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Ch\u00fang ta th\u01b0\u1eddng nghe n\u00f3i: \u201cM\u1ed9t nh\u1ecbn ch\u00edn l\u00e0nh\u201d. C\u00e2u n\u00f3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng cho nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan x\u00e3 h\u1ed9i, b\u1ea1n h\u1eefu, h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n v\u00e0 gia \u0111\u00ecnh, \u0110\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, m\u1ed7i khi v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00f3 chuy\u1ec7n x\u00edch m\u00edch, b\u1ea5t h\u00f2a ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta th\u01b0\u1eddng khuy\u00ean: \u201cM\u1ed9t nh\u1ecbn ch\u00edn l\u00e0nh\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi nghe c\u00e2u n\u00f3i tr\u00ean \u0111\u1ec1u cho r\u1eb1ng \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u00e2u n\u00f3i nh\u1eb1m khuy\u00ean nh\u1ee7 v\u00e0 gi\u1ea3i h\u00f2a gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi trong khi c\u00e3i v\u00e3, hay trong l\u00fac n\u00f4ng n\u1ed5i, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu b\u00ecnh t\u00e2m suy ngh\u0129, ph\u00e2n t\u00edch s\u00e2u h\u01a1n, v\u00e0 nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp so s\u00e1nh k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a nh\u1eefng cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i, ch\u00fang ta m\u1edbi nh\u1eadn ra gi\u00e1 tr\u1ecb c\u1ee7a ch\u00e2n l\u00fd n\u00e0y.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn, b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, ghen t\u01b0\u01a1ng, h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch b\u1ed1c \u0111\u1ed3ng kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng bi\u1ec3u l\u1ed9 c\u00e1 t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. Ch\u00fang c\u00f2n l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng t\u00e2m l\u00fd b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n, v\u00e0 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng tr\u1ea1ng th\u00e1i li\u00ean quan v\u1edbi tr\u1ea7m c\u1ea3m. T\u00e2m l\u00fd tr\u1ecb li\u1ec7u xem \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng d\u1ea5u hi\u1ec7u c\u1ee7a h\u1ed9i ch\u1ee9ng t\u1ef1 ty, t\u1ef1 k\u1ef7 ho\u1eb7c t\u1ef1 t\u00f4n th\u00e1i qu\u00e1. C\u00e1i t\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi thi\u1ebfu tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh, kh\u00f4ng ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 l\u00fd tr\u00ed khi b\u1ecb t\u00e1c \u0111\u1ed9ng b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 b\u00ean ngo\u00e0i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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V\u00ec l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 ty n\u00ean h\u1ecd lu\u00f4n ngh\u0129 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c v\u1ec1 m\u00ecnh v\u00e0 v\u1ec1 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c. H\u1ecd thi\u1ebfu b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh, n\u00f4ng n\u1ed5i khi c\u1ea7n gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft m\u1ed9t v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 m\u00e0 h\u1ecd c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n, c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 th\u1eadt trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng. H\u1ecd r\u1ea5t nh\u1ea1y c\u1ea3m khi ai \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee5ng ch\u1ea1m \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u m\u00e0 h\u1ecd cho r\u1eb1ng nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m h\u1ecd tr\u1edf n\u00ean x\u1ea5u x\u00ed h\u01a1n, k\u00e9m duy\u00ean d\u00e1ng h\u01a1n, k\u00e9m th\u00f4ng minh h\u01a1n, thua thi\u1ec7t h\u01a1n. V\u00e0 v\u00ec l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 t\u00f4n th\u00e1i qu\u00e1, n\u00ean t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng c\u00e1i k\u00e9m c\u1ecfi kia \u0111\u1ec1u kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 c\u1ee7a h\u1ecd. Ch\u00fang l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c g\u00e1n gh\u00e9p cho h\u1ecd, \u0111em v\u00e0o cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng h\u1ecd. V\u00e0 h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 h\u1ecd ph\u1ea3i tranh c\u00e3i, ph\u1ea3i la l\u1ed1i, ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u1eadp ph\u00e1, ph\u1ea3i gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn, m\u1eb7c d\u00f9 tr\u00ean th\u1ef1c t\u1ebf l\u00fac \u0111\u00f3 h\u1ecd l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i, ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i xin l\u1ed7i. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ed1i v\u1edbi h\u1ecd, ch\u1ec9 c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c sai, c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i xin l\u1ed7i, c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i s\u1eeda l\u1ed7i, ri\u00eang h\u1ecd, h\u1ecd kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3i thua, kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 g\u00ec \u0111\u1ec3 ph\u1ea3i nh\u1ecbn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Trong \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, c\u00e1 t\u00ednh c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi mang nh\u1eefng t\u00e2m l\u00fd b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n tr\u00ean n\u1ebfu \u0111em \u00e1p d\u1ee5ng v\u00e0o t\u01b0\u01a1ng quan v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 n\u00e0o? Li\u1ec7u ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 t\u00ecm hi\u1ec3u xem c\u00e2u n\u00f3i c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi x\u01b0a c\u00f3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 khu\u00f4n v\u00e0ng, th\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u1ecdc \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac hay kh\u00f4ng? C\u00f3 \u00edt nh\u1ea5t 9 \u0111i\u1ec1u l\u00e0nh, \u0111i\u1ec1u t\u1ed1t, \u0111i\u1ec1u h\u1ee3p l\u00fd m\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 nh\u1eadn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c khi c\u1ea7n ph\u1ea3i nh\u1ecbn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1-Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ea7u:<\/strong> K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 \u0111\u1ea7u ti\u00ean c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi khi nh\u1ecbn nhau trong l\u00fac tranh c\u00e3i ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn. Th\u00f4ng th\u01b0\u1eddng, \u201cGi\u1eadn m\u1ea5t kh\u00f4n\u201d. Khi c\u00e3i nhau, ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta bao gi\u1edd c\u0169ng d\u1ec5 \u0111\u1ec3 cho t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m \u0111i\u1ec1u khi\u1ec3n, l\u1ea5n \u00e1t l\u00fd tr\u00ed. Ng\u00f4n ng\u1eef v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng m\u1ea5t ki\u1ec3m so\u00e1t. \u201cTr\u00e1nh voi kh\u00f4ng x\u1ea5u m\u1eb7t n\u00e0o\u201d, l\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng kh\u00f4n ngoan, ng\u0103n ng\u1eeba nh\u1eefng h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 x\u1ea5u c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 x\u1ea3y ra trong l\u00fac c\u1ea3 hai \u0111\u1ec1u n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y. Trong cu\u1ed9c c\u00e3i v\u00e0, ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1ecbn l\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi c\u00f3 s\u1ef1 b\u00ecnh an tr\u01b0\u1edbc nh\u1ea5t, nh\u1edd \u0111\u00f3 l\u00e0m ch\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c c\u01a1n n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn c\u1ee7a ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u1ed1i di\u1ec7n. Kh\u00f4ng nh\u1ee9c \u0111\u1ea7u \u0111\u00f4i co tranh c\u00e3i.     <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2-Kh\u00f4ng cao m\u00e1u:<\/strong> Theo kh\u1ea3o c\u1ee9u c\u1ee7a y khoa, khi b\u1ecb c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng th\u00ec tim \u0111\u1eadp m\u1ea1nh d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng cao m\u00e1u, cao \u00e1p huy\u1ebft. H\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 khi n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn m\u1eb7t m\u00e0y th\u01b0\u1eddng \u0111\u1ecf \u1eedng ho\u1eb7c x\u00e1m ng\u1eaft. Tim \u0111\u1eadp lo\u1ea1n nh\u1ecbp. Tay ch\u00e2n run r\u1ea9y. Mi\u1ec7ng \u1ea5p \u00fang. C\u00f3 nh\u1eefng tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p t\u1ee9c qu\u00e1 l\u0103n \u0111\u00f9ng ra ch\u1ebft. C\u00e1i ch\u1ebft do b\u1ecb nh\u1ed3i m\u00e1u c\u01a1 tim v\u00ec t\u0103ng \u00e1p huy\u1ebft.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3-Kh\u00f4ng l\u1edf lo\u00e9t d\u1ea1 d\u1ea7y:<\/strong> C\u0169ng theo nh\u1eefng k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a khoa h\u1ecdc, n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y, b\u1ef1c t\u1ee9c, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn th\u01b0\u1eddng \u1ea3nh h\u01b0\u1edfng \u0111\u1ebfn h\u1ec7 th\u1ed1ng ti\u00eau h\u00f3a, b\u00e0i ti\u1ebft. C\u00e1c ch\u1ea5t c\u01b0\u1eddng toan trong d\u1ea1 d\u00e0y ti\u1ebft ra, v\u00e0 d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn tri\u1ec7u ch\u1ee9ng \u1ee3 chua, ho, kh\u00f3 ti\u00eau h\u00f3a, ho\u1eb7c l\u1edf lo\u00e9t d\u1ea1 d\u1ea7y.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4-Ng\u1ee7 ngon h\u01a1n:<\/strong> \u201c\u0102n \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c, ng\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u00e0 ti\u00ean\u201d. Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1ea5t \u0103n, m\u1ea5t ng\u1ee7 sau nh\u1eefng l\u1ea7n tranh lu\u1eadn, c\u00e3i v\u00e3. Tr\u1eb1n tr\u1ecdc kh\u00f4ng ng\u1ee7 \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c v\u00ec t\u1ee9c, v\u00ec \u1ee9c, v\u00ec suy ngh\u0129 c\u00e1ch tr\u1ea3 th\u00f9 ho\u1eb7c gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn. T\u00e2m h\u1ed3n b\u1ea5t an s\u1ebd l\u00e0m cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta \u0103n kh\u00f4ng ngon, ng\u1ee7 kh\u00f4ng y\u00ean, tinh th\u1ea7n tr\u1edf n\u00ean b\u1ea1c nh\u01b0\u1ee3c. M\u1ea5t ng\u1ee7 th\u01b0\u1eddng xuy\u00ean c\u00f2n d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn m\u1ea5t tr\u00ed nh\u1edb.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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5-B\u00ecnh an trong t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n:<\/strong> \u201cCh\u00ednh khi th\u1ee9 tha l\u00e0 khi \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c tha th\u1ee9\u201d. C\u00f3 ai kh\u00f4n m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng d\u1ea1i bao l\u1ea7n. N\u1ebfu c\u1ee9 kh\u01b0 kh\u01b0 cho r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh \u0111\u00fang, m\u00ecnh ph\u1ea3i, m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng tha th\u1ee9 cho ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c, t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n ta s\u1ebd tr\u1edf n\u00ean \u00edch k\u1ef7, h\u1eb9p h\u00f2i, \u0111\u00f4i l\u00fac v\u00f4 c\u1ea3m. \u0110\u00f3 c\u0169ng l\u00e0 l\u00fd do d\u1eabn \u0111\u1ebfn t\u00ecnh tr\u1ea1ng b\u1ea5t an trong cu\u1ed9c s\u1ed1ng.    <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6-\u0110\u1ed5i m\u1edbi c\u00e1i nh\u00ecn v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau:<\/strong> \u201cSau c\u01a1n m\u01b0a, tr\u1eddi l\u1ea1i s\u00e1ng\u201d. Nh\u1eefng l\u1ea7n v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng c\u00e3i v\u00e3, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn, n\u1ebfu bi\u1ebft h\u00f2a ho\u00e3n, ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn v\u00e0 tha th\u1ee9 s\u1ebd l\u00e0 th\u1eddi gian h\u00f2a b\u00ecnh, h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac.   V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 d\u1ecbp ng\u1ed3i l\u1ea1i \u0111\u1ec3 ki\u1ec3m \u0111i\u1ec3m, \u0111\u1ec3 nh\u00ecn l\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a nhau, kh\u00e1m ph\u00e1 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec3m \u0111\u00e1ng y\u00eau, \u0111\u00e1ng m\u1ebfn c\u1ee7a nhau v\u00e0 c\u00f9ng nhau th\u0103ng hoa t\u00ecnh y\u00eau.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

7-V\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng b\u1edbt c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng:<\/strong> V\u00e0 nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t k\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 t\u1ea5t y\u1ebfu, v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng khi tha th\u1ee9, nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c nhau s\u1ebd c\u00f3 c\u01a1 h\u1ed9i l\u00e0m h\u00f2a, gi\u1ea3m b\u1edbt c\u0103ng th\u1eb3ng. Tha th\u1ee9, nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c kh\u00f4ng ch\u1ea5m d\u1ee9t tranh c\u00e3i, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn, nh\u01b0ng n\u00f3 l\u00e0m gi\u1ea3m thi\u1ec3u, v\u00e0 nh\u1eb9 nh\u00e0ng cho v\u1ea5n \u0111\u1ec1 gi\u1ea3i quy\u1ebft n\u1ebfu khi tranh c\u00e3i x\u1ea3y ra.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8-Con c\u00e1i b\u1edbt ho\u1ea3ng s\u1ee3:<\/strong> Trong t\u00e2m l\u00fd gi\u00e1o d\u1ee5c, \u0111a s\u1ed1 c\u00e1c em, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t, v\u1ecb th\u00e0nh ni\u00ean mu\u1ed1n b\u1ecf nh\u00e0, mu\u1ed1n \u0111i hoang v\u00ec cha m\u1eb9 c\u00e3i v\u00e3, v\u00ec cha m\u1eb9 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n nh\u1eefng c\u1eed ch\u1ec9 v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng th\u01b0\u01a1ng y\u00eau nhau. Cha m\u1eb9 tranh c\u00e3i, gi\u1eadn h\u1eddn t\u1ea1o cho con c\u00e1i khi c\u00f2n nh\u1ecf c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c ho\u1ea3ng s\u1ee3, khi ch\u00fang l\u1edbn, ch\u00fang c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y ng\u1ed9t ng\u1ea1t, b\u1ea5t m\u00e3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

9-H\u00f2a kh\u00ed gia \u0111\u00ecnh:<\/strong> K\u1ebft qu\u1ea3 c\u1ee7a s\u1ef1 tha th\u1ee9, nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c l\u00e0 h\u00f2a kh\u00ed gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Gia \u0111\u00ecnh l\u00e0 t\u1ed5 \u1ea5m, l\u00e0 n\u01a1i m\u00e0 m\u1ed7i khi \u0111i xa ta mu\u1ed1n v\u1ec1. Ho\u1eb7c m\u1ed7i khi l\u1ea7m l\u1eabn b\u01b0\u1edbc ra kh\u1ecfi, ta h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn v\u00e0 t\u00ecm \u0111\u01b0\u1eddng quay tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u01b0ng s\u1ebd c\u00f3 ng\u01b0\u1eddi cho r\u1eb1ng n\u1ebfu m\u00ecnh c\u1ee9 nh\u01b0\u1eddng nh\u1ecbn nh\u01b0 v\u1eady ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia s\u1ebd l\u1ea5n l\u01b0\u1edbt v\u00e0 coi th\u01b0\u1eddng, s\u1ebd l\u00e0m t\u1edbi. Th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 l\u00e0 suy lu\u1eadn nh\u1eb1m b\u1ea3o v\u1ec7 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u1ee7a m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi. S\u1ee3 m\u1ea5t m\u1eb7t. S\u1ee3 thua thi\u1ec7t. S\u1ee3 b\u1ecb coi th\u01b0\u1eddng. Nh\u01b0ng kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i th\u1ebf, trong nhi\u1ec1u tr\u01b0\u1eddng h\u1ee3p, m\u00e0 c\u0169ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 l\u00e0 kinh nghi\u1ec7m c\u1ee7a ch\u00ednh b\u1ea3n th\u00e2n m\u1ed7i ng\u01b0\u1eddi, trong khi n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y ch\u00fang ta qu\u00e1t m\u1eafng, la l\u1ed1i ch\u1ed3ng, v\u1ee3, con, ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00e2n trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu th\u1ea5y nh\u1eefng ng\u01b0\u1eddi n\u00e0y im l\u1eb7ng, b\u00ecnh t\u0129nh tr\u01b0\u1edbc c\u01a1n n\u00f3ng gi\u1eadn c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh, nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e3 th\u1ea5y x\u1ea5u h\u1ed5, r\u1ed3i t\u1ef1 im l\u1eb7ng, hay \u00e2m th\u1ea7m b\u1ecf \u0111i. V\u00ec n\u1ebfu ta n\u00f3ng n\u1ea3y la l\u1ed1i, kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu v\u1edbi m\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 im l\u1eb7ng th\u00ec t\u1ef1 m\u00ecnh, ta ph\u1ea3i hi\u1ec3u r\u1eb1ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 b\u1ea5t \u1ed5n \u0111ang x\u1ea3y ra gi\u1eefa hai ng\u01b0\u1eddi. T\u1ea1i sao ng\u01b0\u1eddi kia l\u1ea1i im l\u1eb7ng. Ph\u1ea3i ch\u0103ng h\u1ecd thua hay h\u1ecd s\u1ee3 ta? Hay v\u00ec ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 can \u0111\u1ea3m ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn ph\u1ea7n thi\u1ec7t cho h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac l\u1edbn h\u01a1n c\u1ee7a gia \u0111\u00ecnh, c\u1ee7a con c\u00e1i\u2026\u201cM\u1ed9t gi\u1ecdt m\u1eadt b\u1eaft \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c nhi\u1ec1u ru\u1ed3i h\u01a1n m\u1ed9t b\u00e1t gi\u1ea5m\u201d. C\u00f2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi Vi\u1ec7t m\u00ecnh th\u00ec n\u00f3i: \u201cM\u1ed9t nh\u1ecbn ch\u00edn l\u00e0nh\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c \u0111\u00fang nh\u1ea5t kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 nhu nh\u01b0\u1ee3c ho\u1eb7c khi\u1ebfp s\u1ee3. T\u00f4i nh\u1ecbn anh, t\u00f4i nh\u01b0\u1eddng em kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ngh\u0129a l\u00e0 t\u00f4i thua anh hay s\u1ee3 em. Ch\u1eebng n\u00e0o h\u00f2a thu\u1eadn tr\u1edf l\u1ea1i, ta ph\u1ea3i bi\u1ebft d\u00f9ng l\u1eddi t\u1eeb t\u1ed1n \u0111\u1ec3 chinh ph\u1ee5c \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng: \u201cH\u00f4m n\u1ecd anh n\u00f3i nh\u1eefng l\u1eddi \u0111\u00f3 v\u1edbi em nh\u01b0 v\u1eady anh th\u1ea5y c\u00f3 \u0111\u00fang kh\u00f4ng?\u201d Ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 tr\u1ecdng v\u00e0 th\u00e0nh th\u1eadt y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ee3 con s\u1ebd t\u1ef1 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 l\u1ed7i, v\u00e0 tuy kh\u00f4ng xin l\u1ed7i v\u00ec \u201cm\u1eb7t m\u0169i\u201d, nh\u01b0ng ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn trong t\u00e2m h\u1ed3n c\u0169ng c\u00f3 m\u1ed9t ch\u00fat h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

M\u1ed9t c\u00e1ch t\u00edch c\u1ef1c h\u01a1n, nh\u1ecbn nh\u1ee5c ph\u1ea3i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng tr\u00ean \u0111\u1eddi s\u1ed1ng chung, l\u1ea5y h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau c\u1ee7a nhau l\u00e0m c\u0103n b\u1ea3n. Th\u1eed h\u1ecfi, sau m\u1ed9t tr\u1eadn tranh c\u00e3i, \u1ea9u \u0111\u1ea3 ta \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c g\u00ec v\u00e0 m\u1ea5t g\u00ec? Bi\u1ebft t\u1ef1 h\u1ecfi m\u00ecnh c\u00e2u h\u1ecfi nh\u01b0 v\u1eady, ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd bi\u1ebft k\u00ecm h\u00e3m l\u1eddi \u0103n ti\u1ebfng n\u00f3i, v\u00e0 h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

C\u00e1i m\u00e0 ng\u01b0\u1eddi t\u1ef1 \u00e1i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c sau m\u1ed9t cu\u1ed9c tranh c\u00e3i l\u00e0 c\u00e1i t\u00f4i. T\u00f4i th\u1ea5y m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 gi\u00e1. T\u00f4i th\u1ea5y t\u00f4i \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c ng\u01b0\u1eddi kh\u00e1c s\u1ee3 h\u00e3i. T\u00f4i th\u1ea5y th\u1ecfa m\u00e3n v\u00ec t\u00f4i c\u00f3 l\u00fd. Nh\u01b0ng nh\u1eefng th\u1ee9 \u0111\u00f3 l\u1ea1i kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 nh\u1eefng y\u1ebfu t\u1ed1 \u0111em l\u1ea1i h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac l\u1ee9a \u0111\u00f4i, kh\u00f4ng b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u1ee3 ch\u1ed3ng, cha con, anh ch\u1ecb em trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh. Ng\u01b0\u1ee3c l\u1ea1i, nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u \u0111\u00f3 ch\u1ec9 \u0111em l\u1ea1i cho c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u1eafng nh\u1eefng g\u00ec \u0111\u1eafng \u0111\u00f3t, h\u1ed1i h\u1eadn. Nh\u01b0 m\u1ed9t h\u1eadu qu\u1ea3 ti\u00eau c\u1ef1c, n\u00f3 l\u00e0m cho t\u00ecnh c\u1ea3m v\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau b\u1ecb s\u1ee9t m\u1ebb, nhi\u1ec1u khi \u0111\u01b0a \u0111\u1ebfn tan v\u1ee1 m\u1ed9t gia \u0111\u00ecnh. V\u00e0 \u0111\u00e2y l\u00e0 s\u1ef1 thua thi\u1ec7t r\u1ea5t l\u1edbn. C\u00f3 khi ph\u1ea3i m\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 tu\u1ea7n, c\u1ea3 th\u00e1ng ho\u1eb7c c\u1ea3 n\u0103m m\u1edbi h\u00e0n g\u1eafn \u0111\u01b0\u1ee3c. T\u00f3m l\u1ea1i, \u0111\u1ec3 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng v\u00e0 b\u1ea3o \u0111\u1ea3m h\u1ea1nh ph\u00fac h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n, duy tr\u00ec nh\u1eefng m\u1ed1i quan h\u1ec7 t\u1ed1t trong gia \u0111\u00ecnh, c\u00e2u n\u00f3i: \u201cM\u1ed9t nh\u1ecbn ch\u00edn l\u00e0nh\u201d lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 khu\u00f4n v\u00e0ng th\u01b0\u1edbc ng\u1ecdc.      <\/p>\n\n\n\n

TS Tr\u1ea7n M\u1ef9 Duy\u1ec7t<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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