng k\u00ea 47% con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng cha m\u1eb9 ly d\u1ecb \u0111\u1ed5 v\u1ee1 trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 huynh nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u c\u00f3 nguy c\u01a1 tr\u1edf th\u00e0nh nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u cao g\u1ea5p 4 l\u1ea7n so v\u1edbi con c\u00e1i c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng ph\u1ee5 huynh kh\u00f4ng nghi\u1ec7n r\u01b0\u1ee3u.[6] \u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 c\u0169ng \u0111\u1ec3 l\u1ea1i m\u1ed9t d\u1ea5u \u1ea5n tr\u00ean \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c, v\u00e0 quan ni\u1ec7m s\u1ed1ng c\u00f3 li\u00ean quan \u0111\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i sau n\u00e0y. Nh\u01b0ng theo nh\u1eefng nghi\u00ean c\u1ee9u cho bi\u1ebft, con s\u1ed1 n\u00e0y c\u0169ng ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p ngo\u1ea1i l\u1ec7. Ti\u1ebfn s\u0129 t\u00e2m l\u00fd h\u1ecdc ng\u01b0\u1eddi T\u00e2y Ban Nha, Enrique Rojas cho r\u1eb1ng 95% nguy\u00ean nh\u00e2n d\u1eabn t\u1edbi \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh l\u00e0 do c\u00e1c y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 c\u1ee7a m\u00f4i tr\u01b0\u1eddng gia \u0111\u00ecnh nh\u01b0 thi\u1ebfu v\u1eafng quan t\u00e2m c\u1ee7a cha, s\u1ef1 hung d\u1eef c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9, ho\u1eb7c b\u1ecb l\u1ea1m d\u1ee5ng t\u00ecnh d\u1ee5c trong l\u00fac c\u00f2n nh\u1ecf. [7] <\/p>\n\n\n\n

          H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N C\u1ee6A CHA M\u1eb8 V\u00c0 T\u01af\u01a0NG LAI H\u00d4N NH\u00c2N C\u1ee6A CON C\u00c1I<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

          \u1ea2nh h\u01b0\u1edfng gia \u0111\u00ecnh bao g\u1ed3m nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng giao gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 v\u00e0 con c\u00e1i, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, gi\u1eefa v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. Theo Freud, Enrique Rojas, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n cha m\u1eb9 s\u1ebd \u0111\u1ecbnh h\u00ecnh v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng ph\u00e1i t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i sau n\u00e0y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          Trong th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf, nhi\u1ec1u thi\u1ebfu n\u1eef \u0111\u00e3 c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u00e0 h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00ec ch\u1ee9ng ki\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng c\u00e1ch \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed thi\u1ebfu t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, thi\u1ebfu \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 nh\u00e2n v\u0103n c\u1ee7a cha h\u1ecd \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi m\u1eb9 h\u1ecd. Th\u00ed d\u1ee5, n\u1ebfp s\u1ed1ng gia tr\u01b0\u1edfng, v\u0169 phu, \u0111\u00e1nh v\u1ee3, kh\u00f4ng chia s\u1ebb tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1edbi v\u1ee3, b\u00ea tha v\u00e0 \u01b0\u01a1n l\u01b0\u1eddi, b\u1ecf b\u00ea v\u1ee3 con nheo nh\u00f3c, nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh \u2026 C\u0169ng t\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1, nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n nam kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n ngh\u0129 \u0111\u1ebfn y\u00eau \u0111\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 chuy\u1ec7n h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n khi th\u1ea5y c\u00e1ch th\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ed1i x\u1eed c\u1ee7a m\u1eb9 h\u1ecd v\u1edbi cha h\u1ecd. \u201c\u0110\u00e0n \u00f4ng x\u00e2y nh\u00e0, \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0 x\u00e2y t\u1ed5 \u1ea5m\u201d. Nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3 \u0111anh \u0111\u00e1, chua ngoa, cay nghi\u1ec7t, \u0103n qu\u00e0, ch\u01b0ng di\u1ec7n, l\u01b0\u1eddi bi\u1ebfng vi\u1ec7c nh\u00e0, thi\u1ebfu \u0111\u1ee9c h\u1ea1nh l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 l\u00e0m cho con trai m\u00ecnh s\u1ee3 \u0111\u00e0n b\u00e0, con g\u00e1i, s\u1ee3 kh\u00f4ng mu\u1ed1n l\u1ea5y v\u1ee3. \u0110\u00f3 l\u00e0 ch\u01b0a k\u1ec3 \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi than th\u1edf, nh\u1eefng b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n, nh\u1eefng tranh c\u00e3i, gi\u1eady h\u1eddn th\u01b0\u1eddng ng\u00e0y gi\u1eefa cha m\u1eb9 m\u00e0 con c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn th\u1ea5y, nghe th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng nh\u00e2n ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n b\u1ea5t h\u1ea1nh. Tr\u01b0\u1edbc m\u1eaft h\u1ecd, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u1ee5c t\u00f9, v\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n \u1ea5y l\u00e0 s\u1ed1ng trong h\u1ecfa ng\u1ee5c. V\u1edbi nh\u1eefng suy t\u01b0 \u1ea5y, c\u1ed9ng th\u00eam \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, xu h\u01b0\u1edbng th\u1eddi th\u1ebf s\u1ebd d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng khi\u1ebfn nhi\u1ec1u b\u1ea1n tr\u1ebb b\u1ecb thu h\u00fat v\u00e0o l\u1ed1i s\u1ed1ng \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh, bu\u00f4ng t\u00fang, coi th\u01b0\u1eddng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, coi th\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, v\u00e0 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          V\u1eady ph\u1ee5 huynh mu\u1ed1n g\u00ec n\u01a1i con c\u00e1i, v\u00e0 tr\u00f4ng mong g\u00ec \u1edf t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai con c\u00e1i trong vi\u1ec5n \u1ea3nh m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c k\u1ebft h\u1ee3p b\u1edfi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi nam v\u00e0 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u1eef? Trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau nhau, th\u1ee7y chung, t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng nhau, chia s\u1ebb v\u00e0 \u0111\u1ed3ng tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m, \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00e2m \u00fd trong vi\u1ec7c gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c con c\u00e1i? T\u1ed1t h\u01a1n h\u1ebft v\u1eabn l\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9, ph\u1ee5 huynh s\u1ed1ng v\u00e0 th\u1ef1c h\u00e0nh l\u1eddi d\u1ea1y: \u201cTh\u1ea7y \u0111\u00e3 l\u00e0m g\u01b0\u01a1ng \u0111\u1ec3 anh em noi theo m\u00e0 b\u1eaft ch\u01b0\u1edbc\u201d (Gioan 13:15).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Con c\u00e1i s\u1ebd theo g\u00f3t ch\u00e2n cha m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 trong l\u00e3nh v\u1ef1c ngh\u1ec1 nghi\u1ec7p, s\u1edf th\u00edch, ni\u1ec1m tin, nh\u01b0ng quan tr\u1ecdng l\u00e0 trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh v\u1edbi vai tr\u00f2, tr\u00e1ch nhi\u1ec7m ng\u01b0\u1eddi ch\u1ed3ng, ng\u01b0\u1eddi v\u1ee3, ng\u01b0\u1eddi cha, ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9. N\u1ebfu ch\u00fang c\u1ea3m nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 d\u00e0nh cho nhau, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a cha m\u1eb9 bao ph\u1ee7 \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng c\u00e1c con c\u00e1i, ch\u00fang c\u0169ng s\u1ebd \u0111i theo con \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng m\u00e0 cha m\u1eb9 ch\u00fang \u0111\u00e3 \u0111i. N\u1ebfu cha m\u1eb9 v\u00ec h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac gia \u0111\u00ecnh, v\u00ec t\u01b0\u01a1ng lai con c\u00e1i \u00fd th\u1ee9c v\u00e0 t\u1ef1 ki\u1ec1m ch\u1ebf c\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u00edch k\u1ef7 \u0111\u1ec3 dung h\u00f2a v\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng m\u1ed9t m\u00e1i \u1ea5m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac, th\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t g\u01b0\u01a1ng s\u00e1ng v\u00e0 kh\u00edch l\u1ec7 cho con c\u00e1i trong b\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n c\u1ee7a ch\u00fang. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

          Trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Hai ch\u1eef \u201cch\u00fang m\u00ecnh\u201d l\u00e0 di\u1ec5n t\u1ea3 \u00fd ngh\u0129a tr\u1ecdn v\u1eb9n c\u1ee7a h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n. D\u0129 nhi\u00ean, c\u0169ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi sinh ra v\u1edbi b\u1ea9m sinh mang s\u1eb5n nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 t\u00e2m sinh l\u00fd \u0111\u1ed3ng t\u00ednh. Trong tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p n\u00e0y, ph\u1ee5 huynh ph\u1ea3i t\u00f4n tr\u1ecdng, y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u00e0 n\u00e2ng \u0111\u1ee1. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

          TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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          7. Matthew Cullinan Hoffman. Eminent Psychiatrist Says Homosexuality is a Disorder that Can be Cured<\/em>. LifeSiteNews.com.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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